AGE DIFFERENCE

[K and L 27]

For whatever it is worth, our interview was last week (and we passed!). Our interview was quick and painless - they asked L (the foreign beneficiary) 3 questions and they asked me 4. None of them had to do with how our families felt or the age difference. They did not ask to see our evidence of relationship, and we did not particularly front load our I-129F -- we had copies of my visa/passport stamps, trip itineraries for (at the time of submission) all trips taken/planned, and for the two trips already taken, a boarding pass, one or two photos of both of us, and some miscellaneous credit card receipts for dates we went on. I thought it was a reasonable amount of primary and secondary evidence... my goal was to avoid RFEs, not to front load!

That said, I believe we had some things in our favor.

1) Both of us had interacted with the consulate prior to our interview, many times. All of those interactions had the other person cc'd and most included forwards from one of us to the other (when referencing previous correspondence). Granted, none of that means much of anything, but I'm sure it didn't hurt that we demonstrated that at least in regards to the visa process, we were discussing things in great detail.

2) We did have a failed attempt to get a tourist visa, specifically so he could visit me and meet my family. We were open and honest about the purpose in the B2 application and what not, but the fact we *tried* meant that they already had a file with his name on it, and my name in the application (as his then-girlfriend, with the purpose of the trip -- in writing -- as being to visit me and meet my family).

3) Over the last year and a half, I had gone to Brazil 3 previous occasions. Including the trip for the interview, I had spent nearly 8 weeks in Brazil with L. Multiple trips (which they did have evidence of with the I-129F petition) are typically in your favor.

4) Brazil is a fairly easy consulate if you do not have any automatic denial issues (drugs, overstay, ewi, etc) going on.

[woki1986 1]

I've got all of my typed conversations saved. It automatically saves. If I ever need it it'll come in handy. I've got all of my phone bills as well. If I ever need that it'll come in handy.

Gender Shouldn't be a problem. Doesn't mean that it isn't. Your case should be based on your relationship and interaction with each other, not who is older and so on.

[Brad and Vika 129]

It's the best move I ever made in my life.

We have a 29 year gap. I not only ended up with a nice looking caring and loving pinay wife but I have a 12 year old beautiful loving adopted daughter to boot. I got a thousand + more morning and goodnight kisses in the last 5 years than I ever got in life.

Sounds like it works for you. That is the important thing.

[ally and moh 3]

I am 14 years older than my hubby.

We applied for a K1 and it was returned to USCIS after a horrible interview.

I now know I should have gone with him, but it was hard because of work and other things here. We married in October in Jordan about a month after the bad experience. I KNOW age is what the CO held against us, although the 221g doesn't say that. It was in the things she said to him.

Now, I have made 2 more trips there (one 45 days, one 16 days) and I will be at the interview. I have printed the first page of EVERY conversation we've had online since the day we met (and we talk every day). I also have all my phone bills and evidence of the numerous text messages we send every day (averages about 60 a day, sometimes more). We also have about 3000 pictures now from my time in Jordan with him. I will take every piece of paper I have to take to prove we are real. But what I really hope is that the CO can LOOK at us and see how we feel. Our friends and family say it's clear in our pics and when we are together... so I hope the CO sees it too.

[gezzuzz 1]

While it maybe normal in the philippines for such a age difference.. for a american to marry a girl that is more then half his age is just plain wrong.. 60 years? come on.. you should be jailed for that.. plus you consider that the odds are the girls are even younger then they say..

[K and L 27]

Now, I have made 2 more trips there (one 45 days, one 16 days) and I will be at the interview. I have printed the first page of EVERY conversation we've had online since the day we met (and we talk every day). I also have all my phone bills and evidence of the numerous text messages we send every day (averages about 60 a day, sometimes more). We also have about 3000 pictures now from my time in Jordan with him. I will take every piece of paper I have to take to prove we are real. But what I really hope is that the CO can LOOK at us and see how we feel. Our friends and family say it's clear in our pics and when we are together... so I hope the CO sees it too.

Did you front load the second application? The consulate cannot deny anything that USCIS had in its possession, and they cannot refuse to see it, as they'd be getting it with the package from the NVC. While it's not something we did (because honestly, at the time, I didn't even think it'd be an issue after how both of our families didn't express any concerns regarding the age difference), I think it's something that should be considered in areas where there are strong cultural norms against older women (such as in the MENA region).

[Jim/Jan 1]

I, too am 69 and my Mexican fiancee is 30. We have been in love for past 2 years. Do we even stand a chance of being approved?

[jac_chappin 24]

K & L - I agree with you that 40 years will be a stretch but with proper doc it can be overcome. If the USC can be there I think it would help.

My fiancee is 22 and I'm 40 and didn't have any issues. I think what helped was that I was at interview as well.

OP - Best wishes!

[INgirl 0]

OK...you guys really are getting me worried now. I am the US citizen (female) and I am 7 1/2 years older than my fiance. He will have his appointment in London....should I be worried. He is very mature for his age.

[Brad and Vika 129]

I, too am 69 and my Mexican fiancee is 30. We have been in love for past 2 years. Do we even stand a chance of being approved?

Yes you can be approved. Just meet the requirements. The question of age WILL come up though, so be prepared.

[A + M 29]

OK...you guys really are getting me worried now. I am the US citizen (female) and I am 7 1/2 years older than my fiance. He will have his appointment in London....should I be worried. He is very mature for his age.

No! Don't worry!

Edited August 10, 2011 by A + M

[Jimbo_in_GA 17]

I know of one that has a 50 year gap. 24 pinay and 74 puti with a pecker pump!

No BS!

TMI! TMI! lol. seriousely!

[Gary and Alla 3,694]

Immigration practices discrimination in rejecting older woman who have younger spouses while letting old men bring in females that are years younger than their own children. You should be fine.

Probably not an issue in Philippines, document your relationship well.

[Gary and Alla 3,694]

OK...you guys really are getting me worried now. I am the US citizen (female) and I am 7 1/2 years older than my fiance. He will have his appointment in London....should I be worried. He is very mature for his age.

Not a problem in London because the government does not discriminate on age where such things are not culturally very rare. Such things in British based cultures are not rare. If your fiance was from a country with the highest fraud rate in the world and was going against long standing cultural traditions AND you didn't have a whole lot of documentation of your relationship, you could be denied. Age would not be the reason.

[Gary and Alla 3,694]

While it maybe normal in the philippines for such a age difference.. for a american to marry a girl that is more then half his age is just plain wrong.. 60 years? come on.. you should be jailed for that.. plus you consider that the odds are the girls are even younger then they say..

So you think adult women should not have a choice in who they marry? Who should decide?