Irritating BS your SO does

[English Muffin 59]

Is it random humming or does he hum tunes?

[elmcitymaven 9,712]

You have got to be kidding me...she would have had to waive her right to the cooling off period? She didn't mention that, she only said California has no cooling off period. What a bloody stupid thing to do.

Yes, you have to sign a piece of paper (I think it was dark yellow) that waives the right. She would have had to have chosen to waive it, and it only adds a couple hundred bucks onto the price of a car like a Boxster. They tried to get my husband to sign one but he said no. He really, really regretted that. In the end, when we sold it on, we only lost $500 on the transaction. Part of me wishes we had kept it, because I fancy myself in one of those now.

[elmcitymaven 9,712]

Besides the increasing loudness of hubby's snoring.. he Hum's when he eats, when I call him out on it I say you hid that before we got married, he laughs and says well yeah of course you'd think I'm nuts..

yes dear, I know were both bonkers but a heads up on humming whilst you eat would have been nice so I don't get freaked out the first time you do it infront of me, or seeing as you have the ability to not hum please go back to not doing so. Not sure why it irritates me but it does. just not normal lol

When I first was going out with my husband, he used to mouth the words of what I was saying immediately (like a second) after I said them. So weird! He had no idea he was doing this, and was totally puzzled by it. It took a while for me to beat it out of him. It wasn't until some time later that I realised where he picked it up -- his mother is partially deaf and she does the same exact thing because she is lipreading. I am pleased to report that he hasn't done this since 2007.

[The_Dude 1,142]

Sorry to invade your thread here, but this is pure comedy.

Regarding the cooldown period waiver, I remember not signing it because it really wasn't that much. Is it a negotiated amount, or is it a standard fee?

[elmcitymaven 9,712]

It's a set amount based on the value of the car. The Corvette was $4000 so it was $75. More info on this here, about halfway down the page, under California Car Buyer's Bill of Rights.

[JulianMelissa 52]

Yes, you have to sign a piece of paper (I think it was dark yellow) that waives the right. She would have had to have chosen to waive it, and it only adds a couple hundred bucks onto the price of a car like a Boxster. They tried to get my husband to sign one but he said no. He really, really regretted that. In the end, when we sold it on, we only lost $500 on the transaction. Part of me wishes we had kept it, because I fancy myself in one of those now.

Well I'm speechless, and even more livid. A few hundred dollars isn't even a drop in the bucket compared to what she--I--overpaid for a car that she's too afraid to even drive, and what we're going to lose on it when we trade it for something sensible. I can see why she lied about it, I'll have to talk more about this to her tomorrow. Thank you for the information, elmcitymaven.

Anyway...humming while eating. That's a new one on me.

Edited May 5, 2010 by JulianMelissa

[Rob and Jill 82]

Two things to this thread, I KNOW it is a lighthearted thread, so please don't get angry with me for being a little more serious with this question:

1) My ex-husband was such a complete and total jerk to me for so many years, I don't think much of anything Rob could do would ever compare.

2) Rob and I have a mutual friend named Scott. We've known Scott for over 4 years. Scott and I talk on a pretty regular basis, as he is a wonderful person and a great friend. He's been married the entire time I've known him, and has two precious children with his wife. Aside from the fact that they are both completely wonderful people, the thing I adore most about Scott is this:

In four + years, not once, not ever have I heard him say a single bad thing about his wife. Not once. He never has anything but positive things to say about her. He found his dream woman, and they are living a dream together.

I've spent time watching the relationships of others around me, and I have to tell you, Scott has one of the best I have ever seen and I generally think it is a mutual respect they have for each other. They don't pick at each other, degrade each other, or try and "fix" each other. I HATE watching it when people are mean to each other.

Sometimes the little things are the things that end up breaking up marriages. Don't waste precious moments together in your lives arguing over silly things or trying to change one another.

I am going to add the Optomists Creed in here, and underline a line of it I have had to chant over and over to myself on occassion.

I promise myself

To be so strong that nothing can disturb my peace of mind.

To talk health, happiness, and prosperity to every person I meet.

To make all my friends feel that there is something worthwhile in them.

To look at the sunny side of everything and make my optimism come true.

To think only of the best, to work only for the best, and to expect only the best.

To be just as enthusiastic about the success of others as I am about my own.

To forget the mistakes of the past and press on to the greater achievements of the future.

To wear a cheerful expression at all times and give a smile to every living creature I meet.

To give so much time to improving myself that I have no time to criticize others.

To be too large for worry, too noble for anger, too strong for fear, and too happy to permit the presence of trouble.

To think well of myself and to proclaim this fact to the world, not in loud word, but in great deeds.

To live in the faith that the whole world is on my side, so long as I am true to the best that is in me.

- Christian D. Larson

Edited May 5, 2010 by Rob and Jill

[English Muffin 59]

Jeez, lighten up!

[elmcitymaven 9,712]

I personally feel like we all have ways of peeling the onion that is a marriage (howzat for a cr@ppy metaphor?). I think it's great that some are able to only say and think positive things about their partners, and occasionally I wish I could. Alas, my mind refuses to run that way. I love my husband, in spite of and occasionally because of his less-than-angelic behaviour. I call him out on things that he says and does that I think need it, but he does the same to me. Most of the little stuff I just gloss over, but sometimes they squirm out of the box I hide them in et voila, this thread.

[Justine+David 218]

Yes, we will probably do this after I arrive. Unfortunately I expect to lose a ton of money on the deal. She practically paid 2010 prices for a 4 year-old car. I'm certainly not going to trust her to try to resell the car by herself, she'd probably show up to the airport on a Vespa.

No, I don't accept that it's part of married life, or 'engaged life' in our case. She had one job: buy the car we both decided on. She completely failed. Honestly I just can't imagine what she was thinking, if she was even thinking at all. You're quite right, the role of 'major purchaser' will be filled by more capable hands.

I don't know your fiancee or her car experience, but those car people are sharks! It's extremely intimidating and they sit you down and talk to you about why you absolutely need this or that...I wouldn't get too mad at her but rather use it as a learning experience with her. It does not bode well for marriage if you are the only financial decision-maker in the family--it's a partnership after all. I know you can't do anything about it now, but the next time you guys buy a car (this time together), why not take her along to show her the ropes? I bought my first car as a 24-year-old a few months ago and spent a couple of months learning about car dealer "tricks" and in the end, I still got hoodwinked into buying a car protection plan.

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I've noticed that British waiters are not nice at all usually! or at least my experience of them in Sheffield and London. We asked to try some wines one time and the waitress made it sound like it was the biggest deal in the world...and I'm like, "hey! we're the ones paying YOU!" Plus nobody hardly smiled or greeted us...the one good experience I had was in a Italian restaurant with the waiter who was obviously Italian. David says to get over it, that's how the Brits are...but he does like how all the shopkeepers here in the U.S. smile and say hello to everyone and ask how their day is going. David also doesn't like it when I tip said waitresses...lol. I tell him that he shouldn't be annoyed because I'm leaving them a small tip to show my indignation. Of course I'm sure it's the opposite since they usually don't get tips at all, as I understand...

One time to a particularly unfriendly waitress, I left all my 2p and 1p coins...

[DisneyLovers 18]

Is it random humming or does he hum tunes?

just random humming in time with chewing lol

And I know my untidiness of my painting area irks my hubby.. there's paint bottles dotted around the table, tubs of clay and sculpey, paintbrushes galore whilst I'm working on commissions. We both have our flaws and if we only saw perfection in eachother I think we'd be fooling ourselves. Nobody is perfect.. Life would be odd if we were.

“We are all a little weird and life's a little weird, and when we find someone whose weirdness is compatible with ours, we join up with them and fall in mutual weirdness and call it love.”

One time to a particularly unfriendly waitress, I left all my 2p and 1p coins...

Ok.. I'll admit I do that for buffet style places, or anywhere that decides to put the tip onto our bill for us, they get my pennies.. well cents now

Edited May 5, 2010 by DisneyLovers

[treehugger 23]

“We are all a little weird and life's a little weird, and when we find someone whose weirdness is compatible with ours, we join up with them and fall in mutual weirdness and call it love.”

Awww, I quite like that!!

[Jewel-8 21]

One time to a particularly unfriendly waitress, I left all my 2p and 1p coins...

Too funny!!

Since I'm getting the feeling that a couple people are thinking this thread is too much about partner bashing, I want to share a difference that surprised me about getting with a Brit: their relationship transitions. I was NOT interested in getting together with my online music buddy turned roadtrip buddy. Even if I was, I meant to keep it light.

I have never moved into a committed relationship so fast, but it seems the British can become committed much easier than Americans. Maybe less games or higher expectations? I kept saying things like, "ok, yeah, we kind of are seeing each other BUT you can see whoever you want. I'm not going to demand you be with just me this soon" and he was just SHOCKED that I wasn't wanting to be committed from the beginning.

I had spent the 2 years before just dating lots of different people. Sometimes I'd think I'd transition to serious with someone, but one or both of us would be seeing other people. Even when I was staying in Sweden people took dating a lot more serious. Dating in the US just seems more casual though maybe it's just me.

Either way, it was a pleasant surprise and I'm glad I ended up with him.

[Rebecca Jo 1,962]

Come one, come all, whether you're the UK or US side of the relationship, whether you're married or still just engaged, whether you're over in the US yet or not. Vent!

Here's mine: My husband appears to be to the right of the Tea Party on all things immigration; while I support immigration reform and definitely not amnesty, I am probably a little more liberal. We actually agree on a lot of the same issues but he is spouting off about liberal this and liberal that and why doesn't this country have any political party that is palatable? I feel like I might have married Stalin.

[Rebecca Jo 1,962]

Is it random humming or does he hum tunes?