HELP! wife arrived on CR1 now wants to leave me

[Leedah 22]

In this situation you definitely need to write a letter to USCIS immedietlely if you feel this is fraud.

Be very careful to document the fraud. USCIS has a large amount of cases of fraud, but will only go after the cases that show absolutely outlandish behavior on the new immigrants part.

When writing your letter, detail the acts of fraud that can be proven. They don't want to know "what you might feel" all throughout your letter, give them the truth (just the facts). If your wife refuses to live with you right after getting to the U.S., send her a letter telling her to come home and send it certified. This will document that you atleast made the effort, the date that you sent it and it will show proof in the form of a U.S. Registered Mail number.

Also, contact ICE and make a report. They won't do anything right away normally, but it will work it's way down to the right people within a few days or weeks.

If you file for divorce, make sure to document EVERYTHING that you did to save the marriage. If need be, file a police report to show that she is missing (if she actually is).

Lastly, physically go to the immigration office in your area and speak to an agent about the situation. Going once or twice won't do it. You will need to make appointments until they are tired of seeing your face and will let you up to the "penthouse" where the adjudicators "live" lol. Now if you are looking to deport her because you and her just didn't work out, leave it alone because it may backfire on you and she will get to stay. If you truly feel it is fraud, do EVERYTHING you can to let USCIS know about it.

From experience. My ex husband got here and was out of the home in 4 days flat to go live with a cousin I didn't know about until 3 months before he came here, though I was told he had no relatives in the U.S. I did all I could to notify immigration about what was going on and they listened. He now has a Notice To Appear in front of an immigration judge. Who knows what they will do, but atleast they know his motives and will think twice about approving any other petitions from him.

I am so sorry that this happened to you. I know what your going through and I assure you that it will get better with a little time.

Leedah

[oliver-chris 3]

I'm going to play the other side of the coin on this one, not because I "know" this to be true but because sometimes you need to sit back and look at all aspects of your situation.

James, how familiar are you with Philippine culture? Nowhere in your post did you say "She wants to divorce". In the Philippines it isn't uncommon for a family member to spend months at a time working away from the family to help support the whole family. Right now my mother-in-law's neighbor is raising one of her grandkids while her daughter works most of the year on a cruise ship to help support the family.

Is it possible that your wife is feeling a lot of guilt over coming here and becoming a burden to you? My wife has expressed these exact feelings, we more accurately I coaxed it out of her. Maybe she believes that if she finds work somewhere else for 6 months or so then when she comes back she'll have a better chance to find work locally.

Do yourself a favor and ignore the immigration ####### for right now. Just focus on your marriage, isn't that what's really important anyway?

My wife was hit with a big case of "Sticker Shock" when she saw with her own eyes exactly how expensive life is here. She's always known my salary and to her Philippine raising I was making a ridiculous amount of money. Now she finally can put it into perspective seeing that my monthly housing costs exceed most Filipino's annual earning potential if they stay local.

She really felt guilty and has mentioned leaving (because she was a burden on me) a few times.

If you really love her then sit down, shut-up and listen to what she's really saying.

CERTAINLY AGREE....