New moms and the post-baby sex slump

[one...two...tree 2,762]

A friend of mine had sex like hours after the birth in the bathroom of the hospital room.

Wow.

[Obama 2012 1,714]

A friend of mine had sex like hours after the birth in the bathroom of the hospital room.

#######.

[caybee 21]

Oxytocin can also makes you really sleeeeeepy. The spirit may be willing...

I agree that this is normal, and it resolves itself in time. I think some women (and some men) expect everything to go back to normal once the woman's body has healed, but it can take a while. New parenthood is physically and emotionally exhausting (never knew how much!) and can affect both parents in different ways. If both partners realize that, try to empathize with each other, and keep communicating, it will work out. If either partner feels taken for granted or blamed because the sexual or emotional relationship isn't what it has been, the guilt and resentment will build, and it won't get any better.

[dakay ♥ 10]

A friend of mine had sex like hours after the birth in the bathroom of the hospital room.

[Staashi 371]

Well, I'm not necessarily talking about myself, but so what if he did? Having children means making sacrifices. A year is not that long in the scheme of things. You'd want your exhausted wife to have sex with you out of guilt even if it's the furthest thing from her mind?

I just don't see the need to run out to therapy to fix the "problem". It seems to be a pretty common thing after having a child and things usually go back to normal eventually.

I find that to be a little too long to wait for sex - one year is tremendous if you're living together day in day out. Yeah waiting to knock the boots with your spouse if they're away in another country or deployed somewhere, then yes, a year is acceptable. As a woman, if during that year I realized I didn't have any sex drive anymore I'd be seeing my gyno to say - #######!?!?!?!

Aside from that, those first few weeks after giving birth you are sooooooooo icky - c-section or natural delivery. You're bleeding up a storm, your boobs are shooting out milk and your kid wants to be on the ####### the entire time, and above it all you hurt like a mo-fo with stitches no less. So yes, I could imagine wanting to wait a few weeks.

One other thought, I also think that some women are scared to get pregnant again and are just not sure what birth control to use. That is why God invented condoms. If your man wants to do it and you're up for a little lovin' put a wrapper on it and go with the flow.

Edited March 30, 2010 by Staashi

[Calypso 464]

So this means it takes time for those porn milfs to enjoy their job.

[Calypso 464]

And oh... there was a magazine a few years back saying that dark chocolate helps in the production of oxytocin. I am uncertain whether I remember correctly what I've read but it sounded like that.

[spookyturtle 9,466]

Wow.

Yea, but it was #######.

[mawilson 2,133]

A friend of mine had sex like hours after the birth in the bathroom of the hospital room.

Please tell me it was with a nurse

[Kang Lang 7]

funny! i know the subject of the article Robyn, we used to work together and I remember the big production of her wedding and how she never wanted kids to wreck her body. oh how people change. that girl lived on one cup o noodle a day for months to fit into her wedding dress.

[Rebecca Jo 1,962]

As with everything else pregnancy wise, no two women are alike. I don't see why this would be any different. 6 weeks may be too long for some women to wait while others may be just like this woman. I don't see it as a reason not to have kids though.

You might if you were so socially challenged you can barely find someone to have sex with in the first place.

[Dr. Obvious 49]

A new mother's spouse or partner should do things that make her happy, as simple as picking up stray socks or looking after the kids, Marsh said. These gestures can help an exhausted mother feel loving toward her partner.

#######? That is called "pulling your own fcuking weight around the house". Glad I am not married to a moron who thinks he is doing me some fantastic favor worthy of the hardcorest of sex by watching his own kid or putting a dirty knife in the dishwasher. If that is how those men normally are, no wonder the women don't want sex from them. Hard to ** someone you resent.

[one...two...tree 2,762]

#######? That is called "pulling your own fcuking weight around the house". Glad I am not married to a moron who thinks he is doing me some fantastic favor worthy of the hardcorest of sex by watching his own kid or putting a dirty knife in the dishwasher. If that is how those men normally are, no wonder the women don't want sex from them. Hard to ** someone you resent.

You have a way with words. I agree...####### for tat (no pun intended) doesn't work in a marriage, IMO. I actually had a marriage counselor tell me that we should try brokering deals during my first marriage. It became a game of keeping score and would quickly fall apart as soon as one side called foul. Resentment was like an active volcano.

[Fandango 1,439]

#######? That is called "pulling your own fcuking weight around the house". Glad I am not married to a moron who thinks he is doing me some fantastic favor worthy of the hardcorest of sex by watching his own kid or putting a dirty knife in the dishwasher. If that is how those men normally are, no wonder the women don't want sex from them. Hard to ** someone you resent.

Bravo!

I meant to +1 this, but hit the wrong button

[Marina-Del 10]

Another example of why this (+) (-) thing is silly....

This story is just begging for a funny response from the funniest mod.

too bad a certain mod is on vacation....