Irritating BS your SO does

[elmcitymaven 9,712]

Come one, come all, whether you're the UK or US side of the relationship, whether you're married or still just engaged, whether you're over in the US yet or not. Vent!

Here's mine: My husband appears to be to the right of the Tea Party on all things immigration; while I support immigration reform and definitely not amnesty, I am probably a little more liberal. We actually agree on a lot of the same issues but he is spouting off about liberal this and liberal that and why doesn't this country have any political party that is palatable? I feel like I might have married Stalin.

[Jewel-8 21]

Come one, come all, whether you're the UK or US side of the relationship, whether you're married or still just engaged, whether you're over in the US yet or not. Vent!

Here's mine: My husband appears to be to the right of the Tea Party on all things immigration; while I support immigration reform and definitely not amnesty, I am probably a little more liberal. We actually agree on a lot of the same issues but he is spouting off about liberal this and liberal that and why doesn't this country have any political party that is palatable? I feel like I might have married Stalin.

He gets mad that I'm such a picky eater. I will send food back in restaurants if it's not how I ordered it. He insists that noone in the UK would EVER do that.

He also doesn't get why I put sheets on the bed. The beds we slept on in the UK didn't have a top sheet, just a bottom sheet and a comforter in a duvet. The hotel one might have, but that was only one night and I can't remember. He will take the comforter and sleep without any sheets between he and it. The comforters I own all have to be taken to the laundromat and put in the superhuge washers to be washed.

Also, after finally being married and living together 2.5 months he admitted I talk too fast for him to understand sometimes. He hasn't mentioned it before.

There's lots. It's part of marriage. I'm still adjusting to having someone there ALL THE TIME. It will be cool when he's finally got the EAD or GC and can work.

Edited May 5, 2010 by Jewel-8

[elmcitymaven 9,712]

He gets mad that I'm such a picky eater. I will send food back in restaurants if it's not how I ordered it. He insists that noone in the UK would EVER do that.

This. I hardly ever do it, but when I do have to make a request to a server beyond ordering or the bill, much eye-rolling ensues. I lived in the UK for well over a decade and learned not to do it there, but dagnabit I'm back in the Free World and if I want to ask for my burger to be done the way I ordered it, I will!

[Jewel-8 21]

This. I hardly ever do it, but when I do have to make a request to a server beyond ordering or the bill, much eye-rolling ensues. I lived in the UK for well over a decade and learned not to do it there, but dagnabit I'm back in the Free World and if I want to ask for my burger to be done the way I ordered it, I will!

OK! Another reason he doesn't want us to live in the UK then. I have been told that I am 'such a b!tch sometimes' after I've embarassed HIM at Applebee's. That's why they are called servers here. I've been one too, it just made me more picky.

[treehugger 23]

Come one, come all, whether you're the UK or US side of the relationship, whether you're married or still just engaged, whether you're over in the US yet or not. Vent!

Oh dear, don't get me started! I thought I was quite realistic about marriage being hard work - but I didn't think it was quite this hard!! But yeah, we're still adjusting...I suppose one thing is that he's much more laid back than I am, says that's his Californian charm

Jewel-8, yeah we (in the UK) don't use sheets between the fitted sheet and the duvet - but then again our duvets have covers and that's what's washed along with the other bedlinen.

Edited May 5, 2010 by treehugger

[Deb+Steve 13]

Just a note on sending food back: I would just never do it. Don't know what they be seasoning that meal with before they brought it back out ...

[JulianMelissa 52]

Well, this posting is perfect timing for a perfectly bolloxed day. My American fiancée drives (well, drove) an absolutely horrid Nissan Sentra, a late 90s model. Anyway, the paint is ruined, the boot sticks half the time when you use the remote, the aircon is a joke, and the interior is faded. Mechanically it seems fine, but quite frankly the thought of starting a new life with this car as our main mode of transportation horrifies me. 'Welcome to America dear, your death chariot awaits!'

Long story short is that I wired her some money to buy a new car. We both agreed on a 2010 Mercedes GLK350. She went to the dealer and let them talk her into buying a 4 year-old Porsche Boxter. The car has over fifteen thousand miles, and for a few thousand more she could have bought a brand new one. They really saw her coming. I tried to get her to return the car, but they won't take it back. Apparently California doesn't have a 'cooldown' law.

I am absolutely gobsmacked. I can almost forgive the dealership, because as we all know, they're all snakes. But she should have known better. Why couldn't she just do what we agreed to do, and why a bloody sports car? Now we're stuck with it, and to add insult to injury she now says she's afraid to even drive the car because it has too much power. I don't know, it just seems like a terribly wrong foot to start this journey off on.

[VanessaTony 3,567]

Well, this posting is perfect timing for a perfectly bolloxed day. My American fiancée drives (well, drove) an absolutely horrid Nissan Sentra, a late 90s model. Anyway, the paint is ruined, the boot sticks half the time when you use the remote, the aircon is a joke, and the interior is faded. Mechanically it seems fine, but quite frankly the thought of starting a new life with this car as our main mode of transportation horrifies me. 'Welcome to America dear, your death chariot awaits!'

Long story short is that I wired her some money to buy a new car. We both agreed on a 2010 Mercedes GLK350. She went to the dealer and let them talk her into buying a 4 year-old Porsche Boxter. The car has over fifteen thousand miles, and for a few thousand more she could have bought a brand new one. They really saw her coming. I tried to get her to return the car, but they won't take it back. Apparently California doesn't have a 'cooldown' law.

I am absolutely gobsmacked. I can almost forgive the dealership, because as we all know, they're all snakes. But she should have known better. Why couldn't she just do what we agreed to do, and why a bloody sports car? Now we're stuck with it, and to add insult to injury she now says she's afraid to even drive the car because it has too much power. I don't know, it just seems like a terribly wrong foot to start this journey off on.

I would on-sell the vehicle when YOU get there and then YOU should buy the new car. My sister must be the same as your fiance, she has "gullible" written all over her.

[Jewel-8 21]

I am absolutely gobsmacked. I can almost forgive the dealership, because as we all know, they're all snakes. But she should have known better. Why couldn't she just do what we agreed to do, and why a bloody sports car? Now we're stuck with it, and to add insult to injury she now says she's afraid to even drive the car because it has too much power. I don't know, it just seems like a terribly wrong foot to start this journey off on.

Yeah, that would be a problem..

Luckily for us my husband and I are both not too bothered with driving ####### cars. Which is good because I've had two car accidents in the less than 3 months he's been here. One was sliding out in a rain storm and doing $4k in damage to the SUV. The second was pulling over in a parking lot to wipe snow off the lights of the 1999 beat-to-####### Toyota. While I was clearing it, someone that had failed to clean their own windows reversed into the car despite my yelling and my husband (who was following me and thus waiting in the other vehicle 30 feet away) honking the horn of SUV.

Poor guy.. we're watching our pennies and I've managed to cause even more financial strain. Part of married life I guess.

[Jewel-8 21]

I would on-sell the vehicle when YOU get there and then YOU should buy the new car. My sister must be the same as your fiance, she has "gullible" written all over her.

Can't she cancel the check or wire?

At least now you both know who will handle the major purchases.

[JulianMelissa 52]

I would on-sell the vehicle when YOU get there and then YOU should buy the new car. My sister must be the same as your fiance, she has "gullible" written all over her.

Yes, we will probably do this after I arrive. Unfortunately I expect to lose a ton of money on the deal. She practically paid 2010 prices for a 4 year-old car. I'm certainly not going to trust her to try to resell the car by herself, she'd probably show up to the airport on a Vespa.

Poor guy.. we're watching our pennies and I've managed to cause even more financial strain. Part of married life I guess.

No, I don't accept that it's part of married life, or 'engaged life' in our case. She had one job: buy the car we both decided on. She completely failed. Honestly I just can't imagine what she was thinking, if she was even thinking at all. You're quite right, the role of 'major purchaser' will be filled by more capable hands.

[elmcitymaven 9,712]

As someone who is married to someone who bought a used car (1984 Corvette) in California and had buyer's remorse only 6 hours later (and before we collected the car) I can tell you that if you waive the right to a two-day cooling off period to save a few bucks, you are stuffed. Sorry to hear that, Julian. On the bright side, it is still a pretty fun car! I wouldn't be kicking one of those out of my garage.

I also would like the predicament of being able to purchase a 2010 vehicle outright.

So glad to know you consider yourself "more capable hands" -- although perhaps the most capable thing of all would have been to wait to arrive to arrange such a major purchase?

Edited May 5, 2010 by elmcitymaven

[VanessaTony 3,567]

Yes, we will probably do this after I arrive. Unfortunately I expect to lose a ton of money on the deal. She practically paid 2010 prices for a 4 year-old car. I'm certainly not going to trust her to try to resell the car by herself, she'd probably show up to the airport on a Vespa.

No, I don't accept that it's part of married life, or 'engaged life' in our case. She had one job: buy the car we both decided on. She completely failed. Honestly I just can't imagine what she was thinking, if she was even thinking at all. You're quite right, the role of 'major purchaser' will be filled by more capable hands.

I'm with you. I simply cannot imagine having a lengthy discussion about something so expensive, having what we want in mind and then having the dealer change my mind without discussing it with my spouse, or future spouse or anyone who gave me that much money really :S.

If I THOUGHT it was a good deal I would have called my spouse, and asked his opinion. If he was sleeping or at work (damn time difference) I would have asked for the car details, taken a pic and emailed him and waited till he responded BEFORE making the purchase. I think even if it was my money, I would have asked my spouses opinion so he wasn't disappointed when he arrived

As for Vespa...

So glad to know you consider yourself "more capable hands" -- although perhaps the most capable thing of all would have been to wait to arrive to arrange such a major purchase?

I think perhaps he thought SHE should be driving something safer? Giving her the benefit of a safer/nicer vehicle... you know, looking after "his woman"?

[JulianMelissa 52]

As someone who is married to someone who bought a used car (1984 Corvette) in California and had buyer's remorse only 6 hours later (and before we collected the car) I can tell you that if you waive the right to a two-day cooling off period to save a few bucks, you are stuffed. Sorry to hear that, Julian. On the bright side, it is still a pretty fun car! I wouldn't be kicking one of those out of my garage.

I also would like the predicament of being able to purchase a 2010 vehicle outright.

You have got to be kidding me...she would have had to waive her right to the cooling off period? She didn't mention that, she only said California has no cooling off period. What a bloody stupid thing to do.

So glad to know you consider yourself "more capable hands" -- although perhaps the most capable thing of all would have been to wait to arrive to arrange such a major purchase?

As I said, I thought it best to start our new life together with something a little more classy than a 10 year old Sentra. But yes, in hindsight I should have just rented a car at the airport and dealt with this myself. Lesson learned.

[DisneyLovers 18]

Besides the increasing loudness of hubby's snoring.. he Hum's when he eats, when I call him out on it I say you hid that before we got married, he laughs and says well yeah of course you'd think I'm nuts..

yes dear, I know were both bonkers but a heads up on humming whilst you eat would have been nice so I don't get freaked out the first time you do it infront of me, or seeing as you have the ability to not hum please go back to not doing so. Not sure why it irritates me but it does. just not normal lol