Yardies a home and a farrin, Part 25!

[Always Blessed 1]

Morning, everyone!

I need to catch up from Saturday, but I did want to drop some good news: Steven got an A on his Business class test! So far, he has a B in the class, but I hope he gets A's on the next 2 tests to get an A overall.

Nat That is great! Go Steven get them A's.

[Always Blessed 1]

Always Blessed: Amen sista, great prayer and avdvice to Ells.

Lady C: congrats to G on his 1st job!!

Didn't you move a few months ago, maybe I'm mistaken. Where you moving to?

Wow C you're doing alot, make that money girl and I hope you catch a break soon.

MoAcory: great that he got his appt, goodluck on the rest of the process!

Wow that's crazy, I gotta start looking at my statements because I usually shread them since I pay my bills online.

Thank you KJ I only say and do what I feel is right and even when others or myself are going through things I know it always helps to pray not only for myself but for those who are in similar situationor have similar troubled feelings

[LadyC 1]

Always Blessed: Amen sista, great prayer and avdvice to Ells.

Lady C: congrats to G on his 1st job!!

Didn't you move a few months ago, maybe I'm mistaken. Where you moving to?

Wow C you're doing alot, make that money girl and I hope you catch a break soon.

MoAcory: great that he got his appt, goodluck on the rest of the process!

Wow that's crazy, I gotta start looking at my statements because I usually shread them since I pay my bills online.

KJ I was looking for a place before but now we found one so here come the move. Im moving 5 min from where I live now so no major changes. I will relax after this weekend

[kjenkins86 5]

Girl Girl Girl I almost dropped out my seat reading this. Whoo if dis dont bring back memories. My husband well X lied about everything and I mean everything it was stupid shyt he lied about to the point where you looked at him like dawg serious stop it. I think he had a condition to be honest because there was no need fi it all. Imma keep it real with you Ells Im not sure if he will stop. Mines didnt. Hopefully with prayer and some real attitude he can change but it just bites me in de butt why a grown rass man has to lie. I used to tell mi hubby all de tem. I cant beat you so why do you have to lie to me what you think you gwaan get jumped on or something.

The phone calls jeez dats another thing. I swear these cell phones can be your best and worst friends. God gave us the best and worst gift woman intuition. When it surfaces its normally not wrong. You get that feeling in the pit of your stomach that something isnt right and its up to you rather to ignore it or act on it. I tell you when it kicks in full drive its no joke. I used to play detective. Some of the things I did I am not proud of and I would have you all ladies on the ground rolling but I think Im almost the best there ever was. I always found out the truth rather I wanted to or not and I vow that I will never live that way again. What used to hurt my feelings was my hubby had so called friends that he called over twenty times a day. It used to burn me up like what is der to talk about you dont even call me that much. I told him youre probably a pain in her rass.

Anywho I feel you on how do you expect me to trust you if you never tell me the truth. I also dont blame you for making your presence known. I really hope this all works its way out. I dont think you need to consider divorce just yet. See if you can get him to go to the counseling and put Lasheka away and talk to him for minute. Let him know youre at the edge and about to let this marriage go. If he is not willing to work on it then neither are you. Its too early in the marriage for all this nonsense already. You r are supposed to be his best friend and he shouldnt have to lie to you about anything. Rather it will hurt you or not just tell you the truth. Let him know Ells. Give him a serious look at let him know you will not be having this conversation again. This is it. Tell him your going to give it your all and try to get things back on track but if he isnt in agreement let you know now or forever hold your peace.

Dada I agree with your advice goven but sometimes you sit down and have a serious talk and think that everything is all gravy then a few weeks later they're at it again so it's as if you're at your wits end with talking and it's extremely frustrating because you see no progress. As you said, if he's not willing to work on it then she shouldn't be willing either because you can't get help if you don't admit that you need help.

Don't feel bad about being an investigator, you gotta do what you have to do to protect yourself and your feelings because when men/women are cheating they don't think about their SO and I know this because I've cheated and have been cheated on.

Edited April 13, 2010 by kjenkins86

[dillon 6]

CONGRATS to your husband!

omg- its like we share lives!

D had his driving test today- and he passed as well!

he's so happy

Wow we really are living parallel lives sometimes. Congrats to your hubby too...no does your hubby have a job if so send us some good vibes that Mikel gets one soon.

[besaangel 18]

Afternoon Yardies!

I have a bunch to reply to but I'm feeling some urgency that I just need to put some business out here first. I may need to be talked down off the ledge so to speak today. I'm gonna preface by stating that I'm not distraught, not very upset, nothing....just sort of matter-of-fact about what I'm feeling right now. I'm not going to jump to any conclusions or decisions but I'm definitely mulling things over. So here it is:

My hubby is a chronic liar. Since we have lived together full-time since he arrived here, all of the lying has become more apparent. He lies about the smallest of things at times & although I don't necessary think (or want to accuse him) he's cheating, he's behaved in ways that are suspect & it's really coming to light now that he's on my cell phone plan & I can monitor things. I really don't want to go into detail cause it would be too long but basically, I've caught him in lies all along but have a specific incident on Saturday that I was able to directly call him on a lie because I could see the phone log. He received a call while we were out Saturday & I could hear it was a pretty basic (albeit short) conversation with a female. He said he'd give a call later & the response was like this (with a high-pitched very feminine voice), "Oookaaaaaaaay byyyyyyyyyyeeeeee!" After I asked who it was he tried to pass it off like it was a 'new person' at his school who is a tranny (we have many around here so it is conceivable). Well, checking the phone log this morning I saw that it was the same friend who is in his 'soccer gang' who is supposedly a girlfriend of one of his guy friends. I've called him on this before but I don't have a problem with him having female friends as long as they respect our marriage so I just let it go at that time. He tries to tell me that his friend (whose girlfriend he talks to) doesn't have his own phone (YEAH RIGHT!) so he always uses his girlfriend's phone (is this making any sense??). Well, WHATEVER. I haven't met these friends yet but I'm going to for sure now....who cares if they're young & will ridicule him about his fat, old wife. I'm also going to start answering the house phone now. I used to leave that to him cause it was always for him but now I'm going to make my presence KNOWN!

But the real problem is, he just plain lies...about his phone calls, about his friends, about random ish around the house, etc. etc. etc. I'm nearly ready to file for divorce. We've had this discussion on several occasions that he has a lying problem & I told him if he doesn't change that, I will never be able to trust him. If I can't trust him about the little things, how will I trust him when the big issues arise?? Again, I'm not distressed or depressed, I'm not all that angry, I'm just feeling exhausted with this all. Also, lately he's been slacking (again) with helping me out around the house, etc. & frankly, I'm tired of doing everything I always did for myself & now for one more person on top of it. I'll defer to the Madea quote now, "I can do bad ALL BY MYSELF!" Anyway, we may seek counseling although he doesn't want to go or we may try other things but I've been scouring this web site about lying in relationships http://www.truthaboutdeception.com/ & I'm not really sure compulsive/chronic liars can be 'cured'. I know I can't live with that....to me that is a seriously fatal flaw. I'm by no means perfect but if there's one thing I am, it's HONEST. I've been honest to him about everything & he is not returning the favor. Well, WHEW....just writing this out felt much better! I'm ready for any responses....don't temper your responses, if I wanted to be coddled or told the easy stuff, I wouldn't have put this out there.

Well well, Im sorry to hear about this. Dont want you to feel any worse hon, I can understand your situation very well, i.e. my dad, brother and hubby's best friend. Honestly, hubby used to lie about dumb stuff too. Through this, I feel like men just have to lie to be in control of the situation.

I think thats just retarded, and when used to lie over calls and stuff, I'd always find out, so he stopped. Although we had our fight last week, he was honest about who he was talking to and when. Maybe your husband will change when he realizes he keeps getting caught in his lie and sees that its no use because there really isnt any reason to lie about who he is talking to if she is his boy's girlfriend.

I pray and hope it gets better and he does what needed to please and make you comfortable.

[Jamaicagyaldat 1]

Hey everyone. Momma is getting her Non immigrant visa to visit us. I see the Ds forms changed to doing just one DS160. Anyone know where I can send her to get this filled out. They have no computer. I was going to do it and fed ex it down, but it looks like you have to submit a passport photo electronically on the form.

Also, I think that they can only pay the fee at NCB now and not Paymaster. Been a while since we did all this again....help help!! : )

[kjenkins86 5]

Morning, everyone!

I need to catch up from Saturday, but I did want to drop some good news: Steven got an A on his Business class test! So far, he has a B in the class, but I hope he gets A's on the next 2 tests to get an A overall.

Great!

KJ I was looking for a place before but now we found one so here come the move. Im moving 5 min from where I live now so no major changes. I will relax after this weekend

Oh ok.

On another note I'm so P'D OFF!

I'm sure I told y'all I'm not sure if I'm preggo, anyhow I had an appt today and he knew. So I woke up, got dressed and left. At the doc office he called and said he's coming so I said fine. Waiting and looking out for him, waitng and looking out for him Then he calls to say he's drinking tea he'll be there in a minute so I said ok. The receptionist came out and told us the doc is gonna be late so we can leave or wait so I left without calling him, I walk in the door to see him sitting on the computer on FACEFRIGGGINBOOK!! His response "you couldn't call and tell me you left the doc, what if I had walked up there?" So I slapped the ###### outta his azz (shouldn't have) and grabbed my laptop and walked away. Now tell me, if you don't wanna come to the doctor's office just fcuking say so, but don't have me sitting there looking out for you and here fcuking rapping on facebook. Rant Over.

I'm trying my best not to put my hands on him because I'd stab his azz if he dare try to hit me back but I was pissed

[Always Blessed 1]

Great!

Oh ok.

On another note I'm so P'D OFF!

I'm sure I told y'all I'm not sure if I'm preggo, anyhow I had an appt today and he knew. So I woke up, got dressed and left. At the doc office he called and said he's coming so I said fine. Waiting and looking out for him, waitng and looking out for him Then he calls to say he's drinking tea he'll be there in a minute so I said ok. The receptionist came out and told us the doc is gonna be late so we can leave or wait so I left without calling him, I walk in the door to see him sitting on the computer on FACEFRIGGGINBOOK!! His response "you couldn't call and tell me you left the doc, what if I had walked up there?" So I slapped the ###### outta his azz (shouldn't have) and grabbed my laptop and walked away. Now tell me, if you don't wanna come to the doctor's office just fcuking say so, but don't have me sitting there looking out for you and here fcuking rapping on facebook. Rant Over.

I'm trying my best not to put my hands on him because I'd stab his azz if he dare try to hit me back but I was pissed

WOW! KJ take it easy I understand your fustration, my GOD so did you find out are you pregnant? Do a home pregnancy test or something? I believe I might be pregnant to but I am holding out til next month just in case my cycle decided to change course this month. Anyways I am hoping I am and so is hubby

Great!

I have know idea why that doubled posted.

Edited April 13, 2010 by Always Blessed

[LadyC 1]

Great!

Oh ok.

On another note I'm so P'D OFF!

I'm sure I told y'all I'm not sure if I'm preggo, anyhow I had an appt today and he knew. So I woke up, got dressed and left. At the doc office he called and said he's coming so I said fine. Waiting and looking out for him, waitng and looking out for him Then he calls to say he's drinking tea he'll be there in a minute so I said ok. The receptionist came out and told us the doc is gonna be late so we can leave or wait so I left without calling him, I walk in the door to see him sitting on the computer on FACEFRIGGGINBOOK!! His response "you couldn't call and tell me you left the doc, what if I had walked up there?" So I slapped the ###### outta his azz (shouldn't have) and grabbed my laptop and walked away. Now tell me, if you don't wanna come to the doctor's office just fcuking say so, but don't have me sitting there looking out for you and here fcuking rapping on facebook. Rant Over.

I'm trying my best not to put my hands on him because I'd stab his azz if he dare try to hit me back but I was pissed

KJ girl I fell your PISTIVITY thru the computer. Whoooo SAWWW but that would have pissed me off too. Mi even feel di SLAP. Yuh a bad gyal

[DaDa 1]

Morning, everyone!

I need to catch up from Saturday, but I did want to drop some good news: Steven got an A on his Business class test! So far, he has a B in the class, but I hope he gets A's on the next 2 tests to get an A overall.

I didn't know Steven was in class. Great job....

[kjenkins86 5]

Blessed: I've been testing at home: negative! Test there was negative too so the assistant said the doc will order a bloodwork... I hope that you are preganant

LadyC: LMFAO, C mi caan even fight suh mi a dig up trouble!! I'm trying to calm my little azz down but he ain't making it easy mane.

[dillon 6]

Good Morning Ladies!!!!

Always that was a beautiful prayer and I will keep you in my prayers on being pregnant. Let us know when you find out.

KJ...ggggiiiirrrrlllll...I would have been highly pissed too. Go back and give him a slap for me too.

[LadyC 1]

Blessed: I've been testing at home: negative! Test there was negative too so the assistant said the doc will order a bloodwork... I hope that you are preganant

LadyC: LMFAO, C mi caan even fight suh mi a dig up trouble!! I'm trying to calm my little azz down but he ain't making it easy mane.

KJ girl I have been there many tomes. Sometimes G make me so mad I want to go up side his head. Once I punched him on his leg and he just stop talk and look pon mi like mi crazy. I told him I have anger management issues and if he piss me off I can snap. So now when he piss me off he does it from a far.

[dillon 6]

KJ girl I have been there many tomes. Sometimes G make me so mad I want to go up side his head. Once I punched him on his leg and he just stop talk and look pon mi like mi crazy. I told him I have anger management issues and if he piss me off I can snap. So now when he piss me off he does it from a far.

LOL I will have to remember to say that LadyC. One time I was so mad at Mikel and he was in bed I just started punching the mattress and it was very close to his legs. He was like don't lick me, don't lick me. I am cracking up thinking about what a crazy woman I must have looked like. :rofl: