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[witnewlife 0]

salamo alykom

this is my first time i writ her i was following all what happened see some get visa and some not i was witting until joined my husband and writ to say i stare my new life

we love each other lot more we are for each other he come to visit me 5 times in 8 months only we can’t be away at each other our paper was in the last step at nvc but that what happend

my husband want to divorce me i was did lot of mistakes with him and some times act liek shilds but walah shahid i love him more than myself in this month’s lot of problem happened and finally he decide to divorce me don’t know what to do crying day and night

im asking all brother and sister her what i need to do he is my life he is everything can’t imagine i will lose him ?

what if he truly decide to divorce me he need to come to morocco or he can do in usa

need help and advices

[Darnell 8,478]

he can divorce you in USA - you don't need to be there. You'll probably have to sign a waiver, but that's usually a 'county court' paper, nothing federal.

As to 'reconciliation' - hey -thats between you two, right?

[witnewlife 0]

thanks darnell

but still need more information did anybody can help plssssssssssssssssssss?

[milimelo 4,486]

thanks darnell

but still need more information did anybody can help plssssssssssssssssssss?

You were already told right: he can divorce you even from the US, you don't even have to be there.

Not sure what info are you looking for? It is between you and your husband if and how you save your marriage.

Edited February 25, 2010 by milimelo

[witnewlife 0]

hi thnaks fo ryou answer

so i can undestand he can divorce me without know that ?

[NickD 203]

hi thnaks fo ryou answer

so i can undestand he can divorce me without know that ?

Not sure from your post exactly where you and your husband are located or even living together. Get the impression you are in Morocco and he is in the USA. Where did you get married?

Do know if you apply for a divorce in the USA and also depending on what state you are in, can contest the divorce, demand reconciliation, or claim abuse and cream mhim for everything he has. Unless he has witnesses to the contrary, but certainly cannot file for a divorce without your knowledge. I know nothing about the laws in your country.

Regarding mistakes, hope one those was not committing adultery, that would tee off any guy. Especially if he is laying out big bucks to bring you here.

[Darnell 8,478]

sorry - let me be clear(er) -

he can FILE for divorce without talking to you.

for the divorce to be 'granted' at a courthouse, though - USUALLY - you have to sign some paper. In between 'filing' and 'granting' - you will have opportunity to 'contest the divorce' on all levels. If you can't be IN the USA to 'contest the divorce' - suggest you engage an attorney to represent you in these matters, DURING the divorce proceedings.

You have legal rights, as a foreign spouse, during divorce proceedings, always.

[witnewlife 0]

thanks darnell again and again

so its possible to go there to contest the divorce

how if i dont want divorce an di dont want to sign ?

how i can engage an attorney to represent me in these ?

what will happen if im not able to engage an attorney?

wit u answer thanks in andvance

[Darnell 8,478]

if you don't want to divorce, and you don't want to sign -

then the divorce proceedings will be CONTESTED - and heard by a judge.

USUALLY, the person FILING wants the divorce - is no concept of 'prove to judge why divorce not to be granted' -

instead - if contested - then

one person will 'prove to judge' why to divorce, and thats it.

The filing has jurisdiction for 'county' level, usually -

so need to get representation (an attorney) from that county .

Note - that's COUNTY - not COUNTRY ..

If you not engage attorney, then your rights will not be represented, and usually

'your rights are waived'.

You might want to talk to an imam, as well, in the locale where your husband lives (via telephone) - usually, that imam can guide you for all types of resources.

Good Luck !

[Darnell 8,478]

how to engage attorney -

is easy in usa -

1. find one

2. pay retainer fees ( monies )

[pushbrk 12,910]

thanks darnell again and again

so its possible to go there to contest the divorce

Unless you have a visa, you cannot "go there" to the USA to contest the divorce. You can be represented by an attorney. You can be notified by mail of your spouse's intent to divorce you.

I'm not an attorney but you should be aware that there's probably little point in contesting a divorce in such a short marriage. You can't force the marriage to continue. You can only contest the terms of the divorce. In most US States, newlyweds (particularly couples who have never resided in the same country together and have no children) are generally not awarded anything financial from their spouses. The general idea is to put things as they would have been financially if the marriage had never occurred.

Edited February 26, 2010 by pushbrk

[Otto 83]

** Topic may be better suited in "Effects of Major Family Changes on Immigration Benefits" (rather than K-3 Process/Procedures); moving thread there.