My life is over....

[Deputy Purple 1,294]

Thrpeeoh, it looks like she feels that you are being domineering. Maybe its your style of communication causing that, or maybe its your monitoring her spending and housework that she resents. It seems like she needs more space, freedom, and ownership of things.

I completely don't get where you're coming from on this one...

He only said something about her spending when she had exhausted all of her "spend as like" money and dipped into the household bills till, how is that monitoring her spending.

He re-washed dishes that were still dirty & greasy, that's not monitoring either.

She is being childish and over-bearing. To me it sounds like she hasn't made the transition from living at her parents house as their child to living in the marital home as his spouse & partner. He action would indicate that she isn't interested in making that transition either.

I think her visit to the Philippines will be an interesting time for both of them.

[oliver-chris 3]

So, after my last post we straightened out our problems. I agreed that she could go home to visit her family in a few months. We have even purchased her tickets using the money she had been saving for our trip that was supposed to happen next year, which now won't because we won't have the money. Everything was going fine, until tonight.

Yesterday she informed me we were getting another cat and that her friend will be here tomorrow to spend the day, bringing the kitten and the friends baby. We had been trying to find another cat to keep our current one company while we were both out at work, so no issues there. And her friend coming over is also not an issue. After informing me of this I asked for her help cleaning the house, which hasen't been done in months, I have been too busy working on the house making repairs, and she has been to busy chatting or watching filipino shows on the internet.

We both worked together and finally put the bed in the guestroom together. She then proceeded to clean the area around her computer while I started cleaning upstairs. When I came down stairs she had decided to move the couch a little bit and was washing the clothes and dishes. I finished vacuming the house and cleaned the bathroom, and she was watching her shows again. When I finished she wanted to goto bed, so we went. No problems.

We got home tonight and I asked her to help clean the kitchen, and she got mad again. She thinks I married her because I wanted a maid. Its my house, I should clean it. WE bought the house 6+ months ago, but due to the mortgage it only has my name on it. She has no credit history and it would have hurt our application to have her on it, or so we were told. I still haven't found out if it was true or not but she holds it over my head at times that her name is not on the house. I'm trying to leave her alone because she is acting like a child again and I don't want to escalate again. She she is saying things like we can't work things out, she is tired (which over time I think I have finally understood what it means to her, which makes no sense too me) and when she goes home she probably won't come back. After 2 years she still does not consider this home.

I have since cleaned the kitchen and was starting to rewash the dishes, she doesn't do a good job if there are a lot and some of them still have greese on them because she doesnt change the water when it gets too dirty. She got mad at me again for rewashing them.

Currently she is laying down on the couch with her iphone playing music up loud so I can hear it 3 rooms away.

WELL THERE IS ALWAYS TWO SIDE OF A COIN, I DON'T BELIEVE THAT SHE WOULD GIVE SUCH REACTIONS IF THERE IS NOTHING WRONG ABOUT YOU/AND I DONT BELIEVE THAT SHE IS A BIPOLAR/CRAZY FILIPINA, INSTEAD OF YOU NARRATING " THE STORY OF YOUR LIFE" , MANY VJ PEOPLE ALREADY SUGGESTED MARRIAGE COUNSELLING, SO IF YOU WANT THIS MARRIAGE GO AHEAD AND DO IT IF NOT GO AHEAD AND TELL IT STRAIGHT TO YOUR WIFE'S FACE THAT YOU DONT WANT HER ANYMORE. .IT'S NOT JUST HER ,IT'S ALSO YOU

Edited April 14, 2010 by oliver-chris

[charlie&pam 1]

WELL THERE IS ALWAYS TWO SIDE OF A COIN, I DON'T BELIEVE THAT SHE WOULD GIVE SUCH REACTIONS IF THERE IS NOTHING WRONG ABOUT YOU/AND I DONT BELIEVE THAT SHE IS A BIPOLAR/CRAZY FILIPINA, INSTEAD OF YOU NARRATING " THE STORY OF YOUR LIFE" , MANY VJ PEOPLE ALREADY SUGGESTED MARRIAGE COUNSELLING, SO IF YOU WANT THIS MARRIAGE GO AHEAD AND DO IT IF NOT GO AHEAD AND TELL IT STRAIGHT TO YOUR WIFE'S FACE THAT YOU DONT WANT HER ANYMORE. .IT'S NOT JUST HER ,IT'S ALSO YOU

WOW!!!!....here we go who had the popcorn!!!