Dilemma

[gimygirl 0]

it's always posters like this that pour their heart out and then never come back ...

almost makes me think it's someone we know ...

I was thinking along the same lines, Gimy... wouldn't we figure it out, though, if the someone we knew suddenly called it off? There've been quite a few of these 'post and go' types recently...

Jen

If it is someone we know, she should know that we are worried about her, about him, and that our door is always open.........

i completely agree!

[Fandango 1,439]

I think the OP knows what she wants to do

[SEAN_EBONY 0]

im so sorry that you are having these feelings. you have to really try to weigh the pros and cons. are you guys fighting because of the tension leading up to marriage? is it just general stuff like being in his space. what is it that doesnt make you guys happy to be together. what was the spark before? talk to one another put everything on the table. is he feeling the same way or jus you are thinnking of backing out? communication is the best key.

Hi everybody. I'm new here though I've been reading some posts in this forum. I'm glad to find a place where you can share similar life experiences. I'm from Peru and I'm getting married next week. I knew my fiance in a dating web site almost two years ago, he went to visit me to Lima a few times, we had a good time and after 8 months dating we applied for the K1 visa. I've been in the States since early May but I don't know if I'm ready to give that big step yet. As you well know the K1 visa is valid only for 90 days and there's no extension. Next week my visa will expire.

When I came here I left everything behind to start a new life with the man I dated for a year and a half. He is a good guy, and also I am, but during these months we've had a hard time getting along. I knew the adjustment wouldn't be easy because he has lived by himself for a long period of time as well as me. We are having silly arguments and each one is on the defensive all the time, which is odd because we used to get along great with each other while we were dating online. I know living together is something really different but I always thought we could do it great.

I feel unsecure about marriage, I don't know if after that we could fix our differences or maybe they get worse. Is he maybe feeling I'm threatening his freedom?

Sometimes I'd like to come back to my country, but I do also feel I love him. We did a lot to be finally together but I think we are not doing much for keeping it.

I'd appreciate your comments because an outsider can see many things I probably don't. Thanks

[CarolineM 0]

Communication...not just lovey dovey stuff online....really talking and finding things out about each other. For two years this is all my husband and I had, in between visits. We spent hours, at night, talking to each other, on the phone, using the webcam...it's how we've made it work.

right on Karen

[nfs 0]

Communication...not just lovey dovey stuff online....really talking and finding things out about each other. For two years this is all my husband and I had, in between visits. We spent hours, at night, talking to each other, on the phone, using the webcam...it's how we've made it work.

right on Karen

yes, and if you can't talk about it thoroughly right now, marriage is not going to make anything easier!

more likely, it will get worse.