Second time around

[dswann 1]

Where I am at now. This is my second time around in the K-1 process. After being married to a Ukrainian lady for ten years we divorced in August of 2007. If I had to give one reason of why we divorced I would say lack of trust on her part and not wanting to adapt or change to a USA of life. She is now remarried and having the same problems now.

There were a number of things I did before she came here and understand things this time around will be very different.

Anna and I have taken a lot of time speaking and I paid for her to go to school there in Kirovograd. She now speaks fluently and we will not face the same problems Natasha and I faced with language. This is a big one, if you lady can not communicate her feelings and ideas it is a problem.

Do not discount how she will react upon her coming here. I mean simple life skills like going to grocery store to going to a café and ordering from the menu. Natasha, it took us six months for her to communicate “sour cream” should have seen her face once she tasted it again her.

I had taken the steps before Natasha came (Natasha my ex-wife) to have her friends or at least from that part of the world. (Big mistake on my part) I had obtained a Georgia drivers manual written in Cyrillic. I brought her into Atlanta so she would get her EAD card at the POE. I had her a car, and had her already set up for English classes for her and her son German.

The first six months she (Natasha my ex-wife and her son German) adapted to life her in the South in the State of Georgia. As far as English was concerned it was good for her because you know we all speak slow here and that was a plus.

My family welcomed her with open arms. My friends did the same but Natasha was cold and disconnected from them to the point it turned my friends off. In fact, Natasha has no Americans friends to this day and she has been here since April 1999.

I disclosed everything to Natasha, meaning I taught her banking, I had built her credit score to 820. I was trying to show her how to pay bills and how to budget. This was something she did not care about. She wanted me to do it. I told her I wanted her to at least know how in case something happened to me. I showed her my insurance policies I mean everything.

I was a Vice President at a computer company and Natasha wanted to work. I got her a job making 20 a hour repairing laptop computers. Full benefits everything. She work at our company for a year when she decided to work at Macy’s making 12 a hour? That was when I was introduced into the “Russian Shopping Network”. These ladies were unbelievable when it came to a discount card. They understood where the other Russian girls worked, how much employee discount they get and when that stores sales happen and even if they got a discount when using a credit card.

By 2005, Natasha and I could not be in the same room with out her being unreasonable and starting a fight about something meaningless. It was all about her. My father had just died in May and my mother was dying and I caught hell about that even.

Needless to say I was not staying at home and was staying and caring for my mother and I was staying in Atlanta. I was still paying for everything and supporting the family but

Really that was all Natasha wanted and she was dating at this point but I could not turn my back on German (Natasha’s son at this point).

It was clear we were not happy and she and I agreed to Divorce and I wanted to make it right with her. She told me she had been unreasonable in the relationship and she knew what I had done for her and German. She told me all she wanted was the car and for me to pay off her credit cards and give her some cash to move to California. I agreed.

I paid off 18 thousand in credit debt of hers. She kept the 2003 Nissan Murano. In that January I gave her 10 thousand in cash and we signed the divorce documents and that August if 2007 it was over.

I had met the requirements of I-864 and everything. I am not angry at Natasha and wish her all the best and for sure I miss German.

I had not adopted German because of the documents and Natasha could have become a US Citizen but she did not and had a hang up about that as it pertained to travel but things have changed since then. I am not sure if Natasha is a citizen now or not.

Natasha and I have spoken since then a few times. I remember in May of 2008 she called me and asked me “David, when is Holden’s birthday?” Holden is my youngest son and is a US Marine. I asked Natasha “You mean to tell me you do no know Holden’s birthday and we were married all those years?”

I told her, and then she told me she had been diagnosed with breast cancer and had a lump in her breast and the went on to tell me she also had “OCD”. Then she asked me “Why I did not tell her she had OCD?” I had to laugh and tell her “You did not listen to anything else I told you why would you listen to that?” She laughed at that point. Then a few weeks later she e-mailed me to let me know the breast cancer was a false read.

I am not saying I am perfect and I did everything right in this relationship. We were both we wrong but now we are moving on.

The process back then in 1999 took 90 days

I file on Jan 17 1999 and Natasha was her April 5 1999.

Many things have change since then the way we speaking meaning Skype and ICQ as to compared to letters every 3 weeks. Natasha when speaking to me would have to walk to a friends home where she could sent a e-mail to me.

Anna has internet in her home. It is very easy for us to speak and sent sms back and forth it is almost like she is here with me now.

The things that I have done differently with Anna is a lot of speaking. Of course Anna is from the Ukraine but for sure the stereo type of the USA is the land of milk and honey and all dreams come true if they make here. As all Americans know this is far from the truth. I have tried to paint a very factual truth of to what is happening in my day to day life and I have given Anna two of Dave Ramsey’s books so she will understand the meaning of money here.

I understand Anna’s background and she understands mine. My parents were married 52 years. Anna’s parents just celebrated 28 years of Marriage. Natasha’s parents were divorced and that happen at a early age. Anna has her own flat and her own job. Natasha lived with mother and waited tables at a bar. That was the only job Natasha could find at the time. Anna has a master’s degree in Psychology. Natasha told me she had a college degree but found out later she did not have a degree.

Anna has scanned her degrees and I am in the process of having then translated so Anna can attend school when she arrives to have a good job.

I have advised Anna to teach school so she can have the benefits and the time off during the summers to travel back to her homeland.

I have a car ready and waiting for her and this will be the first task we will under take. I sold my home and I am in process of relocating to Jacksonville Florida. I will stay in a apartment until Anna arrives sometime this summer so she can choose a home for the first time in her life.

When Anna and I started speaking and we decided to move forward I kept everything understands we would arrive at this point. It was very simple for me to put the file together for her visa.

In this, it has been a hard road. I lost Natasha, German, My Dad, My Mom, and over one million in cash. I lost my home to foreclosure, lost my cars and everything. I slept on a couch in a fight gym in Atlanta for over a year and walked to work and back. I have been tied up in court trying to get back the money due to a bad partner in a business deal. My court date is set for this July and there has been talk of settling and I work ge back the cash I lost.

I have told Anna all of this. She knows all and she has walked with me in this. Now, my life has turned for the better. I have a great job, great life, In great shape now. I have lost over 100 pounds and work out everyday. For my 45 years people can not believe I am that age.

So, I hope so one can get something from my story the Second time around.

David

[J&N* 68]

I'm not an expert, but wouldn't it be a little strange to the immigration center for you to file for another visa for another woman from the same country after your divorce?

They might think it's a fraud marriage...

An advice from me, since your first marriage went bad, consider really taking things slow with Anna. You don't want another divorce I'm sure.

Good luck.

[az110965 252]

Why on earth would the USCIS believe that this is a "fraud marriage"? The OP stated his first K-1 was filed over 10 years ago, and the marriage lasted for a decade before ending. NOTHING in the OP's statement smells of a fradulent marriage - simply a marriage that ended in divorce...

*Sigh*

Alan

[NatPatBen 3]

David, thanks for sharing your story. Best wishes for your life with Anna.

[sara..... 371]

good luck to you and may ur visa journey be swift and problem free

sara

Edited March 6, 2010 by sara.....

[dswann 1]

Well, Anna and I have spoken for over two years. I wanted some one in my life but, I wanted to make sure things were different the second time around. Anna and I have no reason to commit fraud. I do not have time for that and do not want another fruad in my life for sure. If anything, it shows I can and I will uphold my end of the deal as I did in the past.

I hired the same attorney that did my first K-1 visa because we attached my first k-1 to it to show that i did uphold every point of the visa. It is the people who do it legally that have to pay the price of sins of others.

I wish all the best to all here.

David

[Brad and Vika 129]

Well, Anna and I have spoken for over two years. I wanted some one in my life but, I wanted to make sure things were different the second time around. Anna and I have no reason to commit fraud. I do not have time for that and do not want another fruad in my life for sure. If anything, it shows I can and I will uphold my end of the deal as I did in the past.

I hired the same attorney that did my first K-1 visa because we attached my first k-1 to it to show that i did uphold every point of the visa. It is the people who do it legally that have to pay the price of sins of others.

I wish all the best to all here.

David

I think slow and steady is the best thing, and you seem to be on the right track. You no doubt already know that one meeting is worth about 1,000 email and phone calls. Keep in mind all the legal ways you can protect yourself too, if need be. How did you meet?

[dswann 1]

I think slow and steady is the best thing, and you seem to be on the right track. You no doubt already know that one meeting is worth about 1,000 email and phone calls. Keep in mind all the legal ways you can protect yourself too, if need be. How did you meet?

Oh yes, I spent 20 days there in January. yes, photos with friends and Parents and the whole nine yards. I am planning on going back for interview when that happens. We back a file full of chat logs, phone bills, photos, bank statements, life insurance you name it they have it. Divorce degrees passport photos affadavits of intent to marry, i covered everything leaving nothing to chance.

I met her online at a marriage agency. We quickly moved away from that and she deleted her profile and I did the same. I know a few things a about that business model being a computer engineer. Learned alot more from Anna.

Anna works as a Psychologist at a children orphange. She speaks fluent english. When the crisis hit here, it hit there as well. She found work for a couple of months at the marriage agency there in her hometown. She would translate and escort ladies when Men would come to visit. But, there were not many visits happening during that time. BUt the stories i have heard from her are amazing and i mean not all are good.

I supported her during this time with money so she would not feel pressure.

When the crisis was over the orphanage called her back to work and she has been there ever since. I, being a adopted child visited that orphange. The kids loved her to death. I walked a mile in her shoes and have the photos to show it.

Now, understanding it could be six months before she is here. I am telling her to prepare to come her and spent time with her friends and family. I want her to have the internet installed in her parents home so she can skype with them and her friends and so her parents can have photo from here as well. Been het something from me before and know what to expect.

Just hope time passes quickly. I just hope someone can get some thing that can help them.

David

[Darnell 8,479]

They might think it's a fraud marriage...

Totally disagree. Happy Saturday!

[NVC FAN :( 18]

good luck david, best wishes.

[sunsetwishes 1]

Hi, David! Thanks for sharing your story. Goodluck to you and Anna. Be happy and stay happy!

[GINDS 0]

David,

Thanks for sharing your experience.. We all apreciatte that!!

I hope your case goes through fast, mine is going to over 5 months and don't have interview's date set yet

But you'r right saying that now we're all luck to have internet, skype and all technologies wich brings who we love to close, easy!

Best wishes on your new marriage!

Gisele

Edited March 7, 2010 by GINDS

[dswann 1]

David,

Thanks for sharing your experience.. We all apreciatte that!!

I hope your case goes through fast, mine is going to over 5 months and don't have interview's date set yet

But you'r right saying that now we're all luck to have internet, skype and all technologies wich brings who we love to close, easy!

Best wishes on your new marriage!

Gisele

You are welcome. I have some experience in this being my second time. For sure, the trade we have made back then to now is the internet, in that we added 3 months by having Skype and things like that. One thing is for sure now. It made me go digital in my files. First time, Everything was mail and copied. You would have to call into USCIS then INS to see if you petition was approved. Call your Congressman, this may help. Not sure if it does but it does let them know someone is looking.

Computer and digital camera's make it far easier in documenting your wife and you when adjusting her status. For sure we have to pay attention to that and you can never excuse keeping records. The one thing for sure i would advise everybody to at least get your new wife onto a power bill jointly and start build her credit and get her onto a credit jointly. This is undisputed evidence of support and a real marriage. Photos Photos Photos of you and her and your home and friends and family. Keep everything.

In the visa process things are out of our hands once we drop the packet. All of our work is done before. That is why i keep everything because you may need it in the future. The one reason I hired a attorney was just to have a second pair of eyes on my file and if something happens the can represent us. The money was nothing, I just wanted to insure our success.

I am not saying my way is the only way at all. It is just the path I picked. Sadly as well I have the experience with couples around the Atlanta area whom had troubles. Some were good couples other suffer them same fate as I did but, I do not regret anything.

Someone in this thread asked why i went back to same country.

I had been traveling to Russia and Ukraine since 1995. I love both country's and their people and culture. Just because I had one back experience with one person does not mean all are bad. One thing is for sure the ladies i met from these countries do value their families and family. I am not saying other ladies from other countries do not, they do. I am just stating what I liked.

One thing is for sure, We have to Thank God for being in the USA. We do have a chance to make it here. The people who come here for the first time are over power by the chances in life we have here and take for granted.

Just take the time to explore the chance for your new spouse in your area from education to entertainment. This will help out so much.

I think the hardest thing for my ex- wife she would get lost when driving in Atlanta. Yes, she had GPS. She would call me and tell "I am lost am here?"

Ok, where is here? See my point. Show her around. Make sure she or he knows the surroundings. Important phones are a must. He or she must have them in a place on their person. This came in handy many times.

These things just come to mind. All the best to every one!!! God speed.

David

[minatours 0]

Where I am at now. This is my second time around in the K-1 process. After being married to a Ukrainian lady for ten years we divorced in August of 2007. If I had to give one reason of why we divorced I would say lack of trust on her part and not wanting to adapt or change to a USA of life. She is now remarried and having the same problems now.

There were a number of things I did before she came here and understand things this time around will be very different.

Anna and I have taken a lot of time speaking and I paid for her to go to school there in Kirovograd. She now speaks fluently and we will not face the same problems Natasha and I faced with language. This is a big one, if you lady can not communicate her feelings and ideas it is a problem.

Do not discount how she will react upon her coming here. I mean simple life skills like going to grocery store to going to a café and ordering from the menu. Natasha, it took us six months for her to communicate “sour cream” should have seen her face once she tasted it again her.

I had taken the steps before Natasha came (Natasha my ex-wife) to have her friends or at least from that part of the world. (Big mistake on my part) I had obtained a Georgia drivers manual written in Cyrillic. I brought her into Atlanta so she would get her EAD card at the POE. I had her a car, and had her already set up for English classes for her and her son German.

The first six months she (Natasha my ex-wife and her son German) adapted to life her in the South in the State of Georgia. As far as English was concerned it was good for her because you know we all speak slow here and that was a plus.

My family welcomed her with open arms. My friends did the same but Natasha was cold and disconnected from them to the point it turned my friends off. In fact, Natasha has no Americans friends to this day and she has been here since April 1999.

I disclosed everything to Natasha, meaning I taught her banking, I had built her credit score to 820. I was trying to show her how to pay bills and how to budget. This was something she did not care about. She wanted me to do it. I told her I wanted her to at least know how in case something happened to me. I showed her my insurance policies I mean everything.

I was a Vice President at a computer company and Natasha wanted to work. I got her a job making 20 a hour repairing laptop computers. Full benefits everything. She work at our company for a year when she decided to work at Macy’s making 12 a hour? That was when I was introduced into the “Russian Shopping Network”. These ladies were unbelievable when it came to a discount card. They understood where the other Russian girls worked, how much employee discount they get and when that stores sales happen and even if they got a discount when using a credit card.

By 2005, Natasha and I could not be in the same room with out her being unreasonable and starting a fight about something meaningless. It was all about her. My father had just died in May and my mother was dying and I caught hell about that even.

Needless to say I was not staying at home and was staying and caring for my mother and I was staying in Atlanta. I was still paying for everything and supporting the family but

Really that was all Natasha wanted and she was dating at this point but I could not turn my back on German (Natasha’s son at this point).

It was clear we were not happy and she and I agreed to Divorce and I wanted to make it right with her. She told me she had been unreasonable in the relationship and she knew what I had done for her and German. She told me all she wanted was the car and for me to pay off her credit cards and give her some cash to move to California. I agreed.

I paid off 18 thousand in credit debt of hers. She kept the 2003 Nissan Murano. In that January I gave her 10 thousand in cash and we signed the divorce documents and that August if 2007 it was over.

I had met the requirements of I-864 and everything. I am not angry at Natasha and wish her all the best and for sure I miss German.

I had not adopted German because of the documents and Natasha could have become a US Citizen but she did not and had a hang up about that as it pertained to travel but things have changed since then. I am not sure if Natasha is a citizen now or not.

Natasha and I have spoken since then a few times. I remember in May of 2008 she called me and asked me “David, when is Holden’s birthday?” Holden is my youngest son and is a US Marine. I asked Natasha “You mean to tell me you do no know Holden’s birthday and we were married all those years?”

I told her, and then she told me she had been diagnosed with breast cancer and had a lump in her breast and the went on to tell me she also had “OCD”. Then she asked me “Why I did not tell her she had OCD?” I had to laugh and tell her “You did not listen to anything else I told you why would you listen to that?” She laughed at that point. Then a few weeks later she e-mailed me to let me know the breast cancer was a false read.

I am not saying I am perfect and I did everything right in this relationship. We were both we wrong but now we are moving on.

The process back then in 1999 took 90 days

I file on Jan 17 1999 and Natasha was her April 5 1999.

Many things have change since then the way we speaking meaning Skype and ICQ as to compared to letters every 3 weeks. Natasha when speaking to me would have to walk to a friends home where she could sent a e-mail to me.

Anna has internet in her home. It is very easy for us to speak and sent sms back and forth it is almost like she is here with me now.

The things that I have done differently with Anna is a lot of speaking. Of course Anna is from the Ukraine but for sure the stereo type of the USA is the land of milk and honey and all dreams come true if they make here. As all Americans know this is far from the truth. I have tried to paint a very factual truth of to what is happening in my day to day life and I have given Anna two of Dave Ramsey’s books so she will understand the meaning of money here.

I understand Anna’s background and she understands mine. My parents were married 52 years. Anna’s parents just celebrated 28 years of Marriage. Natasha’s parents were divorced and that happen at a early age. Anna has her own flat and her own job. Natasha lived with mother and waited tables at a bar. That was the only job Natasha could find at the time. Anna has a master’s degree in Psychology. Natasha told me she had a college degree but found out later she did not have a degree.

Anna has scanned her degrees and I am in the process of having then translated so Anna can attend school when she arrives to have a good job.

I have advised Anna to teach school so she can have the benefits and the time off during the summers to travel back to her homeland.

I have a car ready and waiting for her and this will be the first task we will under take. I sold my home and I am in process of relocating to Jacksonville Florida. I will stay in a apartment until Anna arrives sometime this summer so she can choose a home for the first time in her life.

When Anna and I started speaking and we decided to move forward I kept everything understands we would arrive at this point. It was very simple for me to put the file together for her visa.

In this, it has been a hard road. I lost Natasha, German, My Dad, My Mom, and over one million in cash. I lost my home to foreclosure, lost my cars and everything. I slept on a couch in a fight gym in Atlanta for over a year and walked to work and back. I have been tied up in court trying to get back the money due to a bad partner in a business deal. My court date is set for this July and there has been talk of settling and I work ge back the cash I lost.

I have told Anna all of this. She knows all and she has walked with me in this. Now, my life has turned for the better. I have a great job, great life, In great shape now. I have lost over 100 pounds and work out everyday. For my 45 years people can not believe I am that age.

So, I hope so one can get something from my story the Second time around.

David

You are welcome. I have some experience in this being my second time. For sure, the trade we have made back then to now is the internet, in that we added 3 months by having Skype and things like that. One thing is for sure now. It made me go digital in my files. First time, Everything was mail and copied. You would have to call into USCIS then INS to see if you petition was approved. Call your Congressman, this may help. Not sure if it does but it does let them know someone is looking.

Computer and digital camera's make it far easier in documenting your wife and you when adjusting her status. For sure we have to pay attention to that and you can never excuse keeping records. The one thing for sure i would advise everybody to at least get your new wife onto a power bill jointly and start build her credit and get her onto a credit jointly. This is undisputed evidence of support and a real marriage. Photos Photos Photos of you and her and your home and friends and family. Keep everything.

In the visa process things are out of our hands once we drop the packet. All of our work is done before. That is why i keep everything because you may need it in the future. The one reason I hired a attorney was just to have a second pair of eyes on my file and if something happens the can represent us. The money was nothing, I just wanted to insure our success.

I am not saying my way is the only way at all. It is just the path I picked. Sadly as well I have the experience with couples around the Atlanta area whom had troubles. Some were good couples other suffer them same fate as I did but, I do not regret anything.

Someone in this thread asked why i went back to same country.

I had been traveling to Russia and Ukraine since 1995. I love both country's and their people and culture. Just because I had one back experience with one person does not mean all are bad. One thing is for sure the ladies i met from these countries do value their families and family. I am not saying other ladies from other countries do not, they do. I am just stating what I liked.

One thing is for sure, We have to Thank God for being in the USA. We do have a chance to make it here. The people who come here for the first time are over power by the chances in life we have here and take for granted.

Just take the time to explore the chance for your new spouse in your area from education to entertainment. This will help out so much.

I think the hardest thing for my ex- wife she would get lost when driving in Atlanta. Yes, she had GPS. She would call me and tell "I am lost am here?"

Ok, where is here? See my point. Show her around. Make sure she or he knows the surroundings. Important phones are a must. He or she must have them in a place on their person. This came in handy many times.

These things just come to mind. All the best to every one!!! God speed.

David

[minatours 0]

Where I am at now. This is my second time around in the K-1 process. After being married to a Ukrainian lady for ten years we divorced in August of 2007. If I had to give one reason of why we divorced I would say lack of trust on her part and not wanting to adapt or change to a USA of life. She is now remarried and having the same problems now.

There were a number of things I did before she came here and understand things this time around will be very different.

Anna and I have taken a lot of time speaking and I paid for her to go to school there in Kirovograd. She now speaks fluently and we will not face the same problems Natasha and I faced with language. This is a big one, if you lady can not communicate her feelings and ideas it is a problem.

Do not discount how she will react upon her coming here. I mean simple life skills like going to grocery store to going to a café and ordering from the menu. Natasha, it took us six months for her to communicate “sour cream” should have seen her face once she tasted it again her.

I had taken the steps before Natasha came (Natasha my ex-wife) to have her friends or at least from that part of the world. (Big mistake on my part) I had obtained a Georgia drivers manual written in Cyrillic. I brought her into Atlanta so she would get her EAD card at the POE. I had her a car, and had her already set up for English classes for her and her son German.

The first six months she (Natasha my ex-wife and her son German) adapted to life her in the South in the State of Georgia. As far as English was concerned it was good for her because you know we all speak slow here and that was a plus.

My family welcomed her with open arms. My friends did the same but Natasha was cold and disconnected from them to the point it turned my friends off. In fact, Natasha has no Americans friends to this day and she has been here since April 1999.

I disclosed everything to Natasha, meaning I taught her banking, I had built her credit score to 820. I was trying to show her how to pay bills and how to budget. This was something she did not care about. She wanted me to do it. I told her I wanted her to at least know how in case something happened to me. I showed her my insurance policies I mean everything.

I was a Vice President at a computer company and Natasha wanted to work. I got her a job making 20 a hour repairing laptop computers. Full benefits everything. She work at our company for a year when she decided to work at Macy’s making 12 a hour? That was when I was introduced into the “Russian Shopping Network”. These ladies were unbelievable when it came to a discount card. They understood where the other Russian girls worked, how much employee discount they get and when that stores sales happen and even if they got a discount when using a credit card.

By 2005, Natasha and I could not be in the same room with out her being unreasonable and starting a fight about something meaningless. It was all about her. My father had just died in May and my mother was dying and I caught hell about that even.

Needless to say I was not staying at home and was staying and caring for my mother and I was staying in Atlanta. I was still paying for everything and supporting the family but

Really that was all Natasha wanted and she was dating at this point but I could not turn my back on German (Natasha’s son at this point).

It was clear we were not happy and she and I agreed to Divorce and I wanted to make it right with her. She told me she had been unreasonable in the relationship and she knew what I had done for her and German. She told me all she wanted was the car and for me to pay off her credit cards and give her some cash to move to California. I agreed.

I paid off 18 thousand in credit debt of hers. She kept the 2003 Nissan Murano. In that January I gave her 10 thousand in cash and we signed the divorce documents and that August if 2007 it was over.

I had met the requirements of I-864 and everything. I am not angry at Natasha and wish her all the best and for sure I miss German.

I had not adopted German because of the documents and Natasha could have become a US Citizen but she did not and had a hang up about that as it pertained to travel but things have changed since then. I am not sure if Natasha is a citizen now or not.

Natasha and I have spoken since then a few times. I remember in May of 2008 she called me and asked me “David, when is Holden’s birthday?” Holden is my youngest son and is a US Marine. I asked Natasha “You mean to tell me you do no know Holden’s birthday and we were married all those years?”

I told her, and then she told me she had been diagnosed with breast cancer and had a lump in her breast and the went on to tell me she also had “OCD”. Then she asked me “Why I did not tell her she had OCD?” I had to laugh and tell her “You did not listen to anything else I told you why would you listen to that?” She laughed at that point. Then a few weeks later she e-mailed me to let me know the breast cancer was a false read.

I am not saying I am perfect and I did everything right in this relationship. We were both we wrong but now we are moving on.

The process back then in 1999 took 90 days

I file on Jan 17 1999 and Natasha was her April 5 1999.

Many things have change since then the way we speaking meaning Skype and ICQ as to compared to letters every 3 weeks. Natasha when speaking to me would have to walk to a friends home where she could sent a e-mail to me.

Anna has internet in her home. It is very easy for us to speak and sent sms back and forth it is almost like she is here with me now.

The things that I have done differently with Anna is a lot of speaking. Of course Anna is from the Ukraine but for sure the stereo type of the USA is the land of milk and honey and all dreams come true if they make here. As all Americans know this is far from the truth. I have tried to paint a very factual truth of to what is happening in my day to day life and I have given Anna two of Dave Ramsey’s books so she will understand the meaning of money here.

I understand Anna’s background and she understands mine. My parents were married 52 years. Anna’s parents just celebrated 28 years of Marriage. Natasha’s parents were divorced and that happen at a early age. Anna has her own flat and her own job. Natasha lived with mother and waited tables at a bar. That was the only job Natasha could find at the time. Anna has a master’s degree in Psychology. Natasha told me she had a college degree but found out later she did not have a degree.

Anna has scanned her degrees and I am in the process of having then translated so Anna can attend school when she arrives to have a good job.

I have advised Anna to teach school so she can have the benefits and the time off during the summers to travel back to her homeland.

I have a car ready and waiting for her and this will be the first task we will under take. I sold my home and I am in process of relocating to Jacksonville Florida. I will stay in a apartment until Anna arrives sometime this summer so she can choose a home for the first time in her life.

When Anna and I started speaking and we decided to move forward I kept everything understands we would arrive at this point. It was very simple for me to put the file together for her visa.

In this, it has been a hard road. I lost Natasha, German, My Dad, My Mom, and over one million in cash. I lost my home to foreclosure, lost my cars and everything. I slept on a couch in a fight gym in Atlanta for over a year and walked to work and back. I have been tied up in court trying to get back the money due to a bad partner in a business deal. My court date is set for this July and there has been talk of settling and I work ge back the cash I lost.

I have told Anna all of this. She knows all and she has walked with me in this. Now, my life has turned for the better. I have a great job, great life, In great shape now. I have lost over 100 pounds and work out everyday. For my 45 years people can not believe I am that age.

So, I hope so one can get something from my story the Second time around.

David

well sir i will tell u the bottom line for your case it is all about the consular who is going to process your case he can let it go or consider it as red flag which u good luck god bless u