Yardies a home and a farrin, Part 25!

[MRStee 19]

Hi Ells, I am so sorry to hear about this. Whatever happened to the honeymoon phase? To be honest, the first year was rough for us also and this second year I can finally say we are finally "speaking the same language" so to speak.

Anyway, my advice is for you is to seek some talk therapy--either through a church, school, a mutual friend who is an older person, etc. It sounds like he is used to "covering up his actions (lying)" for no reason and it is a habit he defers to when questioned on the spot. This is just my opinion--It does not sound to me that he is up to anything insidious, it just seems that somehow your relationship has become one of mother/son or teacher/student, instead of equal partners. I do think it is worth it to give it your all before you give up. Much luck and Best Wishes!

Very well said!

[Always Blessed 1]

Start looking for prices for airline tickets in his presence and ask him which day he'd like to fly back to JA for good... Mabye that will wake him up!

I just about spit my water across the office.

[MRStee 19]

CONGRATS to your husband!

omg- its like we share lives!

D had his driving test today- and he passed as well!

he's so happy

Congrats to you D!

[MRStee 19]

You typed it over ?? Wow that was fast...

Well I prayed over it and then started to submit it so we shall see what happens.

See lookie der first you were complaining and now yuh scared... LOL

Yes I type extremely fast. Whenever my daughters friends come over she makes me show them how fast I can type.. and I believe in spell check.. it is your friend!

[TAMH 2]

No Ells "BEAT DAT AZZ" Sike okay nah don't do that lol.. Tell him either shape up or ship out and what date did you say you wanted to go back to JA for good! and add a few rassclots in it!!

:rofl: You're a trip.

[kjenkins86 5]

Dills why you hitting, I'm mean licking the matress, lol!

Dada: I only felt guilty after and not guilty that I'm doing him (my ex) wrong but guilty that I'm disrespecting myself but what the heck I'm glad I did!

Dada I didn't hit him, my hand did, lol. But seriously I gotta stop because as I said before it will get ugly the day he dares try to hit me back. I did go back, doc still wasn't there so I'm going back thursday...

TAMH some people also lie because they're dumb coz G lies for the simpliest things!

MrsTee I like the ticket idea you gave Ells but I tried that when I was in JA (I threathened to leave). Maybe she can make up a ticket in microsoft word, pack his bag and maybe that'll straighten him up...

[dillon 6]

Dills why you hitting, I'm mean licking the matress, lol!

Dada: I only felt guilty after and not guilty that I'm doing him (my ex) wrong but guilty that I'm disrespecting myself but what the heck I'm glad I did!

Dada I didn't hit him, my hand did, lol. But seriously I gotta stop because as I said before it will get ugly the day he dares try to hit me back. I did go back, doc still wasn't there so I'm going back thursday...

TAMH some people also lie because they're dumb coz G lies for the simpliest things!

MrsTee I like the ticket idea you gave Ells but I tried that when I was in JA (I threathened to leave). Maybe she can make up a ticket in microsoft word, pack his bag and maybe that'll straighten him up...

I was pissed and I had to get my anger out some how. LOL but it was funny.

I like this idea. But with my luck it will backfire.

[MRStee 19]

Hey Ells,

My heart goes out to you! As soon as I read your post it felt like my heart leaped from my chest into my stomach. I have to applauded you for being so opened about your marriage.

So the reason for me writing other then the above is because I have felt what you are feeling right now and I believe more then a few of us are going through the same thing and just do not have it in us to post it. I do not know if you are a spiritual person or not but I can tell you to pray, I rest to sure you that it has helped extremely in my relationship with my husband. He is a great guy yet he has some flaws and extra baggage having a baby mother here in the states actually a hour away from where we live it is a difficult situation because the baby mother makes it so.

Anyway there is book I started reading and it is helping out alot and believe it or not I am seeing changes almost immediately. The book is called the power of a praying wife By Stormie Omartian. If you can and want to it is a very good investmnent and it really soothes the soul, soften your heart towards the man you loved and became one with even when he does anger you.

I just want you to know if you ever need to talk I am here, I know I do not say much usually on the board but I do have good listening ears. If you do not mind I would love to pray for your marriage, as I believe you truely love your husband.

Lord I pray for your blood and protection to heal the wounds in this marriage where there is lies I pray they will be repented of and replaced with truth. Father I ask that you open Lehi's heart and allow the love to overflow into his wife life, Father you gave your blessing upon them to marry and it is stated in the Bible that you have given us the power of authority over all the power of the enemy (Luke 10:19) and when we pray Lord we can do great damage to the enemies plan to destroy his work. Father we know this is not your plan for our/their life and we take authoriity over this marriage NOW! This marriage will not be destroyed We/ I will not allow confusion, miscommunication , wrong attitudes, and bad choices to erode what we/they are trying to build together hurt and unforgivness will not lead this marriage to divorce.

We build a hedge of protection around this marriage Lord and we bind the enemies hand , it is stated what we bind here on earth is bound in Heaven and what ever we loose on earth is loosed in heaven (Matthew 18:18) So therfore father we call peace and harmonoy, love and kindess, respect and honor to this marriage and we pray that your hand has healed this marriage and ended the wrong doing now.

In the name of you Son Jesus Christ our Lord and savor we pray AMEN and AMEN.

Take care Julianne

Julianne: I want to personally thank you for this prayer!!! Even though you directed it towards Ells/Lehi.. you don't know how it spoke wonders to the soul. I think I can speak for some of us here that are going through various situations.. we needed to hear something like this.. Thank you from the bottom of my heart for this....

Yes, Ells, it takes a strong person to come on this board and discuss personal issues. This is one of the reasons that we can relate to one another because we share a common link and you had the strength to say something maybe one of us wanted to and just couldn't do it!! You remind me of myself at times and I respect you for that. Don't worry or fear because whatever is meant to happen will happen! ((((((((((hugs)))))))))

[MRStee 19]

Good Morning Yardies...I hope everyone is having a good week. Well my hubby started working with my friend/coworker Landscaping company today and he had to take the Metro Bus and Train all by himself. He got ther so it was ok. We are also packing to move on Friday so its been hectic. Me with my 2 jobs one at Jackson Hewitt so the end of tax season rush and hours are killing me. Now hubby started working (thank you lord) and my step son will be here on the 30th. Whew I feel so damn tired

Rightly so, you have a lot going on mama... good luck with everyting!

Good Morning!!!! With all that has been going on, I forgot to mention that Acory received his biometrics letter Friday past(4/9/10). His appt is 4/23/10, next Friday. I before hand was thinking i'd have to push apt closer when we get one. But the 23rd actually isn't that far so we can wait until then.

Go Cory.. "why fix it if it aint broke"

[MRStee 19]

Words of Encouragement from Tyler Perry:

I was looking through my personal photo album the other day, and I ran

across some pictures of my mother from last year. I was looking at her

face in these pictures...she was so happy. I had asked her to take a walk

with me, as I was trying to get her to do a little exercise. She was so

tired since she had just come in from dialysis, but whenever I asked her

to do something she would always put on a smile and try it. She and I

walked very slowly up her driveway. She was laboring but still so happy.

She was telling me how much she loved her house and how thankful she was.

She said she never would have imagined being able to live in such a fine

house (her words). She said she always wanted to know what it was like to

live like Mrs. Chancellor (from "The Young and the Restless") and wondered

what it would be like to have a maid and "now I know" she said. We

laughed about that for a second and then I asked her how that made her

feel... she quickly said "loved." So, as I looked at that picture, I

thought about that moment with tears in my eyes and I began to get really

sad. Then I looked down at the bottom of the picture and saw the date, it

was January 4th 2009.

I asked myself this question, if someone had told me that by the same time

next year she would have passed, would I have any regrets? I thought

about it for a few seconds and I can honestly say that I have no regrets.

With that thought, I felt the greatest sense of peace come over me. I

have no regrets. That is the best feeling. I know that I did everything

in my power for her. I can truly say there is not one thing I would

change. I didn't realize how much of a blessing that was until I thought

about it.

I want to ask you that question today. Think about this...if I said to

you, by this time next year, someone you love the most will not be here,

would you have any regrets?

What a thought, right?

We waste so much time on petty grievances and arguments, being angry about

things that don't really matter. If I can tell you anything, it would be

to fix the things you have done wrong. We live in so much fear by not

telling the people we love how much they mean to us, or never even

revealing to them that we love them.

You don't want something to happen to the person you love and not have had

to have a chance to fix it. Or, for something to happen and you let that

person go to the grave not knowing they were truly loved. The guilt can

be overwhelming.

So take some time today to mend some fences and make peace. Give some

love and get some love. Even if you try and the other person doesn't want

to hear it, you will rest better knowing that you tried to fix it, that

you tried to share it. Just knowing you tried, period, is enough to give

you peace.

This life is short and no man knows the day or the hour.

Tyler Perry

[Always Blessed 1]

Julianne: I want to personally thank you for this prayer!!! Even though you directed it towards Ells/Lehi.. you don't know how it spoke wonders to the soul. I think I can speak for some of us here that are going through various situations.. we needed to hear something like this.. Thank you from the bottom of my heart for this....

Yes, Ells, it takes a strong person to come on this board and discuss personal issues. This is one of the reasons that we can relate to one another because we share a common link and you had the strength to say something maybe one of us wanted to and just couldn't do it!! You remind me of myself at times and I respect you for that. Don't worry or fear because whatever is meant to happen will happen! ((((((((((hugs)))))))))

MrsTee,

You are welcome! Very welcome and anyone else that needed the prayer as well.

[MRStee 19]

Morning, everyone!

I need to catch up from Saturday, but I did want to drop some good news: Steven got an A on his Business class test! So far, he has a B in the class, but I hope he gets A's on the next 2 tests to get an A overall.

Steven!

[MRStee 19]

Hey everyone. Momma is getting her Non immigrant visa to visit us. I see the Ds forms changed to doing just one DS160. Anyone know where I can send her to get this filled out. They have no computer. I was going to do it and fed ex it down, but it looks like you have to submit a passport photo electronically on the form.

Also, I think that they can only pay the fee at NCB now and not Paymaster. Been a while since we did all this again....help help!! : )

I dont have the answer but best wishes for mom!

[MRStee 19]

Great!

Oh ok.

On another note I'm so P'D OFF!

I'm sure I told y'all I'm not sure if I'm preggo, anyhow I had an appt today and he knew. So I woke up, got dressed and left. At the doc office he called and said he's coming so I said fine. Waiting and looking out for him, waitng and looking out for him Then he calls to say he's drinking tea he'll be there in a minute so I said ok. The receptionist came out and told us the doc is gonna be late so we can leave or wait so I left without calling him, I walk in the door to see him sitting on the computer on FACEFRIGGGINBOOK!! His response "you couldn't call and tell me you left the doc, what if I had walked up there?" So I slapped the ###### outta his azz (shouldn't have) and grabbed my laptop and walked away. Now tell me, if you don't wanna come to the doctor's office just fcuking say so, but don't have me sitting there looking out for you and here fcuking rapping on facebook. Rant Over.

I'm trying my best not to put my hands on him because I'd stab his azz if he dare try to hit me back but I was pissed

slaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaap

Sike, maybe you shouldn't have slapped him but you have the right to be upset.. See thats why I just know you are pregnant... look at all the emotions you are showing! I bet he wont do that ish again lol

[DaDa 1]

Start looking for prices for airline tickets in his presence and ask him which day he'd like to fly back to JA for good... Mabye that will wake him up!

I am rrrrrooooooollllliiiiiinnnnnn!!!! Tee