Married almost 5 years!

[4theloveofhenry 8]

Most of you will not remember me but I have been around VJ since about 2005 maybe 2004 cant remember. Anywho, I married my hubby in 2006 but becuase of family issues we seperated for 2 years. In 2008 we reunited and began this journey. The time apart again took its toll but my husband and I still tried to make things work.

December 12, 2008 our first interview occured. We were given the form 221g asking for a DNA test. Due to money issues my husband and I were unable to pay for the DNA. A whole year passed and finally in Dec of last year we were able to come up with the money but we were unsure if our petition was still valid. In the meantime we decided to call NVC and see if we could go down the IR-1 path since so much time had passed. With all thanks to God not only was our case still open in Lagos but our I-130 was still active at NVC and this was well over a year of applying.

My duaghter and I got the DNA but my husband had to wait till Feb 19th just to take his portion. Then we had to wait till the 15 of March before they called us back to the embassy. Through all of this God aranged for the NVC to finish our paperwork at NVC March 1 and the same day our interview was scheduled through the NVC the embassy called us calling my husband back on the 17th of March. We were overjoyed but our joys turned to pain when they again sent him away asking for an affidavit of support and my divorce decree. All of which was supplied.

Then to make matters worse the embassy emailed me rescheduling our interview for the 13th of april. Or so we thought. Through much prayer at the last minute I decided to advise my husband to appear for his April 1st interview anyway. Well things didnt go as expected. They went even better and today my husband was approved for his visa.

The interview they scheduled for the 13th was in fact for his return on our K-3 case. Had he not attended his interview today my husband may not have gotten the visa and we may have had more delays.

So after almost 5 years of marriage my husband and I will be reunited next week! The moral of the story. Never give up! Never give up! Never give up! Also have faith in God and trust in him for everything!

[TheBears 9]

That's amazing! How wonderful for you! Congratulations! The Lord knows what He's doing.

[Pman's Wife 0]

What a touching and heartwarming story. Congratulations on your triumphs and all the best on the rest of your life's journey .

[Afrilaskan Queen 0]

Most of you will not remember me but I have been around VJ since about 2005 maybe 2004 cant remember. Anywho, I married my hubby in 2006 but becuase of family issues we seperated for 2 years. In 2008 we reunited and began this journey. The time apart again took its toll but my husband and I still tried to make things work.

December 12, 2008 our first interview occured. We were given the form 221g asking for a DNA test. Due to money issues my husband and I were unable to pay for the DNA. A whole year passed and finally in Dec of last year we were able to come up with the money but we were unsure if our petition was still valid. In the meantime we decided to call NVC and see if we could go down the IR-1 path since so much time had passed. With all thanks to God not only was our case still open in Lagos but our I-130 was still active at NVC and this was well over a year of applying.

My duaghter and I got the DNA but my husband had to wait till Feb 19th just to take his portion. Then we had to wait till the 15 of March before they called us back to the embassy. Through all of this God aranged for the NVC to finish our paperwork at NVC March 1 and the same day our interview was scheduled through the NVC the embassy called us calling my husband back on the 17th of March. We were overjoyed but our joys turned to pain when they again sent him away asking for an affidavit of support and my divorce decree. All of which was supplied.

Then to make matters worse the embassy emailed me rescheduling our interview for the 13th of april. Or so we thought. Through much prayer at the last minute I decided to advise my husband to appear for his April 1st interview anyway. Well things didnt go as expected. They went even better and today my husband was approved for his visa.

The interview they scheduled for the 13th was in fact for his return on our K-3 case. Had he not attended his interview today my husband may not have gotten the visa and we may have had more delays.

So after almost 5 years of marriage my husband and I will be reunited next week! The moral of the story. Never give up! Never give up! Never give up! Also have faith in God and trust in him for everything!

Your Experience ~ I was stunned, it made my heart feel so much for you as I read your experience. I cannot even imagine having to undergo a DNA test for one, it is hard enough to pay for the cost without that included and how personal and humiliating; and for 5 years you had to endure separation. I had to remain separate from my own husband for our first 2 years of marriage, due to finances, and I understand the emotional toll in my own ways. I cannot almost believe what you have had to experience - incredible that you never gave up. Your story has encouraged me beyond words, as it is me and my hubby's third year of marriage in a few days I found myself dwelling on some negative feelings. Just so incredibly happy for you!!! I will share this experience with my husband today. thank you for sharing - I wonder how you must feel, overjoyed and yet drained. Thank You!

[sachinky 465]

Congratulations. How incredible!

[Deb+Steve 13]

Every time this process feels like it's getting the better of me ... I will think of your story. Congratulations ...

[sara..... 371]

wow wow wow congratulations :dance: :dance: :dance: I remember your story and this is the best news i have seen in a while

sara

[Chibuogwu 0]

Congratulations Your story is an inspiration and it gives me hope.

[Zee Bee 61]

Congratulations

[Nwanyioma 11]

God Bless you and your husband and your family. Congratulations!!! All the Best.

Nwanyioma

[lori7734 6]

Most of you will not remember me but I have been around VJ since about 2005 maybe 2004 cant remember. Anywho, I married my hubby in 2006 but becuase of family issues we seperated for 2 years. In 2008 we reunited and began this journey. The time apart again took its toll but my husband and I still tried to make things work.

December 12, 2008 our first interview occured. We were given the form 221g asking for a DNA test. Due to money issues my husband and I were unable to pay for the DNA. A whole year passed and finally in Dec of last year we were able to come up with the money but we were unsure if our petition was still valid. In the meantime we decided to call NVC and see if we could go down the IR-1 path since so much time had passed. With all thanks to God not only was our case still open in Lagos but our I-130 was still active at NVC and this was well over a year of applying.

My duaghter and I got the DNA but my husband had to wait till Feb 19th just to take his portion. Then we had to wait till the 15 of March before they called us back to the embassy. Through all of this God aranged for the NVC to finish our paperwork at NVC March 1 and the same day our interview was scheduled through the NVC the embassy called us calling my husband back on the 17th of March. We were overjoyed but our joys turned to pain when they again sent him away asking for an affidavit of support and my divorce decree. All of which was supplied.

Then to make matters worse the embassy emailed me rescheduling our interview for the 13th of april. Or so we thought. Through much prayer at the last minute I decided to advise my husband to appear for his April 1st interview anyway. Well things didnt go as expected. They went even better and today my husband was approved for his visa.

The interview they scheduled for the 13th was in fact for his return on our K-3 case. Had he not attended his interview today my husband may not have gotten the visa and we may have had more delays.

So after almost 5 years of marriage my husband and I will be reunited next week! The moral of the story. Never give up! Never give up! Never give up! Also have faith in God and trust in him for everything!

U GIVE ME HOPE THANK U

[Jesu gbamila 0]

please post the questions that they asked your hubby at lagos embassy

[4theloveofhenry 8]

I really appreciate the responses, however the best part is seeing that sharing my story has really helped so many of you that are struggling in this journey. You all have brought tears to my eyes tonight.

I feel what so many of you all are still going through. Sometimes I cleaned my house to pass the time, sometimes I broke stuff in my house becuase of feeling so helpless, sometimes I cried, sometimes I shouted, sometimes I couldnt talk to my husband on the phone becuase the pain of being seperated was too great, and others if my husband had to hang up too soon I would throw a tantrum .

I know some days this process will seem as if it is just too much to bare and you will feel like cutting your losses and moving on. I know how it will feel when you come to VJ and see your fellow petitioner overjoyed that "their spouse just arrived", all the while you dont even know when the embassy will respond to your email or inquiry.I know how it feels but like I said before dont give up becuase one day it will be your turn to get that early morning call with your hubby/wifey on the phone saying "baby we got it"!

Hang in there and keep enduring, your day is coming!

[4theloveofhenry 8]

please post the questions that they asked your hubby at lagos embassy

This was my husbands 3rd interview so he wasnt asked much. He was asked "do you have the requested documents"

. He was also asked "have you ever talked to your mother in law", well I would guess so after 4 1/2 years

At the first interview he had in 2008 he was asked the following:

Where did you meet

What does your wife do for a living, I am on disability so they asked him what is my illness

How many children and what are their names

What is their fathers name

How old are they

At the second interview they asked him:

What does your duaghter say when she talks to you on the phone

What is your wifes illness(again) and what kind of illness is that. What are the symptoms.

The questions they ask are random but they are all questions that should be fairly easy to answer. Like I have yet to hear them ask "what is your spouses blood type" or "is their second toe longer than their big toe" Nothing crazy like that.

[DebbyNSeyi 15]

I really appreciate the responses, however the best part is seeing that sharing my story has really helped so many of you that are struggling in this journey. You all have brought tears to my eyes tonight.

I feel what so many of you all are still going through. Sometimes I cleaned my house to pass the time, sometimes I broke stuff in my house becuase of feeling so helpless, sometimes I cried, sometimes I shouted, sometimes I couldnt talk to my husband on the phone becuase the pain of being seperated was too great, and others if my husband had to hang up too soon I would throw a tantrum .

I know some days this process will seem as if it is just too much to bare and you will feel like cutting your losses and moving on. I know how it will feel when you come to VJ and see your fellow petitioner overjoyed that "their spouse just arrived", all the while you dont even know when the embassy will respond to your email or inquiry.I know how it feels but like I said before dont give up becuase one day it will be your turn to get that early morning call with your hubby/wifey on the phone saying "baby we got it"!

Hang in there and keep enduring, your day is coming!

Your story gives me much needed hope. I get so depressed some days that I find myself thinking about moving on. Even when I think about all that I've invested in this relationship - emotionally and financially - I find myself wondering (in my darkest moments) if it's all worth it. And then I talk to my fiance and I get back on track. But your words here really hit a deep chord in me and give me hope that one day I'll be posting some good news for everyone and I can encourage the ones that are having a difficult time. Thank you so much and may God bless you...

-Debby & Seyi