Why there are pinays out there who feels so conceited about theirselves once they arrived here in the States?

[Eternal Love 2]

:dance:HELLO EVERYONE Puwede makisabat? Medyo nahuli na ako sa thread na to. Gusto ko lang i-validate na totoo ang obserbasyon ng lahat batay sa karanasan ko sa Home Depot dito sa Central Florida. Ako ang nahihiya sa mga asal ng mga Pinay na pumupunta sa store kasama ang mga American husbands nila. Ngitian mo, yuyuko sila o iiwas ang mga mukha.....okay pinalampas ko. nahiya kaya dahil akala mo lolo nila o tatay yung kasamang mga Amerikano? Ewan, napapailing na lang ako. Part-time cashier ako and sometimes loader..aba akala mo kung sino makapag-utos at maangas magsalita, mayabang. Ako nahihiya sa asawa nila na very humble and always utter " I APPRECIATE YOUR HELP or THANK YOU MUCH " phrase after you serve them. Naririning kong nagsasalita ng English, minsan gusto ko humagalpak sa tawa..... nakakatuwang pakinggan, he he he he he LOL!!! Lagi ko kinukuwento sa asawa ko na Filipina-born, naiiling na lang siya. Two years na ako rito, and madalang lang ang mga Filipino na kakilala namin na talagang di nagbago ang mga ugali kahit matatagal na sila rito.

[josedetshane 0]

I've met a lot of filipina women from church. And they share with me some of their experiences. First, the husband himself request her wife to speak english all the time so she will be able to practice more and speak well in the long run, regardless who she was talking too, practice practice practice. Second, the husband does not request but require, because the husband does not want to offend the people around them and with them who can't understand and speak tagalog. Third, the husband feels insecure when her wife speaks tagalog, regardless who they are with, especially when her wife is talking on the phone. I understand how these women go through and why they act this way. Only a secured relationship with God can remove our insecurity.

Without the confidence placed on God, we can never find contentment with our family nor our wordly belongings, for all things and people will pass away.

Some women find their value on the material stuff that they have, not because they want you to feel bad about it, but because they feel good telling it to others. Just like the OP said, a compliment is always appreciated

Let's be a little patient with our kababayans who act this way, they may have a deeper problem within them and only through making themselves look good externally alleviate their insecurities. We can't control them but we can certainly control our reactions towards them. God bless us all!

[Gumbolette 58]

I've met a lot of filipina women from church. And they share with me some of their experiences. First, the husband himself request her wife to speak english all the time so she will be able to practice more and speak well in the long run, regardless who she was talking too, practice practice practice. Second, the husband does not request but require, because the husband does not want to offend the people around them and with them who can't understand and speak tagalog. Third, the husband feels insecure when her wife speaks tagalog, regardless who they are with, especially when her wife is talking on the phone. I understand how these women go through and why they act this way. Only a secured relationship with God can remove our insecurity.

Without the confidence placed on God, we can never find contentment with our family nor our wordly belongings, for all things and people will pass away.

Some women find their value on the material stuff that they have, not because they want you to feel bad about it, but because they feel good telling it to others. Just like the OP said, a compliment is always appreciated

Let's be a little patient with our kababayans who act this way, they may have a deeper problem within them and only through making themselves look good externally alleviate their insecurities. We can't control them but we can certainly control our reactions towards them. God bless us all!

2 thumbs up for your post kabayan. It just gets into my nerves hearing some stories about husbands requiring/demanding their wives to speak English in all way even just talking to another Filipino friend. I would say these husbands are hurting the freedom of their wives to speak in their native tongue.

In some cases, yes its understandable to talk in English say if you are in the church with fellow church mates who are fil-am couples as well, then Yes. Speak in English. But say you are talking to your family back in the Philippines, I don't want it when my husband demands me to talk in English wherein my mom or sister is talking in tagalog. I don't want my mom to feel that I'm way up there. or feel conceited, just because I'm here in the states, I have to talk to talk in English. What I do is I just tell my husband what we talked about so he won't feel set aside.

I have no knowledge what these girls are going through but I can definitely say that if someone is not acting right, there is some sort of insecurity or self deprivation that they feel so they look for some ways to make their selves feel better.

Edited June 17, 2010 by Cutie_Patootie

[oliver-chris 3]

2 thumbs up for your post kabayan. It just gets into my nerves hearing some stories about husbands requiring/demanding their wives to speak English in all way even just talking to another Filipino friend. I would say these husbands are hurting the freedom of their wives to speak in their native tongue.

In some cases, yes its understandable to talk in English say if you are in the church with fellow church mates who are fil-am couples as well, then Yes. Speak in English. But say you are talking to your family back in the Philippines, I don't want it when my husband demands me to talk in English wherein my mom or sister is talking in tagalog. I don't want my mom to feel that I'm way up there. or feel conceited, just because I'm here in the states, I have to talk to talk in English. What I do is I just tell my husband what we talked about so he won't feel set aside.

I have no knowledge what these girls are going through but I can definitely say that if someone is not acting right, there is some sort of insecurity or self deprivation that they feel so they look for some ways to make their selves feel better.

Whoooow! that's awful.I have skype on alwyas so I can see my parents and sister with my pamangkin just doing their everyday thing. It's like CCTV hehehe! my husband doesnt mind. I can hear their voices atleast and see them from a far

[Psoas10 17]

My wife can speak whatever she wants. Also where I live it is 50% Ilocano so I hear it everyday and don't complain.

[robbie jeannet 5]

hi guys, most of you here were rigth...i also know one friend here, she keep asking material things from her husband without thinking what migth her husband feels about it. iphone, sets of diamond jewelry and etc. according to her, her husband will going to give her everything she ask because she know HE IS MADLY INLOVE WITH HER. first time we meet i keep talking to her,then later on when i discover what kind of person she is, i started to avoid her. why do we keep making friend to the abbusive people? they are just bad influence to us. THEIR JUST A DISTRUCTION TO OUR GOOD REPUTATION.

[oliver-chris 3]

hi guys, most of you here were rigth...i also know one friend here, she keep asking material things from her husband without thinking what migth her husband feels about it. iphone, sets of diamond jewelry and etc. according to her, her husband will going to give her everything she ask because she know HE IS MADLY INLOVE WITH HER. first time we meet i keep talking to her,then later on when i discover what kind of person she is, i started to avoid her. why do we keep making friend to the abbusive people? they are just bad influence to us. THEIR JUST A DISTRUCTION TO OUR GOOD REPUTATION.

Wow! she really said that all I can say is "GRABEH" :wacko:

[rheanick 42]

hi guys, most of you here were rigth...i also know one friend here, she keep asking material things from her husband without thinking what migth her husband feels about it. iphone, sets of diamond jewelry and etc. according to her, her husband will going to give her everything she ask because she know HE IS MADLY INLOVE WITH HER. first time we meet i keep talking to her,then later on when i discover what kind of person she is, i started to avoid her. why do we keep making friend to the abbusive people? they are just bad influence to us. THEIR JUST A DISTRUCTION TO OUR GOOD REPUTATION.

On the other hand, maybe the husband could afford those stuff and do love to give her those stuff. She is able to find someone who could afford to give her what ever she wants. ISN'T SHE LUCKY?

[sweet angel 5]

2 thumbs up for your post kabayan. It just gets into my nerves hearing some stories about husbands requiring/demanding their wives to speak English in all way even just talking to another Filipino friend. I would say these husbands are hurting the freedom of their wives to speak in their native tongue.

In some cases, yes its understandable to talk in English say if you are in the church with fellow church mates who are fil-am couples as well, then Yes. Speak in English. But say you are talking to your family back in the Philippines, I don't want it when my husband demands me to talk in English wherein my mom or sister is talking in tagalog. I don't want my mom to feel that I'm way up there. or feel conceited, just because I'm here in the states, I have to talk to talk in English. What I do is I just tell my husband what we talked about so he won't feel set aside.

I have no knowledge what these girls are going through but I can definitely say that if someone is not acting right, there is some sort of insecurity or self deprivation that they feel so they look for some ways to make their selves feel better.

Well honestly, my husband is one of the husband that ask thier wife's to speak english to practice more and speak well in long run.

So, whenever i talked to my family and my friends on the phone and he is beside me and ask me to speak english, i simply say no. I told him that how can i speak english when they are talking to me in tagalog or ilocano.. And it's really awkward to speak english when somebody talking to u in our native language. And i'm also aware how our kababayan react when u answered them in english Sometimes it's really gets into my nerves when my husband don't understand me y i have to talked to them in our language, but i try to explained the filipino culture so he will understand. Because he loves me so much, his in the process of learning tagalog now.

Edited June 18, 2010 by sweet angel

[natfaye 0]

all I can say is we better mind our own business and let everyone be happy... About english na pa slang-slang, we are in the english country and if the pinay want to speak english let her speak english its the best way for her to learn. We should not judge every pinay we meet because of the way she talk, the way she dress up... well for me I dont care really as long as they dont bother me personally... Its their choice let them be happy with their choice...

[natfaye 0]

I didn't intended to show off the "SIRAAN" portion dear. As to what echoed above from my posts, this can SERVE as a wake up call sa mga pinay na kung umasta dito sa amerika ay parang mga reyna reynahan, mga mahahangin, at pinaka kita ang kanilang ka walang edukadahan. Isn't so shameful? I feel pity for them since they are causing their selves to not find a real friendship between fellow pinays around the area.

I don't mind making friends with pinay,and you are very right that if they don't act well... IGNORE.

I must admit, I do select my friends. Because like the old sayings said, "tell me who your friends are, and I'll tell you who you are".

AGAIN, I was addressing the beautiful pinays to just ACT right, that's the purpose of this post. So I didn't wish to get this topic be ignored and neglected.

"SIRAAN" is a right word here... So what if they act like that? Its their life, thats their choice, let them be happy and enjoy it. You cant please everybody... Education? If you are an educated person keep your mouth shut and try to understand them. Dont judge every pinay everyone have our own way to find a right friendship, dont be pity for them since you dont know the real person. I have so many filipina friends here and its so much fun to be with them it feels like Im home in the Philippines. Maybe ur the one who need a wake up call LOL... maybe ur so stressed u better mingle with them and have company, fun and laughters... LOL

[oliver-chris 3]

On the other hand, maybe the husband could afford those stuff and do love to give her those stuff. She is able to find someone who could afford to give her what ever she wants. ISN'T SHE LUCKY?

CORRECT !!! :dance: :dance: SARAP naman set of Diamonds , I wonder ilang karats hehehehe, sana ako rin!!!

"SIRAAN" is a right word here... So what if they act like that? Its their life, thats their choice, let them be happy and enjoy it. You cant please everybody... Education? If you are an educated person keep your mouth shut and try to understand them. Dont judge every pinay everyone have our own way to find a right friendship, dont be pity for them since you dont know the real person. I have so many filipina friends here and its so much fun to be with them it feels like Im home in the Philippines. Maybe ur the one who need a wake up call LOL... maybe ur so stressed u better mingle with them and have company, fun and laughters... LOL

It's getting hot in here

[oliver-chris 3]

Well honestly, my husband is one of the husband that ask thier wife's to speak english to practice more and speak well in long run.

So, whenever i talked to my family and my friends on the phone and he is beside me and ask me to speak english, i simply say no. I told him that how can i speak english when they are talking to me in tagalog or ilocano.. And it's really awkward to speak english when somebody talking to u in our native language. And i'm also aware how our kababayan react when u answered them in english Sometimes it's really gets into my nerves when my husband don't understand me y i have to talked to them in our language, but i try to explained the filipino culture so he will understand. Because he loves me so much, his in the process of learning tagalog now.

Same here my husband is learning tagalog, he has an application in his iphone about tagalog words and how to pronounce it , he wants to interact more with my family so he wants to learn, he wants to blend .So far I'm liking the pinays here in Anchorage, I stay humble , no competitions for me,

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[natfaye 0]

hi guys, most of you here were rigth...i also know one friend here, she keep asking material things from her husband without thinking what migth her husband feels about it. iphone, sets of diamond jewelry and etc. according to her, her husband will going to give her everything she ask because she know HE IS MADLY INLOVE WITH HER. first time we meet i keep talking to her,then later on when i discover what kind of person she is, i started to avoid her. why do we keep making friend to the abbusive people? they are just bad influence to us. THEIR JUST A DISTRUCTION TO OUR GOOD REPUTATION.

As I know americans are really generous, he love her so much and that simple stuff would make her happy so he give it to her. As long as he didnt bought it using his credit card or else baka hindi na sya makahinga sa utang nya hahahaha!

Edited June 18, 2010 by natfaye

[natfaye 0]

I do agree with the post below. I also believe that majority of the Filipinos who are now here in the US are not like what the OP is trying to imply mainly because Filipinos are molded with good values. Incase, you'll encounter hypocrites, just ignore them because hypocrites are everywhere.

Edited June 18, 2010 by natfaye