wedding bands, wearing in pictures while fiance was here

[sleepy in Seattle 3]

just read earlier today about a case where in an interview some one had been denied for the simple fact that they expressed being like husband and wife, not to mention another one where they had gotten engaged while she was getting her devorce, I am so terrified about this whole entire process that a padded room will be waiting instead of a husband to be,

Can We change our engagement day , or what can we do in order to prevent being denied. Also the pictures of my fiance already brandishing his wedding band in them, is this going to be a problem, he wears the band to say just how much he loves me and because of the distance, but it is not because we deem ourselves married at all. Any help

Edited February 21, 2010 by sleepy in Seattle

[Sprailenes 47]

What country was this poster from?

If you don't mind me asking, and yes it matters.

[sleepy in Seattle 3]

What country was this poster from?

If you don't mind me asking, and yes it matters.

not from Canada, India or something like this, just having a panick attack of sorts sorry

[Sprailenes 47]

Some countries frown upon stuff like that. Some countries are very traditional... you kind of have to look it like that too. I seriously doubt the officer in Canada is going to give you a hard time over that kind of thing. If they ask and you answer honestly, then you're okay. Don't change dates or anything, just be honest.

[sleepy in Seattle 3]

Some countries frown upon stuff like that. Some countries are very traditional... you kind of have to look it like that too. I seriously doubt the officer in Canada is going to give you a hard time over that kind of thing. If they ask and you answer honestly, then you're okay. Don't change dates or anything, just be honest.

I am a very honset peson, and I just don't want us to get stuck at some point because we allowed our emotions to take over, not knowing that we were wrong, or could be seen as being so.

[trailmix 77]

In reading this and your post the other day:

I have read here that my fiance can attend the interview with me, but they don't won't to hear from him just me. I hope that this will help.

My advice? You really REALLY need to stick with Canadian content. Canadian reviews.

[Hugglebuggles 60]

I agree with Trailmix. Canadian K-1 interviews are generally pretty straightforward and easy. Ours took no longer than 10 minutes- we were asked to clarify some points on our documents, how we met, how often we visited each other and when we were planning on getting married. That was it! They aren't there to trap you or catch you in a lie. My husband (then fiance) came to my interview with me in Montreal and they actually talked to him more than they talked to me!

[HeatDeath 430]

In Canada, we have the ridiculous good fortune that the consulate officers tend NOT to assume that we are all desperate third-world con artists who will say and do anything to get a visa (unlike some consulates you will read about here :\ )

If they even ask about the ring, which is unlikely, simply tell the truth: that it is currently an engagement ring and the ceremony will turn it into a wedding ring. My USC fiancee wore her ring through the entire engagement. We just added a couple of bands at the ceremony, but the difference wouldn't show up unless the photo was taken from less then a foot away.

[Wyatt's Torch 45]

Realistically, there would be NO benefit to a person being married and going for a K-1 visa. Anyone who is married should want to move to the U.S. on a CR-1 since it's less expensive overall, there's less paperwork, and you get PR status once you cross the POE. A consular officer knows this.

As has been well-documented in other threads, my wife and I got married before the K-1 visa was approved, and we had to start the process from scratch with a CR-1...but there's no way it would have made it to the interview stage without our error being caught.

Like others have said, just be honest...and just read reviews from Canada. Each country has its own way of dealing with the process. You're in Canada, so that's all that pertains to you.

[VanessaTony 3,567]

This is the thread she's referring to: http://www.visajourney.com/forums/index.php?showtopic=242908

[Brother Hesekiel 2,236]

The human brain is an amazing device. It can play the weirdest mind games without even having to smoke some really good stuff.

Really pointless to compare godforsaken places like Afghanistan, Iran, Iraq, Pakistan or high fraud countries like Nigeria -- in short countries where people would eat their own grandmother to get the hell out of -- with civilized ones like Canada, France, or Italy. Or is there?

[trailmix 77]

The human brain is an amazing device. It can play the weirdest mind games without even having to smoke some really good stuff.

Really pointless to compare godforsaken places like Afghanistan, Iran, Iraq, Pakistan or high fraud countries like Nigeria -- in short countries where people would eat their own grandmother to get the hell out of -- with civilized ones like Canada, France, or Italy. Or is there?

Ooooooh look at that slightly spooky open ended question! <wanders off>

[Spoom 8]

The process only differs at the Consulate stage, and if you're going to a US Consulate in Canada, you'll be fine. I'd advise you to take off your wedding bands (but not the engagement ring(s)) for the interview; if they ask about it, be honest. They only really care that you haven't married yet and are still free to marry. I doubt you'll have much trouble with Montreal.

[sleepy in Seattle 3]

I agree with Trailmix. Canadian K-1 interviews are generally pretty straightforward and easy. Ours took no longer than 10 minutes- we were asked to clarify some points on our documents, how we met, how often we visited each other and when we were planning on getting married. That was it! They aren't there to trap you or catch you in a lie. My husband (then fiance) came to my interview with me in Montreal and they actually talked to him more than they talked to me!

lol!

Congrats and I am glad that you have made it through to be with your fiance now husband, oh how I long for that day to.

The human brain is an amazing device. It can play the weirdest mind games without even having to smoke some really good stuff.

Really pointless to compare godforsaken places like Afghanistan, Iran, Iraq, Pakistan or high fraud countries like Nigeria -- in short countries where people would eat their own grandmother to get the hell out of -- with civilized ones like Canada, France, or Italy. Or is there?

Your to funny, hehehe! love it!

The process only differs at the Consulate stage, and if you're going to a US Consulate in Canada, you'll be fine. I'd advise you to take off your wedding bands (but not the engagement ring(s)) for the interview; if they ask about it, be honest. They only really care that you haven't married yet and are still free to marry. I doubt you'll have much trouble with Montreal.

Thank you very much!

[sleepy in Seattle 3]

In Canada, we have the ridiculous good fortune that the consulate officers tend NOT to assume that we are all desperate third-world con artists who will say and do anything to get a visa (unlike some consulates you will read about here :\ )

If they even ask about the ring, which is unlikely, simply tell the truth: that it is currently an engagement ring and the ceremony will turn it into a wedding ring. My USC fiancee wore her ring through the entire engagement. We just added a couple of bands at the ceremony, but the difference wouldn't show up unless the photo was taken from less then a foot away.

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thank you! I just worry to much and feel rather lonely and lost right now. It hasn't been that easy going through this process and not being able to be there for my fiance and his daughters that have been bothering him about when I am coming back and so on. Not to mention the not knowing as to when we are going to be allowed to get married puts a damper on buying my wedding dress and inviting his family there not to mention mine.

In reading this and your post the other day:

My advice? You really REALLY need to stick with Canadian content. Canadian reviews.

okay! thanks