Yardies a home and a farrin, Part 25!

[MRStee 19]

Thanbks to you.

I hope I hear something soon as well.

It's actually not as harsh and damaging as a relaxer.

Besa, as long as you skinny (lie myself) don't mention your weight coz you'll get a (cyber) beat down!

Thank you!

[DedicatedWife 4]

Okay Yardies...I have a confession....so here goes... I was feeling a little some kinda way about my husband and the cell phone that he has here...well let's call it what it is...insecure...and I don't really know why. He's never given me a reason to feel funny. I know he checks on his son at least once a week and I know the BM calls...sometimes more than I think she should but that's on Den to let her know to cool it down!!!

Anyways we got into a heated battle last night because he said that he was going to give me the phone back since it is causing problems for us...so it was an intense argument and he definitely does not like to argue...so it was a bit much for me the word divorce came out of my mouth...anyways we worked through it but I had to put on my big girl's boy shorts and say to myself...I have got to let go of these insecurities because its not a good look.

If he gives me a reason then I need to but since he has been upfront and you have to have trust in a marriage/relationship so I decided that I need to just give him his privacy and space on the phone.

Edited April 9, 2010 by Dens Wifey

[MRStee 19]

Okay Yardies...I have a confession....so here goes... I was feeling a little some kinda way about my husband and the cell phone that he has here...well let's call it what it is...insecure...and I don't really know why. He's never given me a reason to feel funny. I know he checks on his son at least once a week and I know the BM calls...sometimes more than I think she should but that's on Den to let her know to cool it down!!!

Anyways we got into a heated battle last night because he said that he was going to give me the phone back since it is causing problems for us...so it was an intense argument and he definitely does not like to argue...so it was a bit much for me the word divorce came out of my mouth...anyways we worked through it but I had to put on my big girl's boy shorts and say to myself...I have got to let go of these insecurities because its not a good look.

If he gives me a reason then I need to but since he has been upfront and you have to have trust in a marriage/relationship so I decided that I need to just give him his privacy and space on the phone.

I can give you some honest feedback on this one. I don't have baby momma stuff or anything like that to argue about, but what we use to argue about is when I would hear hubby talking to JA he would say iggnant things like "You know how American's are" WTFFFFFFFFFFF??? Your dyaam wife is American, what do you mean. My resolution to this is to give him space when he is on the phone cause if I hear something I don't like its on and poppin! Just give him space A and you will be fine!

[dillon 6]

Den's you aren't alone. We have had that same argument and he has given his phone back to me more than once. Although he always comes back for it later. But just try and not let it get to you it is something I am working through as well.

[dillon 6]

Not really Nat!! u know what they say about men with BIG/LONG feet!!

You know what they say about tall skinny men too... :yes:

[MRStee 19]

Den's you aren't alone. We have had that same argument and he has given his phone back to me more than once. Although he always comes back for it later. But just try and not let it get to you it is something I am working through as well.

These men aint breathing JA air...lol.. They losing their minds.. sheesh....it was easier rasing my kids

You know what they say about tall skinny men too...

Niq dont start!lol

I am so bad right now... Im looking at the web sites KJ posted and looking for sneakers for myself Supposed to be looking for my daughter lol. Maybe cause I haven't owned a pair of sneakers in about 5 years I am SUCH a flip flop girl!

[DedicatedWife 4]

Tee & Dills, I appreciate the honesty!!!

Yes, I saw how hurt Den was last night...its like he was broken. He told me that he feels like that phone is a way for me to be like that's my phone, I gave this to you, etc...and its honestly not like that but he feels funny about it anyways since he has been on his own since he was 16 and if he didn't have his son he probably would just tough it out until he was working and able to spurge on a phone. I never want to see how my husband looked last night again...when I said the "D" word...I said it to hurt him and then I realized I was being a little controlling and I didn't like it at all, so I prayed on it and said I was sorry.

I'm going to just give him his space/privacy and trust him with the phone...

[*JG* 2]

You all need to stop saying you have long feet. You all have BIG feet so just accept it and don't make it sound better saying they are long.

Ha ha.....that's what I was thinking.

I'm an 8. Not long or BIG feet here. Pretty much normal.

[DaDa 1]

Okay, okay Im done with the sex talkin cause SOME of yall chuch goin folk can't handle it... so....

See Tee told you....

LMFAO!!!!! I just text my hubby too!!!

I hope you said something naughty that has him like

I'm right here with you on the long feet...I wear a 11 and sometimes 12...girl these are some bug killers!!!!

As I raise my hand yup I'm in the 10 club...

Can someone with "long feet" take my baby with them? She is 14 but she too wears and 11

nat youre safe now we are talking about shoes

Tee yuhseeit she did dash away LOL.

Watch now that the topic has changed alot of dem will come out to play...

[dancehallquana 5]

Okay Yardies...I have a confession....so here goes... I was feeling a little some kinda way about my husband and the cell phone that he has here...well let's call it what it is...insecure...and I don't really know why. He's never given me a reason to feel funny. I know he checks on his son at least once a week and I know the BM calls...sometimes more than I think she should but that's on Den to let her know to cool it down!!!

Anyways we got into a heated battle last night because he said that he was going to give me the phone back since it is causing problems for us...so it was an intense argument and he definitely does not like to argue...so it was a bit much for me the word divorce came out of my mouth...anyways we worked through it but I had to put on my big girl's boy shorts and say to myself...I have got to let go of these insecurities because its not a good look.

If he gives me a reason then I need to but since he has been upfront and you have to have trust in a marriage/relationship so I decided that I need to just give him his privacy and space on the phone.

i think you are making a good decision dw by giving him space..roger talks to his bm way more that i talk to my bd..sometimes i leave to give him privacy, sometimes he beckons me to stay..she tell him every lil thing bout the baby..its wierd to me, but he says "thats how jamaican women are, she wants him to be apart of everything" i keep telling him that she likes him but until roger show me otherwise, i know she ain't got nothing on me!!! LOL

[*JG* 2]

Tee & Dills, I appreciate the honesty!!!

Yes, I saw how hurt Den was last night...its like he was broken. He told me that he feels like that phone is a way for me to be like that's my phone, I gave this to you, etc...and its honestly not like that but he feels funny about it anyways since he has been on his own since he was 16 and if he didn't have his son he probably would just tough it out until he was working and able to spurge on a phone. I never want to see how my husband looked last night again...when I said the "D" word...I said it to hurt him and then I realized I was being a little controlling and I didn't like it at all, so I prayed on it and said I was sorry.

I'm going to just give him his space/privacy and trust him with the phone...

First thing I am going to say is don't throw that word around unless you mean it. It's like telling someone you hate them. Strong words.

But, the phone thing............Oh, I could go on and on about the phone issues. It's just another thing you have to work through. IMO, there's nothing wrong with imposing some restrictions on the phone....well, as far as the bill goes. Your man had restrictions in JA when he had to use chips and pay for limits. It's nothing new. It's not a free for all when he gets here and has unlimited things and more minutes. They sometimes don't get you are actually paying for it!

But, snooping on him.....well, hon, you wouldn't like it if he did that to you. If you feel that strongly, sit and talk about it when the issues come up. Don't let them fester till you blow. Him giving the phone back is like punishment....a grounding.....he's not going to like that. You will figure it out. Patience and time. Be strong.

Dillon.....I will be at D's around 7:30. You coming?

Edited April 9, 2010 by *JG*

[DedicatedWife 4]

i think you are making a good decision dw by giving him space..roger talks to his bm way more that i talk to my bd..sometimes i leave to give him privacy, sometimes he beckons me to stay..she tell him every lil thing bout the baby..its wierd to me, but he says "thats how jamaican women are, she wants him to be apart of everything" i keep telling him that she likes him but until roger show me otherwise, i know she ain't got nothing on me!!! LOL

Okay Q, I so feel you on that girl. Thanks for sharing.

[dillon 6]

As of right now JG I am planning on it. Like I said Marley's little event will hopefully be over no later than 8. I'll text you when I am on my way.

LOL...my eye sight is not bad JG you didn't have to make my shout out bigger.

Edited April 9, 2010 by dillon

[*JG* 2]

As of right now JG I am planning on it. Like I said Marley's little even will hopefully be over no later than 8. I'll text you when I am on my way.

Ok, I'll be there.

[DaDa 1]

Okay Yardies...I have a confession....so here goes... I was feeling a little some kinda way about my husband and the cell phone that he has here...well let's call it what it is...insecure...and I don't really know why. He's never given me a reason to feel funny. I know he checks on his son at least once a week and I know the BM calls...sometimes more than I think she should but that's on Den to let her know to cool it down!!!

Anyways we got into a heated battle last night because he said that he was going to give me the phone back since it is causing problems for us...so it was an intense argument and he definitely does not like to argue...so it was a bit much for me the word divorce came out of my mouth...anyways we worked through it but I had to put on my big girl's boy shorts and say to myself...I have got to let go of these insecurities because its not a good look.

If he gives me a reason then I need to but since he has been upfront and you have to have trust in a marriage/relationship so I decided that I need to just give him his privacy and space on the phone.

Dens what your doing is carrying some baggage from an old relationship into this one which we as woman tend to do. I’m sure someone hurt your feelings and in the back of your mind you’re like hmph wonder if this nucca will try it to. I think as woman it may cross our minds. Some of us it just crosses it too much. You have a right to feel that way you do you figure he just moved over here so if you see him on the phone your like umm who is he talking too.

I like that Dens said you can have the phone back if its that big of deal that means he is not trying to hide anything. Going forward I think you just have to remember your own words. He hasn’t given you a reason to suspect anything so let it go. Remove the past from your heart and focus on your future. It will be hard at first but after a while I think you will see you have nothing to worry about.

Oh and another thing unless it is serious don’t use or threaten him with divorce. You don’t want him thinking that if the going gets tough you’ll get going. Remember you are a married woman and not everything is going to be preachy king. You will have good times and bad but as long as the good outweighs the bad then everything is criss. Don’t claim divorce by even mentioning it even out of anger. Those words should never be spoken. Well that is how I feel about it. You’re a couple and your going to handle your ups and down as a COUPLE

Thanks for sharing….