monthly support from fiance

[sunandmoon 450]

hi everyone, just want to ask if it's ok to ask for monthly support from your fiance or just wait for him to send voluntarily? or just wait for him to realize it's a responsibility or is it a responsibility really for a fiance to give monthly support? - aix

wait for him to realize it's a responsibility he is already taking on the responsibility of filing the petititon, helping you with the process when the time comes, when the times comes flying you here, there will be lots of costs for the immigration process alone.

has he told you he'd provide "monthly" support before you come here? i help my fiance financially when there is a need, but don't send monthly support.

do you expect support for just yourself? other members of your family? there will be a point in time you should discuss finacial matters with your fiance so he knows what kind of expectations you have and you two can discuss them.

[JRluvsLhyn 0]

I can smell something here seems like the OP username changed that quick! aixaix to ellmoi

Edited August 4, 2006 by JRluvsLhyn

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wow I noticed that too.

[Fandango 1,440]

mail order bride!

[kitkat1 5]

I can smell something here seems like the OP username changed that quick! aixaix to ellmoi

Wow how did you catch that? I thought I hallucinated. . . so whaddya smell?

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is roymcn3rd the same person?

[Lewis 0]

ouch!

[Fandango 1,440]

Well this poster removed timeline....they met online Dec 5, met in Phillipines July 19...engaged July 22

Yet joined site Jan 2...and if fiance went for a 2 week trip that started on the 19 July, he left today and now she's posting about monthly support.

Interesting!

who's up for Disneyland?!?!?!?

Edited August 4, 2006 by LisaD

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[kitkat1 5]

Well this poster removed timeline....they met online Dec 5, met in Phillipines July 19...engaged July 22

Yet joined site Jan 2...and if fiance went for a 2 week trip that started on the 19 July, he left today and now she's posting about monthly support.

Interesting!

who's up for Disneyland?!?!?!?

Sometimes I watch stupid Mexican soap operas just to escape from immigration hell for an hour. But VJ is WAY more fun . . .

[ellmoi 0]

hi everyone, just want to ask if it's ok to ask for monthly support from your fiance or just wait for him to send voluntarily? or just wait for him to realize it's a responsibility or is it a responsibility really for a fiance to give monthly support? - aix

wait for him to realize it's a responsibility he is already taking on the responsibility of filing the petititon, helping you with the process when the time comes, when the times comes flying you here, there will be lots of costs for the immigration process alone.

has he told you he'd provide "monthly" support before you come here? i help my fiance financially when there is a need, but don't send monthly support.

do you expect support for just yourself? other members of your family? there will be a point in time you should discuss finacial matters with your fiance so he knows what kind of expectations you have and you two can discuss them.

ok kool thanks for your nice opinion, i appreciate it..

[sbgwolf1 0]

I am after my baby is here i would love disneyland...of course I am sure aixaix/ellmoi would want to go and we know it would be her fiance's 'responsibility' to take her

Edited August 4, 2006 by sbgwolf1

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Well this poster removed timeline....they met online Dec 5, met in Phillipines July 19...engaged July 22

Yet joined site Jan 2...and if fiance went for a 2 week trip that started on the 19 July, he left today and now she's posting about monthly support.

Interesting!

who's up for Disneyland?!?!?!?

Sometimes I watch stupid Mexican soap operas just to escape from immigration hell for an hour. But VJ is WAY more fun . . .

I've seen Mexican soap operas dubbed over in Arabic.. Very funny stuff!

[jo&john 1]

hi everyone, just want to ask if it's ok to ask for monthly support from your fiance or just wait for him to send voluntarily? or just wait for him to realize it's a responsibility or is it a responsibility really for a fiance to give monthly support? - aix

Dear aixaix,

It is not the responsibility of your fiance to send you money regularly. If he sends you, it is a gift. I know that the economic situation in the Philippines is not that good. Majority could have problems financially, but to impose financial support regularly on the significant other is inappropriate. This is my opinion. Just make this relationship work. You can discuss with him some financial issues and he might be able to help; don't expect a yes always; and most importantly, don't demand. It is important that you understand his viewpoint as well as he understands yours. Your post really disturbed me...I have to say something. This misinformation (fiance's responsibility to give monthly support), wherever you got it or whoever advised you on it, really gave me goosebumps. Take this please as constructive. No hurt feelings and...Good luck to you.

Jo

[ellmoi 0]

hi everyone, just want to ask if it's ok to ask for monthly support from your fiance or just wait for him to send voluntarily? or just wait for him to realize it's a responsibility or is it a responsibility really for a fiance to give monthly support? - aix

Dear aixaix,

It is not the responsibility of your fiance to send you money regularly. If he sends you, it is a gift. I know that the economic situation in the Philippines is not that good. Majority could have problems financially, but to impose financial support regularly on the significant other is inappropriate. This is my opinion. Just make this relationship work. You can discuss with him some financial issues and he might be able to help; don't expect a yes always; and most importantly, don't demand. It is important that you understand his viewpoint as well as he understands yours. Your post really disturbed me...I have to say something. This misinformation (fiance's responsibility to give monthly support), wherever you got it or whoever advised you on it, really gave me goosebumps. Take this please as constructive. No hurt feelings and...Good luck to you.

Jo

thanks Jo, no hurt feelings really, that's why i posted it to ask opinions and advices.. just some people are quick to judge, lol.. goodluck to you too, it helps to find someone who can really give good advices.. Hope you get your NOA2 very soon!