Yardies a home and a farrin - Part 26!

[MRStee 19]

you two are no fun...

work? what's that?

You r a bad gyal finesse lol

[kjenkins86 5]

I started off with $13 in Extra Bucks, plus some $4 off $20 purchase coupons (they give me at least 3 of these a week, so I break my purchases into $20 increments to use them). I'm ending the week with $7 in Extra Bucks so far, so I spent $6 more than I came in with... but I got some stuff we needed (mayo, tuna, peas, corn). You could look at it like I bought the stuff we needed & got all that other stuff for free. My splurge was on the Maybelline. I didn't have a coupon, yet still bought 2 products.

Great job at Walgreens! I had 4 coupons for the razor, so I did the deal 4 times. I came home today to find that Steven gave away 2 of the razors to his friend. I wasn't mad, though, esp cause the friend gave me a bunch of coupons he & his wife won't use.

Oh... I've been to about 4 Walgreens in the past 2 days. Only one of them had a bunch of the razors. One was completely out. The other two had maybe 4 each. And that was on Sunday morning before people even got out shopping the sales! You might ask when they get a shipment in, if the next Walgreens you go to is also out.

Oh ok, thanks

[NatPatBen 3]

NAT, I did a mock shopping at CVS, I spent $44 out of pocket and got $33 in extra bucks reward. My question now is: how do you pay for all your stuff? One by one using the reward as they are printed or you scan all the items you want and the reward is automatically applied? Not sure how they do it at CVS but at walgreens the reward is printed so I'd have to pay for the items one by one and then apply the reward as it is printed. Not sure if you understand what I'm asking... I have a CVS about 12 mins away compared to walgreens that's 3 minutes away.

Mock shopping??? Please explain.

If you haven't signed up for CVS's email list, you can do so and they'll send you a $4 off $20 purchase. http://bit.ly/93Q7yc

Plus when you scan your card in the store, it prints coupons. Some vary by person. Today, it printed a $4 off $20 for me.

I use excel to help me get the best deal. I put in all the sale prices and coupons I have. The goal (for me) is to make my purchases just over $20 before coupons, so I can use $4 off $20 coupons multiple times. Then give coupons to bring it down more.

Here's an example of what you could do this week (assuming you had the coupons, which you prob don't):

2 Carefree pantyliners $2 - $2 mfr cpns

Kotex U product $4.50 - $1 mfr cpn, - $1 CVS coupon (print at cvs.com), + $4.50 in EB

Crest prohealth rinse $3.50 - $.75 mfr cpn + $3.50 EB

Crest prohealth toothpaste $3.50 - $.75 mfr cpn + $3.50 EB

2 Dove travel deodorant $2 - $2 mfr cpn

2 Pantene conditioner $7 - $1 mfr cpn + $3 EB (or get shampoo & conditioner. I like their conditioner more than shampoo)

2 Right Guard deodorant $6 - $3 mfr cpn + 4 EB

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Total before coupons: $28.50 (more than I'd spend in one purchase. I'd save the Pantene for the next trip.)

Then use $4 off $20. Now at $24.50

Then use the CVS cpns & mfr cpns: 10.50

Total after all coupons: 14.50

Extra Buck rewards: $18.50

If you take off the Pantene, you'd spend $8.50 and get back $15.50.

Then you would go a second time and get any other deals this week, like the Pantene, tuna, toilet paper, toothbrushes, and whatever else you need. You'd use the Extra Bucks from the first trip to barely spend anything out of pocket, plus get more Extra Bucks!

To go a step farther, you'd go to iheartcvs.com and look at the CVS ads for the next couple of weeks, to see if anything will get even cheaper. But I'd save this for after mastering the basics. (Also see iheartwags.com for future Walgreens ads)

Edited May 11, 2010 by NatPatBen

[MRStee 19]

ABOUT RIGHT MS TEE ONLY DIFFERENCE SHE WAS CRYING... LOL

you did right!

[MRStee 19]

Prayer said for you, I hope everything went well and that the healing process will begin so yu can move on

Bajan don't worry about it, just have all that they request, know about your hubby and your relationship and you'll be walking out singing "approved"

Ohhhhh ok.

It didn't go as you planned but atleast she's happy.

First of all I gotta laugh at how you said you've only seen his type of behavior on nanny 911 BUT if your stepson was in school they couod've given you tips on how to deal with his behavior but in the mean time you can try 1 of 2 things.

1. Reward him when he does good, take away the stuff he likes when he acts up but you MUST tell him WHY you're taking his stuff.

2. Have him go to his room when he acts up, you MUST ignore his screaming and hollering when you send him and if you ignore him long enough he'll notice it doesn't get your attention so he'll stop.

I'm no expert but with the little I've learned in school and from work I know those are the best tips. Goodluck!

Oh thank goodness it went well.

Just I'm glad you're okay sis. Kj its not lady c who as the problem its her hubby not sticking to the punishment. They need to be on the same page when it comes to him.

[MRStee 19]

Boy, a lot of stuff went down on here today. I just wanted to say I received a letter from the college today and they are letting me resume classes and I don't have to rush to take the math test. As long as I do it before I graduate and maintain a 3.0 gpa!!!! Glory be to God I am SO happy

Boy, a lot of stuff went down on here today. I just wanted to say I received a letter from the college today and they are letting me resume classes and I don't have to rush to take the math test. As long as I do it before I graduate and maintain a 3.0 gpa!!!! Glory be to God I am SO happy

[JaEnglishGirl 34]

Sometimes that is so true. And part of me thinks why allow that phockery?? Seems like the more time a man is allowed to spend with a female other than his partner, the more opportunities there are for that relationship to become more than 'friendly'.

"Allowed'??????????

My husband is a GROWN man, he will associate with who he chooses. If you cannot TRUST the man that you vowed to LOVE, HONOR and OBEY you HONESTLY need to be looking at a divorce!!

My HUSBAND is not a DOG, he doesn't need a LEASH, he's man with MORALS and FREEDOM of CHOICE. He is with me because he CHOSE to be and he CHOOSES not to do otherwise!

Those in favour of leashes and ALLOWING you man to do this and dictating whether he'll have female friends, does he have a job?

You ever going to let him out of your sight? For the rest of your life?

What on earth is wrong in YOUR house if your man has to be TOLD what to do, where to go and BOUND?

Maybe if you started treating your HUSBAND and SOUL MATE like a MAN and not a CHILD or a DOG, he would start acting like one!

And if he doesn't??? ####### are you doing with him in the first place????????????

My husband has some VERY good female friends who he goes out to lunch with, calls, texts and who knows what else.

Could he cheat? YES!

But he could also cheat with a co-worker, his doctor, a clssmate, ANYONE for chrissakes.

If he wants to, GOOD DARN LUCK to him!!!!! When I find out I'm gone, but until then, HE IS A GROWN #### MAN!!!!!!!!!

If has thought he wasn't capable of being FAITHFUL to me, I would never have married him. If you THOUGHT he was was and discovered AFTER marriage he 'needs to be monitored', what the heck are you going to do??? Watch him for the rest of your life?

Vet his friends? Follow him? Check his phone records? Go through his wallet???

Good luck to you.

Ells, while SOME of this is directed towards you for the word 'allowed', by no means is it an attack, but geez, take a LONG and HARD look at your thought process. And the same goes for ALL of you posting here about allowing this and that and choosing friends and 'b!tch slapping' their men. I honestly wonder what kind of JAIL your men live in!!

What happened to HONORING and RESPECTING your men??

And for BETTER and fort WORSE?? Seems like the second 'for worse' happens, all bets are off.

Good luck to ALL, God knows you need it!

Edited May 11, 2010 by JaEnglishGirl

[JaEnglishGirl 34]

Hell, this is going to upset enough people anyway, let me just say the rest as well.

Lady C, when you married your husband, you accepted him AND his child.

So it PAINS me that LESS than a MONTH after the boy gets here, you're talking about shipping him home because he doesn't fit in with your expectations of behaviour??????????????

If as you say, this behaviour started and was accepted in Jamaica, what did you think was going to happen when he came here? And if you didn't know about it, do you think it'll take a WEEK or even a MONTH to change?

Let me ask you, let's say YOUR children had the behaviour problem, (yes I know they are well-behaved rae, rae), and your HUSBAND decided he couldn't deal with it, would you ship your kids off to your ex?? Yes I know he probably supports you, rae rae....But this is a CHILD we are talking about, your HUSBAND's CHILSD. Who he LOVES. Why would you send him back to a home that has failed him in your words? Because you signed up for better but not for this worse?

Philly's kids in her own words have been a HANDFUL, do you see her husband walking away? Hell no, he STAYED and DEALT with it as a TEAM.

Damn, the kid is SEVEN years old, take the reins and do what you need to, support your husband and help him deal with his son, because he is YOURRRRRRRR joint responsibility now!

ALl I can say is the more I read this board the more I am appreciative of what I have, and NO life isn't no bed of roses round here.

But when my son threw my husband's advances back in his face, my husband never told me to send him away. And when my son acted the hell up, my husband dealt with it. And when my son came back from his dad's with a whole new set of retorts, he dealt with it. And still deals with it.

Edited May 11, 2010 by JaEnglishGirl

[Always Blessed 1]

Good Morning All,

Hope everyone has a blessed day! I am a bit cranky today but hopefully that will change, my little growing pumpkin is giving me issue this morning once again with morning sickness I am sure I will get over it soon hopefully (I am looking forward to that).

Nat I love reading about your savings, I wish I was that dedicated in order to save myself.

Just, I am happy all went well with the procedure.

JaEnglish, Well said.

[NatPatBen 3]

Good morning.

That's great news, MrsTee! Gives you some breathing room.

[BlessMeIndeed 0]

Hell, this is going to upset enough people anyway, let me just say the rest as well.

Lady C, when you married your husband, you accepted him AND his child.

So it PAINS me that LESS than a MONTH after the boy gets here, you're talking about shipping him home because he doesn't fit in with your expectations of behaviour??????????????

If as you say, this behaviour started and was accepted in Jamaica, what did you think was going to happen when he came here? And if you didn't know about it, do you think it'll take a WEEK or even a MONTH to change?

Let me ask you, let's say YOUR children had the behaviour problem, (yes I know they are well-behaved rae, rae), and your HUSBAND decided he couldn't deal with it, would you ship your kids off to your ex?? Yes I know he probably supports you, rae rae....But this is a CHILD we are talking about, your HUSBAND's CHILSD. Who he LOVES. Why would you send him back to a home that has failed him in your words? Because you signed up for better but not for this worse?

Philly's kids in her own words have been a HANDFUL, do you see her husband walking away? Hell no, he STAYED and DEALT with it as a TEAM.

Damn, the kid is SEVEN years old, take the reins and do what you need to, support your husband and help him deal with his son, because he is YOURRRRRRRR joint responsibility now!

ALl I can say is the more I read this board the more I am appreciative of what I have, and NO life isn't no bed of roses round here.

But when my son threw my husband's advances back in his face, my husband never told me to send him away. And when my son acted the hell up, my husband dealt with it. And when my son came back from his dad's with a whole new set of retorts, he dealt with it. And still deals with it.

I agree 100%, if you can't handle a 7 year old. how are you going to handle a grown man, I would never put my husband or anyone eles before my child except God. JUST KEEPING IT REAL!!!

[DedicatedWife 4]

Morning All! Whew, it was a lot going on up in here!

MrsTee, that is awesome news about school! Yay!!!!

Nat, girl you still making them dollas holla! I'm so loving it! I got a new CVS rewards card in the mail so I guess its time to put it to use.

Always Blessed, I hope you feel better soon. That little one got you out your element...awww.

[BlessMeIndeed 0]

Welcome

Think about it, better life or not,would you send your child to go live with someone else that you don't know and who you probably believe broke up your relationship???One thing I have never been is a homewrecker,Yes she should keep her child with her because I have my own children to worry about, but if push came shove then no I wouldn't have a PROBLEM with her coming to live with us. I'm not new at motherhood and I have alot of experience when dealing with kids on all levels, so if the child does act out I wouldn't be so quick to ship them back over the waters.JUST KEEPING IT REAL!!

Hey mama, hope you're doing well other than marriage mishaps. I can't explain to you how much I hate it when people lie about LITTLE STUPID THINGS, it's just childish and my hubby does it but lets see how much I can take before I go crazy on his azz.

Umm, not all kids look like they're dad. My sis and her hubby are both very dark and "not too beautiful" as my sis would say and ALL 3 of her kids are very pretty, light skinnec and has beautiful hair. Where they got their features only God knows...True that, but when you never allow the father to see the child or even keep the child it makes one wonder.

Edited May 11, 2010 by BlessMeIndeed

[justucia 0]

Hey ladies. I just wanted to offer a bit of input if I may. I have been reading where several of you are having trouble with your stepchildren in regards to rude, aggressive, acting out behaviors. I can only imagine how frustrating this is, and how quickly you want this to end. I just beg you to remember this: In the counseling field (and maybe social work), there is a theory called the "Law of Unintended Consequences". In a nutshell it basically says that when working on moving towards a desired change or outcome, there will be unanticipated or unintended "actions" that you might not have expected to encounter (and typically they aren't very pleasant). You must figure out how to deal with these unexpected actions or behaviors in such a way that you are all able to move to your desired changes. Also remember that when you are trying to teach new behaviors or habits, that you will almost ALWAYS see a significant spike in the negative behaviors, but over time, and with consistency, encouragement, and reinforcements, the negative behaviors will eventually begin to level out until they are gone altogether. Now I know I am not in anyone's shoes, but I'm just saying, having done counseling with children and families in both natural and blended families, I am aware of alot of what you ladies might be going through. I also think it is EXTREMELY important that both parents are presenting as a united front. If the child can see any fizzure or crack in the foundation, then dammit they're gonna pound on that crack until it completely gives way. I am hoping for the best for all the families here. I know how hard many of you have worked so that you could all be together.

i saved this to my harddrive

now this is some SOLID advice

thank you

[DedicatedWife 4]

"Allowed'??????????

My husband is a GROWN man, he will associate with who he chooses. If you cannot TRUST the man that you vowed to LOVE, HONOR and OBEY you HONESTLY need to be looking at a divorce!!

My HUSBAND is not a DOG, he doesn't need a LEASH, he's man with MORALS and FREEDOM of CHOICE. He is with me because he CHOSE to be and he CHOOSES not to do otherwise!

Those in favour of leashes and ALLOWING you man to do this and dictating whether he'll have female friends, does he have a job?

You ever going to let him out of your sight? For the rest of your life?

What on earth is wrong in YOUR house if your man has to be TOLD what to do, where to go and BOUND?

Maybe if you started treating your HUSBAND and SOUL MATE like a MAN and not a CHILD or a DOG, he would start acting like one!

And if he doesn't??? ####### are you doing with him in the first place????????????

My husband has some VERY good female friends who he goes out to lunch with, calls, texts and who knows what else.

Could he cheat? YES!

But he could also cheat with a co-worker, his doctor, a clssmate, ANYONE for chrissakes.

If he wants to, GOOD DARN LUCK to him!!!!! When I find out I'm gone, but until then, HE IS A GROWN #### MAN!!!!!!!!!

If has thought he wasn't capable of being FAITHFUL to me, I would never have married him. If you THOUGHT he was was and discovered AFTER marriage he 'needs to be monitored', what the heck are you going to do??? Watch him for the rest of your life?

Vet his friends? Follow him? Check his phone records? Go through his wallet???

Good luck to you.

Ells, while SOME of this is directed towards you for the word 'allowed', by no means is it an attack, but geez, take a LONG and HARD look at your thought process. And the same goes for ALL of you posting here about allowing this and that and choosing friends and 'b!tch slapping' their men. I honestly wonder what kind of JAIL your men live in!!

What happened to HONORING and RESPECTING your men??

And for BETTER and fort WORSE?? Seems like the second 'for worse' happens, all bets are off.

Good luck to ALL, God knows you need it!

This here is serious. JaEnglish, you brought up some very powerful points in here.

I guess everyone's situation is different but this is honestly how I feel about my husband and our marriage. It's not perfect (no one person is) but you have to have that mutual respect and trust. I don't have time to be running behind Den...I'm not speaking or judging anyone else...I'm speaking for DW soley and I know I don't have the energy. I pray, I pray, I pray and we communicate!!!

Just like I joked on here yesterday...I don't want my husband only with men 100% of the time, oh no baby, I live in Atlanta and the men lurking just like these females Seriously, though, they are