The Grit Iron: K1 Process

[Sheriff Uling 3]

With all of the freedoms we have here in America, it's hard having to wait to be with our loved ones through this process. We are fortunate enough to have everything practically at our fingertips except for that which matters most, family and loved ones. We're in the trenches emotionally, physically, financially, and spiritually. Although, I'm sure that we'll get through this with time, patients, and unfortunate frustration. I find myself almost in tears in anticipation of being with my beloved, and I needed this outlet now more than ever. I want to thank all of you for your comments and support (direct and indirect).

I wish us all the best and I truly look forward to reading about your success stories. It gives me hope and clear vision to the light at the end of the tunnel in this heart wrenching process.

[Mew 0]

Aaaawwww

[neptune970 0]

That's nice. Very sweet of you.

[Robor007 0]

You know, when I talk to family, friends, and coworkers about this they just don't get it. They can't grasp that a US citizen has to go through so much to choose a non-US citizen as their spouse. To be honest, didn't know until a few years ago and I only knew part of it because a friend went through it. Now that I'm in love with a Filipina I have had to learn about the process and worse yet deal with everyday life in a long distance relationship. I know everyone says the trials and waiting is worth it but when it's so far off it's hard to think about that now (my 'light at the end of the tunnel is still around the bend). I just try to enjoy our talks and go about 'the daily grind' until we're together again.

Edited July 31, 2006 by Robor007

[Sheriff Uling 3]

Robor007 - I totally understand. The other thing that we have to deal with is the 3 - 5 month lag in obtaining a visa interview at the US Embassy in Manila.

Goodness! The hits just keep on coming.

[William33 110]

One step at a time Uling. You are going to drive yourself nuts, thinking your way to the end game!!!

Hang in there.

Robor007 - I totally understand. The other thing that we have to deal with is the 3 - 5 month lag in obtaining a visa interview at the US Embassy in Manila.

Goodness! The hits just keep on coming.

[Robor007 0]

Robor007 - I totally understand. The other thing that we have to deal with is the 3 - 5 month lag in obtaining a visa interview at the US Embassy in Manila.

Goodness! The hits just keep on coming.

I wish I was playing the waiting game with you all now. I still have a couple of months before I even get to join in that kind of fun. You're all waiting in the long line inside the building. If you look outside you'll see me in the overflow line before I get to join your line. Hope to see you in there soon!

Want to hear something funny as far as time passing goes...? I was doing some recorded TV show cleanup on my DVR (Digital Video Recorder) last night. I had shows on there from late October of last year and early April of this year. They've been on my DVR for many months and it seems like I recorded those shows only a month or two ago. I last saw my fiancee at the beginning of June yet it seems like forever. I guess that's because I don't think about my recorded TV shows like I do my fiancee.

She will be here the first week of October and we will be able to spend 4 weeks together. After that we're both going to Manila where I'll spend 3 weeks with her. In fact, I just scheduled my vacation. I'm waiting on the approval now. Well, waiting on the approval and the time to pass. (sigh)

Edited July 31, 2006 by Robor007

[neonmikey 0]

i feel like the devil is dining on my soul, it is complete and utter misery to be without her, sometimes my brain takes a vacation and i can sink myself into my work, but sooner or later i snap back into reality and realize the mount everest of time it will take for us to be together, i would give all that i have to speed this up.

[Alanlvsjudy 0]

Heh heh, Mikey I figured to see you on this thread...now mind you Ive got it bad too...

Oh and I would give all YOU have to speed this up as well... : )

Edited July 31, 2006 by Alanlvsjudy

[vartan 0]

I am taking night classes and in class the other day we had to talk about what we believed strongly in.. I said Immigration and the whole class went silent.. I told them "No I am talking about LEGAL IMMIGRATION" .. So I had to say something about it and see if people believed me .. I told them "Until July no family based visa petitions were approved from March to July.. " Everyone told me I was wrong and that everything is fine blah blha blha.. thought it was funny.

[dwar49 0]

Dont feel bad Vartan I get the same response when i tell people of how bad the situation is and what we have to go thru to get a visa for a fiancee or spouse!!!

Is it any wonder that so many people come here illegally?

Those of us who try to do it by the book are punished for the sins of others.

Okay I know, I am getting real bitter here but am real tired of hearing how great a system we have and how wonderful it works.

[TucsonBill 0]

Um...

When I first started looking into this whole 'Fiance Visa Thing' back in April, I scheduled for one of those InfoPass appointments. Petitions at that time were being processed from February and I was quite naive' and thought to myself "WOW! Just fill out the papers and she can be here in 3 months! NOT TOO BAD!"

We made plans for a late November / early December wedding... little did I know...

*SIGH*

At least I know I'm not 'weird' - (not the only MAN that feels like "whining" over this whole process!)

Bill

Edited July 31, 2006 by TucsonBill

[Sheriff Uling 3]

vartan - I don't know how in the world people outside of this process can feel or think that everything is "fine" with what is going on. To me, there is nothing normal about being separated from your beloved because of "red tape" at least for the amount of time that we all must endure. I can't seem to justify the madness.

dwar49 - I also sometimes feel frustrated because, in many ways, we are punished as a result of those who have broken our immigration laws and 9/11 has been an excuse to further delay the process.

TucsonBill - I feel like flopping around on the floor like those bratty kids you see in the mall or at the grocery store.

Edited July 31, 2006 by Uling

[isleta521 5]

I (we) had many, many months of loneliness, heartache, and a rollercoaster ride right up to the very end (or beginning). Looking back now and reflecting on everything, it is all worth it!!! Your time will come eventually. I wish the best to all of you and just hang in there. There is a light at the end of the tunnel.

[Qiao - 108 days 0]

I have a feeling that my coworkers get tired of hearing about it. I have one of those big 2006 office calendars on the side of my cube, and I mark all of the dates that something happens with our visa. Now people come in and ask me about it. People really cannot believe how bad the whole process is.

I try to do as much as I can to stay busy, but some days it all feels really empty...

I can say that web cams are one of the greatest things ever. I cannot imagine trying to do this if we only had snail mail to communicate!!!