What to do

[Nadiia and Eric 1]

First I want to say thank you for the help everyone gave me on questios for the K-1 Visa. I have one more question.

We had just got approved at the Kiev Embassy last month well after the Visa was approved my fiancee ended up telling me that she was going to take contol of the money because I was not sure if I would be able to fly back to get them and bring them back, I was not happy about this comment. Then there is a issue about her son I had told her that he neede to have some responsibilty in the house likie cleaning his room, while I was ther for 87 days I was the one cleaning house taking out trash. I ended up having issues of losing the trust in my fiancee after finding out she lied about a few things. Well I told her that I could not deal with a person I cannot trust. So what I need to do is find out if I need to notify anyone and what I need to tell them.

[Otto 83]

All the issues aside - does she still intend to travel to the US? (I'm assuming she is still there.)

[mox 298]

You might want to write a letter to USCIS, but it's not required. If you do write a letter, all you really need to do is reference the case number, and say that due to changes in your relationship you no longer intend to marry this woman. It's not strictly necessary, but may come in handy if you ever intend to file in the future. There's no need to go into any kind of detail though, just keep it short and sweet.

But as far as the visa is concerned, she's been issued a K1 visa, and is legal to enter the country with the intent to marry you within 90 days or leave. This is her decision, but if she decides to come over for an 89 day vacation, you're obviously not obligated to buy her a plane ticket, pick her up at the airport, or house her. Chances are she's just going to let the visa expire without traveling.

Sorry it didn't work out for you. If it's any consolation, at least you found out now rather than after she got here.

Edited March 16, 2010 by mox

[Nadiia and Eric 1]

All the issues aside - does she still intend to travel to the US? (I'm assuming she is still there.)

She has not said if she will do that, but I dont believe she will her son will be in school till the end of June.

[Nadiia and Eric 1]

You might want to write a letter to USCIS, but it's not required. If you do write a letter, all you really need to do is reference the case number, and say that due to changes in your relationship you no longer intend to marry this woman. It's not strictly necessary, but may come in handy if you ever intend to file in the future. There's no need to go into any kind of detail though, just keep it short and sweet.

But as far as the visa is concerned, she's been issued a K1 visa, and is legal to enter the country with the intent to marry you within 90 days or leave. This is her decision, but if she decides to come over for an 89 day vacation, you're obviously not obligated to buy her a plane ticket, pick her up at the airport, or house her. Chances are she's just going to let the visa expire without traveling.

Sorry it didn't work out for you. If it's any consolation, at least you found out now rather than after she got here.

Thats the way I feel. I was really upset ans surprised about the circumstances

[Gary and Alla 3,694]

First I want to say thank you for the help everyone gave me on questios for the K-1 Visa. I have one more question.

We had just got approved at the Kiev Embassy last month well after the Visa was approved my fiancee ended up telling me that she was going to take contol of the money because I was not sure if I would be able to fly back to get them and bring them back, I was not happy about this comment. Then there is a issue about her son I had told her that he neede to have some responsibilty in the house likie cleaning his room, while I was ther for 87 days I was the one cleaning house taking out trash. I ended up having issues of losing the trust in my fiancee after finding out she lied about a few things. Well I told her that I could not deal with a person I cannot trust. So what I need to do is find out if I need to notify anyone and what I need to tell them.

Notify who about what? If you will cancel the marriage plans,send a letter to USCIS notifying them of that. There is nothing you can do to revoke the visa and if she wants to come to the USA and pay for it, then you can;t stop her, but it is none of your concern anyway. Many foreign people come to the US every day and it is none of your concern. I would only notify the USCIS just for your future benfit so they know you are not trafficking women or something. There is not much else for you to do.

If she doesn't come to the USA the visa will expire in 6 months, there will be no AOS and there is nothing to notify anyone about, the whole thing dies a natural death of old age.

[1HappyGuy 45]

She said she is going to take control of the money. What money? If you have a bank account, she does not have access to it unless you grant her access. Maybe you should both check to make sure you understand each other. You are in charge and that is what you need to make clear. As for her son being lazy and letting others take care of things, that sounds pretty typical. A lot of young men are treated like they are the next Tsar and never lift a finger for anything. It will be your job to teach him otherwise. You need to make that clear to your fiancee.

If in the end she will not allow you to handle the money, teach her son and otherwise be the man in the family, then tell her goodbye.

[mox 298]

She said she is going to take control of the money. What money? If you have a bank account, she does not have access to it unless you grant her access. Maybe you should both check to make sure you understand each other. You are in charge and that is what you need to make clear. As for her son being lazy and letting others take care of things, that sounds pretty typical. A lot of young men are treated like they are the next Tsar and never lift a finger for anything. It will be your job to teach him otherwise. You need to make that clear to your fiancee.

If in the end she will not allow you to handle the money, teach her son and otherwise be the man in the family, then tell her goodbye.

I think he's already made the decision to part ways. Right now he just wants to know if he should advise USCIS.

[Nadiia and Eric 1]

The relationship is over with and yes I had talked to them about the issue, and his mother comes up with the excuses that he is so busy he has no time to clean. I just really was checking into if I had to notify anyone and I have found out on here.

[Sveta and Ko 0]

The relationship is over with and yes I had talked to them about the issue, and his mother comes up with the excuses that he is so busy he has no time to clean. I just really was checking into if I had to notify anyone and I have found out on here.

I second that you just need to send a brief letter to USCIS stating that you no longer intend to marry her. Add that she did hide few important things from you and that led to change in relationship. This might help you in the future and maybe others. See the bright side - usually green card hunters are smarter and coming into US first.

[mox 298]

I second that you just need to send a brief letter to USCIS stating that you no longer intend to marry her. Add that she did hide few important things from you and that led to change in relationship. This might help you in the future and maybe others. See the bright side - usually green card hunters are smarter and coming into US first.

I disagree with providing details. The rule with USCIS is always to provide ONLY what they ask for, and nothing more. In this case USCIS isn't even asking for a letter, so if you really do feel the need to send one, be short and concise. Don't say that she hid things, don't indicate why the relationship fell apart. Just say that the relationship has ended and you will not be marrying her. If they want details, let them ask. (but they won't)

Edited March 18, 2010 by mox

[Tanya and Barry 59]

She said she is going to take control of the money. What money? If you have a bank account, she does not have access to it unless you grant her access. Maybe you should both check to make sure you understand each other. You are in charge and that is what you need to make clear. As for her son being lazy and letting others take care of things, that sounds pretty typical. A lot of young men are treated like they are the next Tsar and never lift a finger for anything. It will be your job to teach him otherwise. You need to make that clear to your fiancee.

If in the end she will not allow you to handle the money, teach her son and otherwise be the man in the family, then tell her goodbye.

With the other women I dated in Ukraine I found this to be very true. Tania and her son are the exception. He does not do much cleaning but he does what he is asked to do and is respectful.

Your next Tsar statement is so true it made me laugh out loud

[baron555 934]

I second that you just need to send a brief letter to USCIS stating that you no longer intend to marry her. Add that she did hide few important things from you and that led to change in relationship. This might help you in the future and maybe others. See the bright side - usually green card hunters are smarter and coming into US first.

I wouldn't tell them any details unless they ask. This could also actually hurt your future cases because you could be seen as an easy mark who will try to latch onto anyone and doesn't do due diligence to determine if you really have a legitimate relationship prior to filing the visa petition. From what you have told us, I'm led to believe that this "sudden" change of mood should have been fetted out a lot earlier.

[Nadiia and Eric 1]

I disagree with providing details. The rule with USCIS is always to provide ONLY what they ask for, and nothing more. In this case USCIS isn't even asking for a letter, so if you really do feel the need to send one, be short and concise. Don't say that she hid things, don't indicate why the relationship fell apart. Just say that the relationship has ended and you will not be marrying her. If they want details, let them ask. (but they won't)

I agree I will just provide the statement that the relationship ended and we will not marry. I wont worry about anything else, I will not file another fiancee visa, I figure a lesson learned. If it is pssible I would like this topic closed, thank you all.

[mox 298]

I agree I will just provide the statement that the relationship ended and we will not marry. I wont worry about anything else, I will not file another fiancee visa, I figure a lesson learned. If it is pssible I would like this topic closed, thank you all.

Contact a mod to have it closed. And best of luck to you Eric, I hope things work out better for you in the future.