Am I being unreasonable here...?

[danae 0]

I agree that the question is somewhat valid...but the woooos are unnecessary imo.

However, perfect is sat here sharing what she sees. Her perception is her reality. You don't need to hear both sides to see that there's a problem! I'm sure none of us would exaggerate marital discord for the sake of a thread...so you have to take it with a grain of salt that it's prolly worse than what she's saying (such as the 'I"m hormonal so let me rant' stuff)

We're not here to hear both sides of a story & then say who's right and who's wrong. We're just here to listen.

Well said

[mrc 0]

Well, you have to take the "woo"'s with a grain of salt. There is nothing wrong with his message. He makes a valid point.

Perhaps perfect should be discussing all this with her husband. If he doesn't wish to listen to what she has to say, maybe she should take action.

[Ric Flair 0]

We're not here to hear both sides of a story & then say who's right and who's wrong. We're just here to listen.

Wooooo!

Ric Flair says:

90% of the posters should not have posted then.

Everyone knows Ric Flair takes care of the ladies. You can't be first but you can be next.

Ric Flair also says:

You can't fix a problem without all the facts. You gotta walk that line to get to the truth.

Wooooooo!

*chops LisaD and puts her back in her place and washes her dirty mouth with soap*

[gimygirl 0]

after reading your post ... it was such a shock to see that your screenname is: Perfect ... sorry, but that just doesn't exist.

maybe i can offer a few kind words:

it appears as though your situation is indeed one of co-dependency and that this man deliberately took advantage of your nurturing and caring personal qualities ... Sadly there are men (and occasonally women) who deliberately target people whom they feel they will easily gain control over and be able to manipulate to enable them to achieve their own ends.

I can only second what has already been said very wisely here: until you are ready and able to accept that this relationship can and will only ever be destructive to you, you will continue to subject yourself to this abuse. Once you realize this man will never change, but that the abuse will only escalate as you fail to bow and scrape to his demands, then you will empower yourself to regain your life, your self-esteem and the courage

and strength to change your situation.

You are a beautiful woman and I feel the pain you are experiencing, but until you understand what co-dependency is and how to deal with the unhealthy patterns it exhibits, I fear you will continue to believe that you love this man and allow yourself to continue to be destroyed emotionally by him.

Reading may seem like a ridiculous thing to suggest at this time, but I would suggest reading a book called Co-dependent no more. I can guarantee once you pick it up you won't be able to put it down, you will find yourself agreeing out loud with what it says and relating as a woman to how it describes a co-dependent realationship.

Perhaps consider seeing a psychologist who can help you unravel why this relationship, though obviously unhealthy, is such a draw for you, why your self-esteem is so low and how to enable and protect yourself from this in the future.

One thing I've learned in life is that we all have choices. Some are harder to make than others, but at the end of the day, you can't blame anyone else if you know the right choice to make but you choose not to make it, for whatever reason.

Only you can know what is right for you and only you can do it, but sometimes we need other people who are not so emotionally entagled to take a step back for us and help us see reality.

I hope you find the strength and courage to do what you need to do - and soon!

great advice, huh? i hope they seem familiar, because they are the same exact words you offered someone else during her time of need. i think you need to take this very advice for yourself because it fits you to a tee.

best of luck with everything ... please remember that you don't deserve this!

Edited August 2, 2006 by gimygirl

[mrc 0]

gimygirl, I really enjoy your color scheme. Can you please make a post in cian the next time?

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great advice, huh? i hope they seem familiar, because they are the same exact words you offered someone else during her time of need.

You scare me.

[Fandango 1,439]

You can't fix a problem without all the facts. You gotta walk that line to get to the truth.

You think you can fix this problem? Only perfect can!

[w¡n9Nµ7 §£@¥€r 123]

You can't fix a problem without all the facts. You gotta walk that line to get to the truth.

You think you can fix this problem? Only perfect can!

Lisa,

Shush before Mr. Flair tries to chop your boobs. He chopped incanada's earlier and poor thing is still traumatized.

[irishgirl73 0]

great advice, huh? i hope they seem familiar, because they are the same exact words you offered someone else during her time of need.

You scare me.

she scares me too

[Fandango 1,439]

You can't fix a problem without all the facts. You gotta walk that line to get to the truth.

You think you can fix this problem? Only perfect can!

Lisa,

Shush before Mr. Flair tries to chop your boobs. He chopped incanada's earlier and poor thing is still traumatized.

he chops my boobs, I'll kick him in the balls

[Ric Flair 0]

You can't fix a problem without all the facts. You gotta walk that line to get to the truth.

You think you can fix this problem? Only perfect can!

Wooooo!

Everyone on this thread thinks they have the solution to her problem so be fair to Flair. Ric Flair offered a different perspective as someone who is approaching the end of their career, I have been around the ring a few times.

Slick Ric still talks the talk and walks the walk.

You may not like it, but learn to love it because it is the truth.

Woooooo!

[w¡n9Nµ7 §£@¥€r 123]

Wooooo!

Everyone on this thread thinks they have the solution to her problem so be fair to Flair. Ric Flair offered a different perspective as someone who is approaching the end of their career, I have been around the ring a few times.

Slick Ric still talks the talk and walks the walk.

You may not like it, but learn to love it because it is the truth.

Woooooo!

I like your style, homes.

[Fandango 1,439]

You can't fix a problem without all the facts. You gotta walk that line to get to the truth.

You think you can fix this problem? Only perfect can!

Wooooo!

Everyone on this thread thinks they have the solution to her problem so be fair to Flair. Ric Flair offered a different perspective as someone who is approaching the end of their career, I have been around the ring a few times.

Slick Ric still talks the talk and walks the walk.

You may not like it, but learn to love it because it is the truth.

Woooooo!

Ok, you're right...sorry! Your 'wooos' set me off tho

[w¡n9Nµ7 §£@¥€r 123]

You can't fix a problem without all the facts. You gotta walk that line to get to the truth.

You think you can fix this problem? Only perfect can!

Wooooo!

Everyone on this thread thinks they have the solution to her problem so be fair to Flair. Ric Flair offered a different perspective as someone who is approaching the end of their career, I have been around the ring a few times.

Slick Ric still talks the talk and walks the walk.

You may not like it, but learn to love it because it is the truth.

Woooooo!

Ok, you're right...sorry! Your 'wooos' set me off tho

I gotta give it to him, I don't think I'm capable of being "in-character" for quite this long, not even on a message board.

[Ric Flair 0]

You can't fix a problem without all the facts. You gotta walk that line to get to the truth.

You think you can fix this problem? Only perfect can!

Lisa,

Shush before Mr. Flair tries to chop your boobs. He chopped incanada's earlier and poor thing is still traumatized.

he chops my boobs, I'll kick him in the balls

Wooooo!

You'd kick Slick Ric in the balls for not taking you to space mountain sooner.

Woooo!