monthly support from fiance

[Buttons 0]

No matter how you but it she wants Money ???? WHy can't she work and support herself till she gets here and also save so that when she can't work for 3-6 months she has some of her own money. I find it demeaning to ask for money from my husband.

As for her english, I would say she has a great handle on it she spells words that for some people would be very difficult.

RESPONSIBILITY !!!!!!!!! VOLUNTARILY !!!!!!!!!!!!!

[JenT 0]

I am not sure what the OP intentions were nor do I want to judge her. But somethings have been posted here about her english and the words she used. This reminded me of something. If she is living in the phillapines then enlish is her second language. If she is anything like my fiance who also speals english fluently then the problem with her post could be the words she picked.

Quite often my fiance and I used to fight because of things he would say to me. What we both later realized was that in his thought process he thinks of something he wants to say in arabic and then translates in into english. The problem is when you translate it, you lose alot in the translation and what you say could end up meaning something else. This could be how she came up with the word "responsibility", maybe in Tagalan, its another word, and for lack of a better word she used that one?

Excellent point.

Jen

[kitkat1 5]

I don't think any of this would have become such a big and confusing situation if the original poster's timeline hadn't indicated that they had basically just met or if she hadn't changed her screen name immediately after posting . . . not only were we confused by the strange wording of the original question (responsibility) but the quick name change, etc. just added to the weirdness of the post.

[mawilson 2,133]

hi everyone, just want to ask if it's ok to ask for monthly support from your fiance or just wait for him to send voluntarily? or just wait for him to realize it's a responsibility or is it a responsibility really for a fiance to give monthly support? - aix

Oooh yes, it's definitely his responsibility and you shouldn't even have to ask, because

as you know, Americans have SO much money they don't know what to do with it.

They never have to work because everything is handed to them on a silver platter,

and the streets are paved with gold.

[Buttons 0]

hi everyone, just want to ask if it's ok to ask for monthly support from your fiance or just wait for him to send voluntarily? or just wait for him to realize it's a responsibility or is it a responsibility really for a fiance to give monthly support? - aix

Oooh yes, it's definitely his responsibility and you shouldn't even have to ask, because

as you know, Americans have SO much money they don't know what to do with it.

They never have to work because everything is handed to them on a silver platter,

and the streets are paved with gold.

LOL

and money falls from the sky !!!!!!!!!!!

[TracyTN 237]

hi everyone, just want to ask if it's ok to ask for monthly support from your fiance or just wait for him to send voluntarily? or just wait for him to realize it's a responsibility or is it a responsibility really for a fiance to give monthly support? - aix

Is it ok to ask? Honestly, it seems pretty damn presumptuous to me. That said, I am not you, I don't know you or your fiance. What works in your relationship sure as heck wouldn't work in mine. I guess you'll just have to 'go with your gut' on this one.

No, it is NOT a 'responsibility' for a fiance to give financial support. So if you're waiting for him to magically come to that realization, expect to wait a VERY long time...!

[Cristy 4]

Well now I just feel dumb. Here I was working and supporting myself and my kids...even paying half of the visa fees....and all along it was his responsibility to support me!!

Edited August 4, 2006 by cristy

[babybunny 2]

hi everyone, just want to ask if it's ok to ask for monthly support from your fiance or just wait for him to send voluntarily? or just wait for him to realize it's a responsibility or is it a responsibility really for a fiance to give monthly support? - aix

Huh?

mail order bride!

[Buttons 0]

Well now I just feel dumb. Here I was working and supporting myself and my kids...even paying half of the visa fees....and all along it was his responsibility to support me!!

Hey Me too !!!!!!!!!!

That's it i'm being ripped off !!!!!!!!!

[Canuck Carrie 1]

I am not sure what the OP intentions were nor do I want to judge her. But somethings have been posted here about her english and the words she used. This reminded me of something. If she is living in the phillapines then enlish is her second language. If she is anything like my fiance who also speals english fluently then the problem with her post could be the words she picked.

Quite often my fiance and I used to fight because of things he would say to me. What we both later realized was that in his thought process he thinks of something he wants to say in arabic and then translates in into english. The problem is when you translate it, you lose alot in the translation and what you say could end up meaning something else. This could be how she came up with the word "responsibility", maybe in Tagalan, its another word, and for lack of a better word she used that one?

Well said. Maybe some of the cats will retract their claws after taking this into consideration.

[babybunny 2]

Well this poster removed timeline....they met online Dec 5, met in Phillipines July 19...engaged July 22

Yet joined site Jan 2...and if fiance went for a 2 week trip that started on the 19 July, he left today and now she's posting about monthly support.

Interesting!

who's up for Disneyland?!?!?!?

you got to be kidding me, IMBRA here you come !!!!!!!!!!!!

yeah I personally would doubt the relationship if within a week or so of being engaged i was asked to support the other person .. no offense

I agree their

Iagree

[tmma 467]

great pic, Lisa!

edit-again-damn, messed up the quotes, but wth...

Edited August 4, 2006 by tmma

[babybunny 2]

Is your relationship about money? If so, I hope he realizes it in time. If not, you don't need to ask him. You should be ashamed of yourself. RED FLAG RED FLAG RED FLAG!!!!!!

I agree its a red flag. I think the USICS is trying to prevent these sort of red flags.

Hey! I have a great idea! PM me your fiance's name and phone number and I'll ask him for you!

That way you won't have to ask

oh my god that is funny...

[*Robert* 2]

Why did I know the fiancee was in the PI from the title of this thread?!

[tmma 467]

psychic?