I miss my Honey

[JuneFirst 1]

Hey everybody,

my baby left Germany 11 hours ago...after 3 months of being together.

I miss him so terribly bad.

It is gonna be about 6 weeks before I see him next (I know that is not that terribly long considering our situation).

I am so sad, feels like my heart got ripped out. I just love him so much.

He will be in Chicago in 2 hours, and I will at least be able to call him and hear his voice again.

We are turning in our CR1 this week, I hope it will go fast, I wanna be with him so so bad!

Anybody going through the same heart-aches?

[SunDrop 59]

Anybody going through the same heart-aches?

Near about everyone on the board still going through the process!

We've been apart 9 weeks tomorrow, and won't be seeing each other again until we immigrate, probably in August. It is difficult when the longest time we've gone without seeing each other is 16 weeks but I keep reminding myself there are people on VJ who haven't seen their fiances/ spouses for over 3 years!

I'm also finding it easier than before because I know now that this is it. The last goodbye has been said, the next kiss hello is going to be the first on a daily basis for the rest of our lives. And having just re-read this, I think I'm going to quote that on my signature! lol..

It's also starting to get exciting, in that preparations for our move are underway. We've just got back from the Doc's, having had my booster and the first of my daughter's Hep B jabs. It's a little crazy having conversations that go "the next one is in 4 weeks and then you'll have to finish the course off in the States." Wow... it's that close! Reminds me of seeing concert dates when I was pregnant and thinking, "by the time that happens, I'll have had this baby!"

It sucks, but at least you'll be seeing each other again very soon

Moving to Off topic from K3 Spouse Visa Process & Procedures

[Leafgal 3]

It is so true, most everyone here has been there.

The good news is there is a light at the end of the tunnel. I wish you a speedy journey so you can be together forever.

[Calypso 464]

I remember how I used to sing and record songs using my phone to e-mail my husband audio files. I often sang Vanessa Carlton's "A Thousand Miles."

My husband sent this text message to me on June 19 last year when I was still in the Philippines:

"Amma says that distance means nothing for love. Even the sun is so far away; yet, its energy makes the flowers on earth blossom."

Even when you start living together in the U.S. or anywhere else on the planet, there may be times when work or another reason for travel summons him or you to shores far from home.

Distance is physical. If you are truly connected, it would show. Besides, there are other ways for you to make wise use of your time rather than fretting and feeling miserable. Find ways to look better or learn to cook his favorite food.

I hope your visa arrives fast and that you keep your marriage burning.

God bless us all constantly.

[JuneFirst 1]

Just got off the phone with him.

He sounds like he is doing alright; knowing that makes it easier for me.

I know it does not make sense to be sad and all that but it is just so terribly hard I hate falling asleep without him, I hate not having him here to hold me when I am sad and to laugh with me, tease me, love me.

I am so jealous of everybody who has a "normal" relationship.

Some of you are already done with their visa-journey...do you sometimes miss the days of your long-distance-relationship?

[zenaxe 22]

It's tough but hang in there. We've been doing the long distance relationship for the last two years and a bit / We got married in Dec last year and waiting for the petition approval then the visa approval. We try to see each other when we can, we call and use skype, send cards etc. It's never the same as being together but it'll have to do until it all comes together and it will for many of us.

Keep the relationship at the number one spot. Hang in there.

I hope to return over the Easter holidays otherwise I won't see her for three months.

Good luck.

[Obama 2012 1,714]

what is it they say?

"Distance makes the heart grow fonder"

I will say you were quite blessed to be able to spend a long period of time with him and now you can count down to look forward until the next time you meet.

That distance is always hard, but try not to think of the negatives and look towards the positives and how much more special it will be the next time you get to feel his embrace.

For now: Phone + Webcams are your best friends!

Good luck!

[Susita 175]

Some of you are already done with their visa-journey...do you sometimes miss the days of your long-distance-relationship?

No way. My husband went to Peru for two weeks without me in January because my doc wouldn't let me travel (I'm pregnant) and he had already promised his mommy that he was going. We both had computers/blackberries on at all times but I had serious separation issues. I was a huge baby.

[ardilla 0]

No way. My husband went to Peru for two weeks without me in January because my doc wouldn't let me travel (I'm pregnant) and he had already promised his mommy that he was going. We both had computers/blackberries on at all times but I had serious separation issues. I was a huge baby.

I second that, I don't miss the LD arrangement at all. We were apart on and off for 1.5 years, except for a few short visits back and forth. It was not fun. That was 8+ years ago and I can tell you that you will live through it!

Hang in there and focus on how nice it will feel when you are together again, not on how bad it feels to be apart.

[scandal 951]

do you sometimes miss the days of your long-distance-relationship?

No way.

Well, only when she makes me sleep on the couch

[BirdyGirl85 23]

Oh gosh, the separation is very hard. I think the hardest part is saying good bye at the airport. It's like torture. Even a couple weeks before we have to separate, we start to thinking about it, even though we try to ignore it, it ends up on own mind a lot. Like you, the last time I saw my fiance, we were together for 3 months. We have been going through this long distance relationship for 5 years now. I really can't wait for my fiance to be able to get his visa and we can finally live together and not have to be separated for months at a time anymore. The longest time we were separated was 8 months! That was really hard...

I do talk to my fiance everyday, but it's still hard of course to be separated. I miss him very much, and we have only been separated for 10 days now. I hope the visa process goes smoothly for you two and that you get your visa soon.

Edited March 16, 2010 by BirdyGirl85

[Calypso 464]

No way.

Well, only when she makes me sleep on the couch

He doesn't make me sleep on the couch. I sleep on the couch when I am upset... or he sleeps on the couch while watching Star Trek (starts at 10 p.m.) and it makes me upset.

[Marilyn. 340]

Just got off the phone with him.

He sounds like he is doing alright; knowing that makes it easier for me.

I know it does not make sense to be sad and all that but it is just so terribly hard I hate falling asleep without him, I hate not having him here to hold me when I am sad and to laugh with me, tease me, love me.

I am so jealous of everybody who has a "normal" relationship.

Some of you are already done with their visa-journey...do you sometimes miss the days of your long-distance-relationship?

no, the only part I kind of miss is the exhilaration I would feel when I would go pick him up at the airport when he would come for a visit...

No way. My husband went to Peru for two weeks without me in January because my doc wouldn't let me travel (I'm pregnant) and he had already promised his mommy that he was going. We both had computers/blackberries on at all times but I had serious separation issues. I was a huge baby.

for the last few years my hubby has told me that I could go back home to Canada for a visit without him and I tell him I can't.. I couldn't bear to be apart from him that long I can barely stand being apart from him while he is at work...

[Susita 175]

no, the only part I kind of miss is the exhilaration I would feel when I would go pick him up at the airport when he would come for a visit...

for the last few years my hubby has told me that I could go back home to Canada for a visit without him and I tell him I can't.. I couldn't bear to be apart from him that long I can barely stand being apart from him while he is at work...

I know I'm the same way but I felt bad for his mom... I'm a mom so I get how much she misses him plus he's the baby.

[chri'stina 190]

There is definitely light at the end of the tunnel, and it's true there are people who see each other much less during the immigration process. It's been over 5 years since my husband moved here so those days seem long ago, but this will be you one day too.

No, I don't at all miss the long distance relationship thing. After we got engaged(I went to India) it was 11 months before we saw each other again. I think I learned a lot about perseverance during the wait, but it was horrible for me. Before that, we waited over 2 years to meet face to face so it was always lots and lots of waiting. I wish we had lived in the same country or neighboring countries. But I think all that waiting made stronger. He went to India 3 times without me after we were married, about 2 weeks each time. I spent time with my family during it so I wasn't alone. Then I went to see my family for almost 2 weeks without him last year. It's not so easy but I just think back to the 11 month separation and it's nothing at all to be separated a few weeks. So in that way, I don't mind a 2 week separation anymore.

Edited March 16, 2010 by chri'stina