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I dont think it matters where you live, i dont think being "engaged" makes you responsible for taking care of your fiance financially wheater male or female. Its up to the person to send his/her fiance money. Being married id say yes, its a responsibility to take care of "eachother" financially and in other aspects.

but not engagment, i mean if my hubby had said something like that to me, he would have gotten my foot up his :help:

unless the girl or guy was pregante..and the DNA sayes he is the mama of your baby. :lol::thumbs:

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Filed: AOS (apr) Country: Philippines
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Is this customary in the Philippines? Would a male fiancee provide support in that culture? Or does this only apply to foreign men? Think I know the answer, but maybe I am truly unaware of the cultural differences.

it is not customary, but it is expected. the guy is suppose to take care of the girl, and it can mean financially speaking.

anyway, if you were the guy who's somewhat more well-off than the girl (and believe me, even if she is working it is not much...most people get paid around $5 bucks a day working 12 hours and it's literally grunt work) wouldn't you want to give your fiance something to make her life nicer? i'm just saying, it's not customary and it's not even a responsibility...but because you're considerate and mindful and you want to take care of her. wouldn't that make you feel like a jerk that you're buying a cup of Starbuck's coffee everyday where that amount can actually be her meal for the entire day? i don't know, let's not be quick to judge. flame away. :unsure:

does this work both ways? what if the male is in phila. the lady is USC? she is expected to support his azz? :huh:

My husband is from a back world country - should I be sending my HUSBAND- back fiancee support?

better yet spousal support?

it's the modern era...there is equality between men and women...if i want to be PC...i should say it works both ways..but unfortunately, it really doesn't. :D that's why you don't see a lot of couples where the girl is more well-off than the guy. there's too many soap operas in the philippines having this as the ultimate dilemma...rich girl, poor guy...very much in love but can't get together because solely for that reason...

also, there's the issue of the guy's ego. he wouldn't want the girl to take care of him financially.

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Filed: AOS (apr) Country: Romania
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I dont think it matters where you live, i dont think being "engaged" makes you responsible for taking care of your fiance financially wheater male or female. Its up to the person to send his/her fiance money. Being married id say yes, its a responsibility to take care of "eachother" financially and in other aspects.

but not engagment, i mean if my hubby had said something like that to me, he would have gotten my foot up his :help:

unless the girl or guy was pregante..and the DNA sayes he is the mama of your baby. :lol::thumbs:

:thumbs::lol: ROFLMAO

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Is this customary in the Philippines? Would a male fiancee provide support in that culture? Or does this only apply to foreign men? Think I know the answer, but maybe I am truly unaware of the cultural differences.

it is not customary, but it is expected. the guy is suppose to take care of the girl, and it can mean financially speaking.

anyway, if you were the guy who's somewhat more well-off than the girl (and believe me, even if she is working it is not much...most people get paid around $5 bucks a day working 12 hours and it's literally grunt work) wouldn't you want to give your fiance something to make her life nicer? i'm just saying, it's not customary and it's not even a responsibility...but because you're considerate and mindful and you want to take care of her. wouldn't that make you feel like a jerk that you're buying a cup of Starbuck's coffee everyday where that amount can actually be her meal for the entire day? i don't know, let's not be quick to judge. flame away. :unsure:

does this work both ways? what if the male is in phila. the lady is USC? she is expected to support his azz? :huh:

My husband is from a back world country - should I be sending my HUSBAND- back fiancee support?

better yet spousal support?

it's the modern era...there is equality between men and women...if i want to be PC...i should say it works both ways..but unfortunately, it really doesn't. :D that's why you don't see a lot of couples where the girl is more well-off than the guy. there's too many soap operas in the philippines having this as the ultimate dilemma...rich girl, poor guy...very much in love but can't get together because solely for that reason...

also, there's the issue of the guy's ego. he wouldn't want the girl to take care of him financially.

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Filed: Citizen (apr) Country: Thailand
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also, there's the issue of the guy's ego. he wouldn't want the girl to take care of him financially.

Excuse me?!!! I would have NO problem letting a woman pay my way!!! :lol:

Where's my suggar moma?!! :D

Ego schmego!!! Money is money!!! Who says a man can't make a good house #######?!!! :lol:

K-1 Timeline

11-29-05: Mailed I-129F Petition to CSC

12-06-05: NOA1

03-02-06: NOA2

03-23-06: Interview Date May 16

05-17-06: K-1 Visa Issued

05-20-06: Arrived at POE, Honolulu

07-17-06: Married

AOS Timeline

08-14-06: Mailed I-485 to Chicago

08-24-06: NOA for I-485

09-08-06: Biometrics Appointment

09-25-06: I-485 transferred to CSC

09-28-06: I-485 received at CSC

10-18-06: AOS Approved

10-21-06: Approval notice mailed

10-23-06: Received "Welcome Letter"

10-27-06: Received 2 yr Green Card

I-751 Timeline

07-21-08: Mailed I-751 to VSC

07-25-08: NOA for I-751

08-27-08: Biometrics Appointment

02-25-09: I-751 transferred to CSC

04-17-09: I-751 Approved

06-22-09: Received 10 yr Green Card

N-400 Timeline

07-20-09: Mailed N-400 to Lewisville, TX

07-23-09: NOA for N-400

08-14-09: Biometrics Appointment

09-08-09: Interview Date Oct 07

10-30-09: Oath Ceremony

11-20-09: Received Passport!!!

Filed: AOS (apr) Country: Romania
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also, there's the issue of the guy's ego. he wouldn't want the girl to take care of him financially.

Excuse me?!!! I would have NO problem letting a woman pay my way!!! :lol:

Where's my suggar moma?!! :D

Ego schmego!!! Money is money!!! Who says a man can't make a good house #######?!!! :lol:

My husband seconds that :lol: hes my house #######! i work, he stays with the kids, tho he is pulling his hair out, I wouldnt have it any other way :P

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Filed: AOS (apr) Country: Russia
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also, there's the issue of the guy's ego. he wouldn't want the girl to take care of him financially.

Excuse me?!!! I would have NO problem letting a woman pay my way!!! :lol:

Where's my suggar moma?!! :D

Ego schmego!!! Money is money!!! Who says a man can't make a good house #######?!!! :lol:

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also, there's the issue of the guy's ego. he wouldn't want the girl to take care of him financially.

Excuse me?!!! I would have NO problem letting a woman pay my way!!! :lol:

Where's my suggar moma?!! :D

Ego schmego!!! Money is money!!! Who says a man can't make a good house #######?!!! :lol:

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course i would not want a house biactch.. :no:

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Filed: K-1 Visa Country: Jordan
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I am just curious as to why everyone is flaming this girl? How is it that everyone can so easily judge her based on a profile, screen name, and one post which could all be a lie? Maybe she just wanted some advice on how to ask him. Everyone is entitled to their own opinion regarding if this is right or wrong, but just because its not in normal to you doesn't make it wrong for someone else. There are things that people do in other cultures that I think are questionable as well but I don't flame them for it.

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Filed: Citizen (apr) Country: Thailand
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I am just curious as to why everyone is flaming this girl? How is it that everyone can so easily judge her based on a profile, screen name, and one post which could all be a lie? Maybe she just wanted some advice on how to ask him. Everyone is entitled to their own opinion regarding if this is right or wrong, but just because its not in normal to you doesn't make it wrong for someone else. There are things that people do in other cultures that I think are questionable as well but I don't flame them for it.

JP, I luv ya but... she doesn't need ANY advice on how to ask. I'm sure she is a profesional at asking for money. Her problem is she's not getting it, and she's afraid to scare off her "catch", so she's trying to find another way of gettin money. If she has to keep asking, or he isn't willing to send money on his own, then they might as well end this relationship right now.

Oh yeah... we're bored and we want to pick on a nube!!! ;):lol:

K-1 Timeline

11-29-05: Mailed I-129F Petition to CSC

12-06-05: NOA1

03-02-06: NOA2

03-23-06: Interview Date May 16

05-17-06: K-1 Visa Issued

05-20-06: Arrived at POE, Honolulu

07-17-06: Married

AOS Timeline

08-14-06: Mailed I-485 to Chicago

08-24-06: NOA for I-485

09-08-06: Biometrics Appointment

09-25-06: I-485 transferred to CSC

09-28-06: I-485 received at CSC

10-18-06: AOS Approved

10-21-06: Approval notice mailed

10-23-06: Received "Welcome Letter"

10-27-06: Received 2 yr Green Card

I-751 Timeline

07-21-08: Mailed I-751 to VSC

07-25-08: NOA for I-751

08-27-08: Biometrics Appointment

02-25-09: I-751 transferred to CSC

04-17-09: I-751 Approved

06-22-09: Received 10 yr Green Card

N-400 Timeline

07-20-09: Mailed N-400 to Lewisville, TX

07-23-09: NOA for N-400

08-14-09: Biometrics Appointment

09-08-09: Interview Date Oct 07

10-30-09: Oath Ceremony

11-20-09: Received Passport!!!

Filed: Citizen (pnd) Country: Canada
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There have been many members on here that have stated that they send money back to their fiances in the Phillipines, to me it was normal for them to do so since so many said they did. It even went so far as one of them giving her an ATM type card to access money over there. Perhaps the OP knows that this is somewhat customary for others but didn't seem to be so for her.

If everyone got cake on Wednesdays and I didn't, I'd start to wonder where my cake is.

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2006

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April 6 - wedding date day 204

Aug 22 - AOS interview date day 101-total days 342

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2008

June 30 - I-751 mailed total days 1025

2009

March 9 - Removal of Conditions approved! total days 1277

Filed: IR-1/CR-1 Visa Country: England
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I dont think it matters where you live, i dont think being "engaged" makes you responsible for taking care of your fiance financially wheater male or female. Its up to the person to send his/her fiance money. Being married id say yes, its a responsibility to take care of "eachother" financially and in other aspects.

but not engagment, i mean if my hubby had said something like that to me, he would have gotten my foot up his :help:

I agree to a sense, but this could simply be cultural differences. The OP needs to discuss this with her fiancee, he will either dump her like a hot cake, or actually start sending her an allowance. We all know differences arise, most of us choose to talk to our OH and sort through it for some genuine understanding. Don't get me wrong, I know what my initial thought on this subject was still I can see how this particular subject would arise from where it did.

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Filed: Citizen (apr) Country: Thailand
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There have been many members on here that have stated that they send money back to their fiances in the Phillipines, to me it was normal for them to do so since so many said they did. It even went so far as one of them giving her an ATM type card to access money over there. Perhaps the OP knows that this is somewhat customary for others but didn't seem to be so for her.

If everyone got cake on Wednesdays and I didn't, I'd start to wonder where my cake is.

And there lies the problem. So many women expecting men to send them money and support not only them, but their entire family. If a guy wants to be a part of that, then its his business, and his problem. This has created a new type of welfare for the Philippines, and that's why mail order brides are so popular and so abundant. They know its an easy way of getting money. A lot easier than... working for example! :whistle:

K-1 Timeline

11-29-05: Mailed I-129F Petition to CSC

12-06-05: NOA1

03-02-06: NOA2

03-23-06: Interview Date May 16

05-17-06: K-1 Visa Issued

05-20-06: Arrived at POE, Honolulu

07-17-06: Married

AOS Timeline

08-14-06: Mailed I-485 to Chicago

08-24-06: NOA for I-485

09-08-06: Biometrics Appointment

09-25-06: I-485 transferred to CSC

09-28-06: I-485 received at CSC

10-18-06: AOS Approved

10-21-06: Approval notice mailed

10-23-06: Received "Welcome Letter"

10-27-06: Received 2 yr Green Card

I-751 Timeline

07-21-08: Mailed I-751 to VSC

07-25-08: NOA for I-751

08-27-08: Biometrics Appointment

02-25-09: I-751 transferred to CSC

04-17-09: I-751 Approved

06-22-09: Received 10 yr Green Card

N-400 Timeline

07-20-09: Mailed N-400 to Lewisville, TX

07-23-09: NOA for N-400

08-14-09: Biometrics Appointment

09-08-09: Interview Date Oct 07

10-30-09: Oath Ceremony

11-20-09: Received Passport!!!

 

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