Attitudes of Posters

[TBoneTX 47,922]

"We Love meauxna!"

Si, man.

[sachinky 465]

I don't actually remember anyone being rude to me during my limited time here on VJ, even though I've posted my share of a few noob threads. Pushbrk has actually been very helpful in answering most of my I-864 questions. I guess I just don't see him as a "Hi there, hugs and kisses" kind of guy and that's fine.

I've been involved in a few heated discussions and debates but those disagreements never got out of line. On the contrary, I was surprised at how civil the discussions remained. Plus, I have an extremely thick skin. Which I think helps.

I've seen this "rudeness/crabbiness" directed at other members, so I'm not saying it doesn't exist at all. But not having experienced it personally, I have to say that VJ has been tremendously beneficial for us -- a great guide and source of support.

And Tbone--here. Flowers for you.

Maybe we should all hold hands and sing Kumbaya now.

Edited March 26, 2010 by sachinky

[Fandango 1,440]

I just peeked into the K1 forum for a bit, and I have a few conflicting feelings about it.

I see one poster in particular, that was kinda rude and a little crazy imo. I saw this person in a few threads with the same kinda weird responses...partial full caps responses, the whole nine. I almost said something, but eh, I'm trying to be a kinder, gentler Lisa.

But then, I also noticed thread after thread after thread of the most ridiculous, stupid questions. Things that could be answered with a 5 second VJ search. Things hotlinked in the stickies (funnily enough, E's first post in the top sticky was something I wrote years ago, and completely forgot about). I don't have an anger management issue, but at the same time, I had to leave the forum before getting any more annoyed, because I was 2 seconds from PWA - Posting While Annoyed. But seriously, I'm of the notion that no one here needs nor deserves to be spoon fed. The answers are seriously all right here! I understand that if there were no questions, there'd be no forums, lol...but at the same time...how do you all deal with the same thing over and over and over again? It's like that movie Groundhog Day. Doesn't it try your patience at all? Isn't it hard to be over-polite in fear of 'offending the n00bs' when they are the ones who are offensive, because they ignore all the previous work that everyone has put in, they refuse to take any personal responsibility to LOOK for their own answers, and are basically treating this place like an IM customer service center 'Chat with me live now! Let me help you!'

meh, I need coffee.

Eta: Sachinsky....your pic is so very pretty.

Edited March 26, 2010 by Happy Bunny

[sachinky 465]

Thankoo, HappyBunny.

[Rebecca Jo 1,962]

I just peeked into the K1 forum for a bit, and I have a few conflicting feelings about it.

I see one poster in particular, that was kinda rude and a little crazy imo. I saw this person in a few threads with the same kinda weird responses...partial full caps responses, the whole nine. I almost said something, but eh, I'm trying to be a kinder, gentler Lisa.

But then, I also noticed thread after thread after thread of the most ridiculous, stupid questions. Things that could be answered with a 5 second VJ search. Things hotlinked in the stickies (funnily enough, E's first post in the top sticky was something I wrote years ago, and completely forgot about). I don't have an anger management issue, but at the same time, I had to leave the forum before getting any more annoyed, because I was 2 seconds from PWA - Posting While Annoyed. But seriously, I'm of the notion that no one here needs nor deserves to be spoon fed. The answers are seriously all right here! I understand that if there were no questions, there'd be no forums, lol...but at the same time...how do you all deal with the same thing over and over and over again? It's like that movie Groundhog Day. Doesn't it try your patience at all? Isn't it hard to be over-polite in fear of 'offending the n00bs' when they are the ones who are offensive, because they ignore all the previous work that everyone has put in, they refuse to take any personal responsibility to LOOK for their own answers, and are basically treating this place like an IM customer service center 'Chat with me live now! Let me help you!'

meh, I need coffee.

Eta: Sachinsky....your pic is so very pretty.

Repetitive basic questions have never really bothered me in any community. They can be a source of amusement actually. Really and truly - if it bugs you just don't answer it.

I'm more bugged by repetitive wrong answers.

But yeah, it must be a personality conflict.

That's a war you can't win, you know.

[TBoneTX 47,922]

And Tbone--here. Flowers for you.

Flowers from a Lovely, and one who's a positive, intelligent, literate VJ member? How lovely, si man (ah-CHOO, sneeze man). Edited March 26, 2010 by TBoneTX

[*julez* 124]

Here's what *I* find ironic: when it's the "Attitudes of Moderators" we have to deal with, such as moderators violating the TOS:

http://www.visajourn...ost__p__3824543

From the TOS:

But yeah, it must be a personality conflict.

The rules here don't apply to Deputy Dog, donchayaknow?

[Ban Hammer 14,468]

apparently the sarcasm meter of a few is quite broken.

[Fandango 1,440]

Edit: nm

But what's a tampo? lol

Edited March 26, 2010 by Happy Bunny

[w¡n9Nµ7 §£@¥€r 123]

Why can't I see a pic in that link???

I have images turned off right now but this is the URL

http://thespankingspot.com/wp-content/uploads/2008/03/husband-spanking-wife.png

I assume it is (or was) a pic of a husband spanking a wife.

Is spanking your wife as a form of discipline sexist? Only if she doesn't like it

[Fandango 1,440]

Yeah for some reason it didn't load the first time I tried it, but this time it did. Strange.

[w¡n9Nµ7 §£@¥€r 123]

Yeah for some reason it didn't load the first time I tried it, but this time it did. Strange.

I haven't seen it. Is the pic's filename representative of what it actually is, or is there a surprise?

[Fandango 1,440]

I haven't seen it. Is the pic's filename representative of what it actually is, or is there a surprise?

No surprise. Guy spanking a woman. Both fully clothed.

[w¡n9Nµ7 §£@¥€r 123]

Both fully clothed.

That's a shame.

[trailmix 77]

You know what really grinds my gears, ppl who come on here asking for advice abt their jacked-up realtionships, then get mad at you for giving advice on the truth... If you didnt wanna hear the truth, then dont post in a forum, Pm someone in private...

Your truth is not always someone elses truth? There is a kind way to say something and a rude/snarky way to say something - you have a choice on how to respond.

Now, if you post those private details on VJ you are guaranteed a snarky response, so perhaps the better advice would be, look around, see how other posters are responded to in these types of threads, then make your decision.

BTW, i'm not saying it is you posting that way, I have no idea if you are referring to a particular thread etc.