New moms and the post-baby sex slump

[one...two...tree 2,762]

If the husband has much free time to be thinking about sex 6 weeks after his wife having a baby, then she isn't putting him to work enough

I don't know...guys can have the flu with a high temperature and still be in the mood.

[dakay ♥ 10]

I don't know...guys can have the flu with a high temperature and still be in the mood.

[Scott & Lai 12]

I fail to see the huge problem in this. But I guess that's the "mom perspective".

Your husband wouldn't have a problem with waiting a year?

[rika60607 215]

Yes, of course, let's drug the Mom.

Wouldn't it be cheaper and healthier to hire a regular babysitter?

[Jenn! 918]

Your husband wouldn't have a problem with waiting a year?

Well, I'm not necessarily talking about myself, but so what if he did? Having children means making sacrifices. A year is not that long in the scheme of things. You'd want your exhausted wife to have sex with you out of guilt even if it's the furthest thing from her mind?

I just don't see the need to run out to therapy to fix the "problem". It seems to be a pretty common thing after having a child and things usually go back to normal eventually.

Edited March 29, 2010 by Jenn!

[DanielParul 50]

Oxytocin helps in bonding. Cuddling and kissing can actually help moms bond with their husbands again since all their energy is used in taking care of the baby.

It was good for us in a way since Daniel came back from his deployment when our baby was 5 months old and we were ready for us time again. He did not have much to complain about

[Nagishkaw 510]

You'd want your exhausted wife to have sex with you out of guilt even if it's the furthest thing from her mind?

You'd want to keep your husband happy and satisfied not out of guilt but because you honour your husband. You have heard of faking it, right....even if 'it's the furthest thing from her mind'? She may be tired, but not terminal.

[DanielParul 50]

Well, I'm not necessarily talking about myself, but so what if he did? Having children means making sacrifices. A year is not that long in the scheme of things. You'd want your exhausted wife to have sex with you out of guilt even if it's the furthest thing from her mind?

I just don't see the need to run out to therapy to fix the "problem". It seems to be a pretty common thing after having a child and things usually go back to normal eventually.

Agree

[DanielParul 50]

You'd want to keep your husband happy and satisfied not out of guilt but because you honour your husband. You have heard of faking it, right....even if 'it's the furthest thing from her mind'? She may be tired, but not terminal.

Faking it is alright but, you wouldn't want your wife getting on with it even if she is hurting and the scars have not healed and she is exhausted from not getting sleep for weeks, breasts sore and bleeding from BFing? That has nothing to do with honoring husbands . Its all about a little consideration for your wife.

[Obama 2012 1,714]

Yes, of course, let's drug the Mom.

Wouldn't it be cheaper and healthier to hire a regular babysitter?

For the wife's relaxation or to keep teh husband busy for the year?

[Susita 175]

Every woman's body heals differently. With my first c-section, it took about 2 months for me to not be in pain in that region.

This time, I'm hoping my recovery is easier. However, I know my husband and the most important thing to him is that me & the baby are fine. If he knows I'm in pain (like now at 9 months pregnant, for instance) he would never be upset that I didn't want to.

Plus, we were separated for months at a time when he was still in Peru. Honestly, there's more important things than sex, and I wouldn't purposely put myself in a situation where I'm in pain or could reopen an incision just so that he can get some He would never want me to anyway.

I guess I got one of the good guys

[sara535 15]

I think there is some compromise involved isnt there? no, a husband shouldnt have to go for a year without sex, but its probably unrealistic in many cases to think your sex life will immediately go back to what it was pre-baby.

[Ladylethal 12]

A year after my mom had my brother she had my other brother.

[one...two...tree 2,762]

A year after my mom had my brother she had my other brother.

My two oldest brothers were only 10 months apart. Somebody didn't wait the six weeks apparently.

[Jenn! 918]

My two oldest brothers were only 10 months apart. Somebody didn't wait the six weeks apparently.

A friend of mine had sex like hours after the birth in the bathroom of the hospital room.