Yardies a home and a farrin, Part 25!

[Ellsinlove 2]

Morning Yardies:

Not having the best of days and no I don't want to talk about it. Going to listen more today. Maybe something someone says will help me.

I hope everyone has a blessed day though

If you do start to feel like it, you can PM me or IM me or whatever you know!

I'm here...got in late because I took Hubby to do his driving test. HE PASSED!!!!

Congrats to Mikel! I know it's such a help when they have their licenses!

[LadyC 1]

ok! can I schedule for him? or.....

Oh good! Ok, thanks

Congrats on your Interview Date

[MoLuvsAcory 0]

We do, but they're $60 a month! Shoot, I don't even pay that much for my plan! That's what I pay now pre-tax to have him added to my plan. Anything more is just not in the budget right now.

I had more to respond to with this but forgot. However, my co-worker friend JUST came in to my office to tell me that she just had a few random transactions to her bank card (which she has never lost) that came to the amount of $600!! They used it at a Shell gas station, at a Walgreens & somewhere else. We can't figure out how someone could use a card that has never been lost or stolen. Perhaps someone is making counterfeits & generating random #s & having them manually keyed in when they shop. WTH?? Hope the bank remedies this for you ASAP!

Well, they seem to be doing there part to accommodate me for the $$$ lost. This person or persons are making online purchases in Canada, Switzerland, & like two here in the states. Only place I knew of was Apple online. Go figure. Buy the new damn Apple I-pad @ my expense. I googled the names of the companies & they seem like software places/things for the computer. So basically, the person is getting things to help them rip off more ppl discretely. It's ashame the identity isn't known to me!!

[Ellsinlove 2]

Ells...I feel for you. The only think I can say is you really need to communicate with him regarding your feelings and the consequences of his behavior. We are grown people and NO ONE should have to be running behind anyone making sure that they are following the vows that they have made to one another. It is exhausting and draining as you have said.

The communication is very 'strong' on my part....he knows exactly how I'm feeling & what the consequences will be but at times I'm not sure he really understands the gravity of the situation. Almost like he's not taking this seriously enough. I haven't been looking for things but now my feelers are out. I just need proof. I hope to God I don't find any but in a way, I almost wish I would. That would be my decision-maker right there.

Well, they seem to be doing there part to accommodate me for the $$$ lost. This person or persons are making online purchases in Canada, Switzerland, & like two here in the states. Only place I knew of was Apple online. Go figure. Buy the new damn Apple I-pad @ my expense. I googled the names of the companies & they seem like software places/things for the computer. So basically, the person is getting things to help them rip off more ppl discretely. It's ashame the identity isn't known to me!!

I know, it sucks that they don't allow the thief's identity to be known...they wouldn't even tell my friend where 'back East' her debit # had been used. The banks must be aware of the latest scams because they've been pretty accommodating to her as well.

[dillon 6]

The communication is very 'strong' on my part....he knows exactly how I'm feeling & what the consequences will be but at times I'm not sure he really understands the gravity of the situation. Almost like he's not taking this seriously enough. I haven't been looking for things but now my feelers are out. I just need proof. I hope to God I don't find any but in a way, I almost wish I would. That would be my decision-maker right there.

I know, it sucks that they don't allow the thief's identity to be known...they wouldn't even tell my friend where 'back East' her debit # had been used. The banks must be aware of the latest scams because they've been pretty accommodating to her as well.

It is a shame the thief has more rights than the person who is being scammed!

As always keep you eyes wide open in your relationships. Don't just close them now that they are here.

[Ellsinlove 2]

As always keep you eyes wide open in your relationships. Don't just close them now that they are here.

True dat! And I'd have to add to be extremely scrutinizing before they get here so you aren't sorry once they are. Don't be in such a hurry to get them here that you ignore signs. One thing I can say for myself though is that it's very difficult to distinguish between what are real signs & what is you just being paranoid from past experiences.

[dillon 6]

Well put Ells!

[atsleumas 3]

Congrats on your Interview Date

Thanks! Now something new to stress about!! lol

True dat! And I'd have to add to be extremely scrutinizing before they get here so you aren't sorry once they are. Don't be in such a hurry to get them here that you ignore signs. One thing I can say for myself though is that it's very difficult to distinguish between what are real signs & what is you just being paranoid from past experiences.

Very well said - what's even worse is when the writing is ON the wall, but you refuse to read the words. *speaking from experience!!!

[MoLuvsAcory 0]

I believe it was Ellsnlove who I wanted to respond to.

I'm sorry to hear about the issue you're having w/hubby. It's terrible but try your best to pull through. I'm fairly sure you two can discuss the differences. As for him lying, only heaven knows as to why he does it. I too had it out w/hubby a few times in regards to phone. But mostly the amount of calls times the duration b/c it sure does/did add up. As to who he speaks to, I have no issue & that's due to trust. I'm not saying you don't trust your man but @ present moment he seems to be making that hard for you. Due to me being me, he can chat to a woman such as friends back home who I too know w/o an issue but once you make it suspicious to me, then that's when I will flame up & demand to know what's really going on.

best of luck & try to breathe a breath of fresh air before you jump to any conclusion or make any harsh decisions.

[Ellsinlove 2]

I believe it was Ellsnlove who I wanted to respond to.

I'm sorry to hear about the issue you're having w/hubby. It's terrible but try your best to pull through. I'm fairly sure you two can discuss the differences. As for him lying, only heaven knows as to why he does it. I too had it out w/hubby a few times in regards to phone. But mostly the amount of calls times the duration b/c it sure does/did add up. As to who he speaks to, I have no issue & that's due to trust. I'm not saying you don't trust your man but @ present moment he seems to be making that hard for you. Due to me being me, he can chat to a woman such as friends back home who I too know w/o an issue but once you make it suspicious to me, then that's when I will flame up & demand to know what's really going on.

best of luck & try to breathe a breath of fresh air before you jump to any conclusion or make any harsh decisions.

Yeah, I have no issue with him having 'girl friends' but when I can tell dyam well that you're on the phone with a female & then deny it, then we have a problem! Thanks for your advice, I'll be just taking things slow & not trying to jump to conclusions or overreact right away.

[Tosh Love 77]

Afternoon Yardies!

Well, WHEW....just writing this out felt much better! I'm ready for any responses....don't temper your responses, if I wanted to be coddled or told the easy stuff, I wouldn't have put this out there.

Hi Ells, I am so sorry to hear about this. Whatever happened to the honeymoon phase? To be honest, the first year was rough for us also and this second year I can finally say we are finally "speaking the same language" so to speak.

Anyway, my advice is for you is to seek some talk therapy--either through a church, school, a mutual friend who is an older person, etc. It sounds like he is used to "covering up his actions (lying)" for no reason and it is a habit he defers to when questioned on the spot. This is just my opinion--It does not sound to me that he is up to anything insidious, it just seems that somehow your relationship has become one of mother/son or teacher/student, instead of equal partners. I do think it is worth it to give it your all before you give up. Much luck and Best Wishes!

[kjenkins86 5]

Hey!! I'm all alone on here. I just read a few pages to catch up.

Thanks for the condolensces. It was my grand uncle who past away. He was 93. He lived his life to the fullest as determined by the creator. Of course family is sad but Uncle lived to see 93 which is a true blessing. In regards to some of our issues on here, he wouldve said " nuh worry urself. Everything criss."

Congrats Charandivan on receiving the AP & EAD in the mail.

MzMorgan, you two heading to JA already?! Go on w/your bad self heading back to yard so soon.

I too am guilty of the "big foot" club. I however describe my feet as being long. No fatness @ all on it. Just narrow & bony.

Dens, it will continue to get better. Try don't make telephone thing mash up unnu good thing. It irritates me when bill is ran up but I believe we deh pon d same level now.

Now to my big issue...

So sorry to hear that Mo. I hope you get all your $$$ back. Do you have any clue how this could've happened?

Thats a really good thing... G (lol) and I been attendin church together since we started dating- its wonderful to include God in your relationships and decisions. I've realized this; we have been praying every night together for about 2 years and if/when we are busy or forget, thats when we start arguing and having problems.

Try your very best, religious or not, to put God in your marriage and it will work out; I had this experience many times and on Saturday had another. Of course everyone knew hubby and I had been in an argument and although we worked it out, was still tension there. We didnt end up attending church on saturday so we stayed home; I decided to spend the day talking to God; trying to see what I was doing wrong in our marriage.

As I did this, out of nowhere Jito comes and starts apologizing and admitting his error in the way things were dealt with. It shocked the mess out of me. I know I asked God to fix it, I just didnt expect a same-day answer (need to heighten my expectations of Him). It was the most amazing thing ever to watch hubby pour out in front of me. Now, we're great like Frosted Flakes...

Great to hear that you two are on the same level again. I beleive in God, pray everyday and I truly hope that the Lord will bless my relationship.

That's awesome about you guys going to church yesterday! No worries about your family...I know that hurts but you guys just focus on the love you have for each other and know that you are about to be each other's family and with time...things with your family may turn around but you have to do what is best for you! We support you and wish you guys nothing but the best!

Thanks Tee...that's how I'm feeling right now and I had to share with somebody...just full of joy and happiness and expecting the best for my life and marriage!

It's good that you're happy about your marriage, some people unfortunately can't say that they are truly happy.

Morning Yardies:

Not having the best of days and no I don't want to talk about it. Going to listen more today. Maybe something someone says will help me.

I hope everyone has a blessed day though

Aaaw Tee I hope you feel better mama!

Morning All! Hope everyone had a great weekend.

Den and I had a nice weekend overall. We linked up with Char & Ivan yesterday. Had a blast! Thanks again, CharandIvan! :0)

I am trying to get a lot accomplished today...but I will do what I can. We on track with closing on this upcoming Thursday. Please keep us in your prayers! Almost there...so ready! lol

Goodluck

OMG!God must have been happy to see you. I'm so sorry to hear that your relatives are not supportive, I feel your pain girl as I'm kinda in the same situation where my mom and I are not very close, and whenever ppl ask me about her(especially my MIL cause we're very close) and how she's doing I feel so ashamed. You can't change how your family feels and you shouldn't focus all your energy on doing so, they will eventually accept things when they see how happy you both are and how successful your marriage is. I'll keep you in my prayers.

Lol TAMH you woke up?

But yeah girl I actually feel refreshed. I'll try my best to go more often.

Not that I'm happy to hear that you and your mom aren't close but I feel better knnowing that I'm not the only one and I'll try my best not to dwell on it so much because some people just won't change...

[kjenkins86 5]

Well, in defense of that..........if you don't know BEFORE marriage that he's hanging on the phone for hours, texting/phone calls at crazy hours, FaceBooking people......and you find out after, you weren't fine with it before marriage.

JG I said before because besa did mention that this girl was in the pic before they got marrried, I wasn't referring to the text message/phone call. I was referring to the girl!

[Ellsinlove 2]

Hi Ells, I am so sorry to hear about this. Whatever happened to the honeymoon phase? To be honest, the first year was rough for us also and this second year I can finally say we are finally "speaking the same language" so to speak.

Anyway, my advice is for you is to seek some talk therapy--either through a church, school, a mutual friend who is an older person, etc. It sounds like he is used to "covering up his actions (lying)" for no reason and it is a habit he defers to when questioned on the spot. This is just my opinion--It does not sound to me that he is up to anything insidious, it just seems that somehow your relationship has become one of mother/son or teacher/student, instead of equal partners. I do think it is worth it to give it your all before you give up. Much luck and Best Wishes!

Thanks Shauns....this is great advice & I will be giving it plenty of thought!

[justucia 0]

I'm here...got in late because I took Hubby to do his driving test. HE PASSED!!!!

CONGRATS to your husband!

omg- its like we share lives!

D had his driving test today- and he passed as well!

he's so happy