monthly support from fiance

[babybunny 2]

omigosh, this thread is still alive?

the OP has probably deleted her account by now after the wrath dropped on her head...

:lol:

Nah... she probably went to some place like Cherry Blossoms to find a new "whale" that will send her a monthly allowance!!!

or to Forbes looking for uncle money bags. .

Is this customary in the Philippines? Would a male fiancee provide support in that culture? Or does this only apply to foreign men? Think I know the answer, but maybe I am truly unaware of the cultural differences.

its is cutomary in some relations to have dowry. I dont think this is the case.

[Sinergy 3]

omigosh, this thread is still alive?

the OP has probably deleted her account by now after the wrath dropped on her head...

:lol:

Nah... she probably went to some place like Cherry Blossoms to find a new "whale" that will send her a monthly allowance!!!

or to Forbes looking for uncle money bags. .

She can always try Donald Trump, he gets married every couple years

[babybunny 2]

omigosh, this thread is still alive?

the OP has probably deleted her account by now after the wrath dropped on her head...

:lol:

Nah... she probably went to some place like Cherry Blossoms to find a new "whale" that will send her a monthly allowance!!!

or to Forbes looking for uncle money bags. .

She can always try Donald Trump, he gets married every couple years

he would proble run the first time she said " its your responsiblity"

[Sinergy 3]

omigosh, this thread is still alive?

the OP has probably deleted her account by now after the wrath dropped on her head...

:lol:

Nah... she probably went to some place like Cherry Blossoms to find a new "whale" that will send her a monthly allowance!!!

or to Forbes looking for uncle money bags. .

She can always try Donald Trump, he gets married every couple years

he would proble run the first time she said " its your responsiblity"

hahahahaha true, especially since there are no kids involved YET

[mychelle 1]

Is this customary in the Philippines? Would a male fiancee provide support in that culture? Or does this only apply to foreign men? Think I know the answer, but maybe I am truly unaware of the cultural differences.

it is not customary, but it is expected. the guy is suppose to take care of the girl, and it can mean financially speaking.

anyway, if you were the guy who's somewhat more well-off than the girl (and believe me, even if she is working it is not much...most people get paid around $5 bucks a day working 12 hours and it's literally grunt work) wouldn't you want to give your fiance something to make her life nicer? i'm just saying, it's not customary and it's not even a responsibility...but because you're considerate and mindful and you want to take care of her. wouldn't that make you feel like a jerk that you're buying a cup of Starbuck's coffee everyday where that amount can actually be her meal for the entire day? i don't know, let's not be quick to judge. flame away.

Edited August 4, 2006 by mychelle

[Fandango 1,440]

I don't think any of this would have become such a big and confusing situation if the original poster's timeline hadn't indicated that they had basically just met or if she hadn't changed her screen name immediately after posting . . . not only were we confused by the strange wording of the original question (responsibility) but the quick name change, etc. just added to the weirdness of the post.

BINGO!

Why was the timeline removed? why was she on a marriage visa site not even a month after 'meeting' him online? Why did she come on here asking the correct protocol to ask for money...when if she's in love with a man who's in love with her, they are planning a life together...yet she doesn't know how to ask him for summat? Why come on here and ask us at the point *from her timeline and assuming he went for 2 weeks* when he literally left THAT DAY???

Sounds wrong to me & makes me feel that this is all about the GC and not about the fiance.

[Tim and Bethanie 1]

Is this customary in the Philippines? Would a male fiancee provide support in that culture? Or does this only apply to foreign men? Think I know the answer, but maybe I am truly unaware of the cultural differences.

it is not customary, but it is expected. the guy is suppose to take care of the girl, and it can mean financially speaking.

anyway, if you were the guy who's somewhat more well-off than the girl (and believe me, even if she is working it is not much...most people get paid around $5 bucks a day working 12 hours and it's literally grunt work) wouldn't you want to give your fiance something to make her life nicer? i'm just saying, it's not customary and it's not even a responsibility...but because you're considerate and mindful and you want to take care of her. wouldn't that make you feel like a jerk that you're buying a cup of Starbuck's coffee everyday where that amount can actually be her meal for the entire day? i don't know, let's not be quick to judge. flame away.

So it is customary were a gal there to date a guy from there that he would give her an allowance?

[babybunny 2]

Is this customary in the Philippines? Would a male fiancee provide support in that culture? Or does this only apply to foreign men? Think I know the answer, but maybe I am truly unaware of the cultural differences.

it is not customary, but it is expected. the guy is suppose to take care of the girl, and it can mean financially speaking.

anyway, if you were the guy who's somewhat more well-off than the girl (and believe me, even if she is working it is not much...most people get paid around $5 bucks a day working 12 hours and it's literally grunt work) wouldn't you want to give your fiance something to make her life nicer? i'm just saying, it's not customary and it's not even a responsibility...but because you're considerate and mindful and you want to take care of her. wouldn't that make you feel like a jerk that you're buying a cup of Starbuck's coffee everyday where that amount can actually be her meal for the entire day? i don't know, let's not be quick to judge. flame away.

does this work both ways? what if the male is in phila. the lady is USC? she is expected to support his azz?

My husband is from a back world country - should I be sending my HUSBAND- back fiancee support?

better yet spousal support?

Edited August 4, 2006 by babybunny

[Tim and Bethanie 1]

Is this customary in the Philippines? Would a male fiancee provide support in that culture? Or does this only apply to foreign men? Think I know the answer, but maybe I am truly unaware of the cultural differences.

it is not customary, but it is expected. the guy is suppose to take care of the girl, and it can mean financially speaking.

anyway, if you were the guy who's somewhat more well-off than the girl (and believe me, even if she is working it is not much...most people get paid around $5 bucks a day working 12 hours and it's literally grunt work) wouldn't you want to give your fiance something to make her life nicer? i'm just saying, it's not customary and it's not even a responsibility...but because you're considerate and mindful and you want to take care of her. wouldn't that make you feel like a jerk that you're buying a cup of Starbuck's coffee everyday where that amount can actually be her meal for the entire day? i don't know, let's not be quick to judge. flame away.

does this work both ways? what if the male is in phila. the lady is USC? she is expected to support his azz?

This is what I am asking and I feel the question wasn't answered. Oops never mind your asking if it was a role reversal! I just want to know if it is done within the culture, or if this only applies to having a foreign fiancee. Edited August 4, 2006 by Tim and Bethanie

[*Robert* 2]

Is this customary in the Philippines? Would a male fiancee provide support in that culture? Or does this only apply to foreign men? Think I know the answer, but maybe I am truly unaware of the cultural differences.

it is not customary, but it is expected. the guy is suppose to take care of the girl, and it can mean financially speaking.

anyway, if you were the guy who's somewhat more well-off than the girl (and believe me, even if she is working it is not much...most people get paid around $5 bucks a day working 12 hours and it's literally grunt work) wouldn't you want to give your fiance something to make her life nicer? i'm just saying, it's not customary and it's not even a responsibility...but because you're considerate and mindful and you want to take care of her. wouldn't that make you feel like a jerk that you're buying a cup of Starbuck's coffee everyday where that amount can actually be her meal for the entire day? i don't know, let's not be quick to judge. flame away.

I don't think she was talking about a foreign fiance. She wants to know if a girl in the Philippines has a Filipino fiance, there, living in the Philippines, if he would be supporting her?

There is poverty all over the world, and many people in what are called "third world countries" living way below the poverty level. I don't however see them asking for handouts, or expecting support from someone just because they are better off financially. To me its a question of pride. If you have to ask someone for money, or have no problem asking a stranger for money, then there is little self-respect and selfishness involved.

[jordanianprincess 0]

A cousin of mine is in a similar situation. She lives and works in Jordan and makes very good money. She just got engaged and will be moving to the USA. She has only one concern and has not quite found a way to ask her fiance and I wouldn't even know how to ask this myself. He was married before and owns properties and has 2 kids which are both in their early 20's. Now she is pretty much figuring that in his will , he would leave everything to his kids. So she is not sure what she would have for herself as a means of financial security in the future. I know that is not a normal question for someone to ask in USA and in other parts of the world as well, but in some cultures once a woman gets engaged and married they become completly dependent on the man.

I know she does have bad intentions when wanting to ask about his will, but it would seem that way from the question.

[MarkTexas 3]

[babybunny 2]

I think until you are in the USA or Married. its seems expected you take care of your own needs. it is diffrent if you are married and diffrent if there are kids involved. if my husband was pregante with our baby - he would certainly have all he needed to have a healthy pregancy. but, since this is not the issue. i will hush now...lol

[mychelle 1]

So it is customary were a gal there to date a guy from there that he would give her an allowance?

it could be. i even know of some guys who treat their mistresses by putting them up in a nice apartments and giving them monthly allowance (well, the wife gets the bigger house of course...) i mean, the guy is going to marry this girl (the OP)...and if sharing some of his wealth with her won't hurt him...i don't see why he shouldn't? although, if she is not really in love with him and only in it for the money...well...she's no different from a golddigger...US Citizen or not! But if this relationship is genuine, then it is kinda sad that her guy isn't taking care of her.

[Sinergy 3]

I dont think it matters where you live, i dont think being "engaged" makes you responsible for taking care of your fiance financially wheater male or female. Its up to the person to send his/her fiance money. Being married id say yes, its a responsibility to take care of "eachother" financially and in other aspects.

but not engagment, i mean if my hubby had said something like that to me, he would have gotten my foot up his