USC Hubby abandoned us (again) - CR-1 Visa and CRBA Approved

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Thank you so much for these... Sometimes it really gets hard. It's not easy to be cheated on, to be left behind with a new baby...it makes you question your value, your worth. It shakes the confidence, but in all these, I have to think about my baby. I have to be strong for her, try to make the best decisions. She doesn't have anyone else but me. I do not have a choice but to make this work.

Thank you very much.

Very well said

[Scott and Mhay 57]

You may be surprized at what your child support is depending on what state he resides in and the divorce is finalized in (and you having sole custody of the child). They do not take into account for his debts (only credits he gets is for taxes which are manditory he pays...so is child support)....just what income he has...as far as the other child he has with another woman...doesnt matter because he is not married right? Do not refuse to get child support from him...you will need it even if only to put in the bank for those real times of need.

I dont question your motives...i feel you are right in what you are doing. I cant believe how strong you are in all this. Keep the strength...you still have family here at VJ. there will be people that think what they want. Let them think it. you only know the whole story and are doing what is best for your daughter.

Edited February 21, 2010 by Scott and Mhay

[his_sunshine 0]

If you do come to the US make sure you update the address you want your GC sent to at the POE....dont let it get sent to your (ex)husband's address if he still has the same one. Hopefully you have someone to be able to send it to so you can receive it at least from your second trip when you come back as it may take more than a month to receive it. Sorry to hear about your problems...hopefully you can move on from this.

Can I update my address now, even before I come there? Thru an AR-11? Someone really helpful (who was also abandoned by her hubby) messaged me and said she changed her address at POE but was asked by the officer for her hubby's number to confirm the change of address. She was able to get thru but she said she ran a huge risk doing that. My (x)hubby's phone was surrendered to his job because he was terminated last month and is now unemployed and without a phone. I guess I can give them my Mom-in-Law's number but I would rather not be questioned about it.

So do I file the AR-11 now? Or wait until I arrive in the US and then file the AR-11 then? I read from the website that I need to file the form within 11 days after the change of address? And when I do file the AR-11, how do I confirm that the address is changed??

Fact is, my (x) hubby really did move and somebody else is now staying in the address we submitted in the petition, it's a rented house. I tried changing the address during my interview but the CO informed me they are not the ones handling that.

Thank you very much for all your help. VJ is really helpful. Thank you all very much.

[Scott and Mhay 57]

Honestly I dont know for sure. you should have been able to use a different address on your DS-230 during your interview. I have read where people have changed their address at the POE. You can do a change of address online, but since you are not in the US now, I dont know if it would be a problem or not. Your best bet would be to call the USCIS. You can read more about change of address here:

https://egov.uscis.gov/crisgwi/go?action=coa

Personally I think you should have it sent to your mother in law or where you will be staying for your first trip (someone you can trust as it may take longer than 3 weeks to get your greencard). As far as notification that it is changed...you would just have to call them and verify. Maybe you can make an infopass appointment when you first get to the US?

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Honestly I dont know for sure. you should have been able to use a different address on your DS-230 during your interview. I have read where people have changed their address at the POE. You can do a change of address online, but since you are not in the US now, I dont know if it would be a problem or not. Your best bet would be to call the USCIS. You can read more about change of address here:

https://egov.uscis.gov/crisgwi/go?action=coa

Personally I think you should have it sent to your mother in law or where you will be staying for your first trip (someone you can trust as it may take longer than 3 weeks to get your greencard). As far as notification that it is changed...you would just have to call them and verify. Maybe you can make an infopass appointment when you first get to the US?

I was not asked to fill out a new DS-230 at the interview. I am intending to get it sent to his cousin's, that's where i'm staying for the duration of the stay. I will probably call USCIS tomorrow to ask.

What is an infopass appointment?

[Scott and Mhay 57]

it is an appointment to talk to the local office covering the area where your ex lives.

[BethandBilly 86]

it is an appointment to talk to the local office covering the area where your ex lives.

Did the OP get everything sorted out do we know? I hope she did, what the guy did to her was disgusting, makes you wonder what humanity is coming to.

With regards child support, make sure you look up state laws, some states do take in to account what he pays out, some states take in to account his income and his new partners income, some states basically take everything from the non custodial parent therefore making it difficult to have any chance of having both parents in the childs life (if they both want to be in the childs life that is). Alimony I believe is only paid after you can prove that your ex has kept you living in a certain way and has 100% supported you, I also believe in some states that you have to have been a certain number of years at the very least.

As much as this guy as hurt you and Lord knows he has, if you should make it safely back to the US with your little bundle and he wants to see her, please do not refuse him access and try to be accommodating. I only say this because a judge could rule that you are never to take the child overseas again if they think you have intentions of keeping the child from him.

I wish you the best of luck on your journey, take care and good luck

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Did the OP get everything sorted out do we know? I hope she did, what the guy did to her was disgusting, makes you wonder what humanity is coming to.

With regards child support, make sure you look up state laws, some states do take in to account what he pays out, some states take in to account his income and his new partners income, some states basically take everything from the non custodial parent therefore making it difficult to have any chance of having both parents in the childs life (if they both want to be in the childs life that is). Alimony I believe is only paid after you can prove that your ex has kept you living in a certain way and has 100% supported you, I also believe in some states that you have to have been a certain number of years at the very least.

As much as this guy as hurt you and Lord knows he has, if you should make it safely back to the US with your little bundle and he wants to see her, please do not refuse him access and try to be accommodating. I only say this because a judge could rule that you are never to take the child overseas again if they think you have intentions of keeping the child from him.

I wish you the best of luck on your journey, take care and good luck

I am sorry that I have not updated everyone anymore about what happened after but I am going to do that now.

I left the Philippines last April. At the point of entry in Guam, USA, they asked me for my packet and then informed me that since I am arriving in the US on a CR-1 visa category but married for over 3 years, I am getting a 10 yr GC and stamped IR-1 on my passport. He congratulted me on being a Permanent Resident of the US. With regards to the change of address, I changed it at the point of entry with no hiccups. Apparently you cannot file for AR-11 if you are out of the US. So in totality, my trip went smoothly. I loved my inlaws (and I was able to meet more inlaws that I ever expected to meet) and my inlaws loved me. In a surprise twist of events, my husband visited me at his brother's house and we spent a weekend together. I asked him to file for a divorce and he asked me to give him time to get back on his feet and when he is back on his feet, to give him a chance to try again. I wasn't sure if I want to try again but I told him I am giving him the time that he is asking. As at the moment, we are continually talking (not back together but leaning towards it), and he has promised to help me in my move to the US. I am bringing our baby with me and will be back in the US around September.

Two weeks after I entered the US, I got my SSN in the mail. Unfortunately, I had to come back to Manila before I got my physical GC. But in a little over 1 month (2 weeks after I arrived in Manila) I got my GC in the mail. Here's the thing (and another issue), my greencard is expiring in 2 years. I am confused. I was told at POE that I was suppose to get a 10-yr unconditional GC but I got a 2 Yr GC. Is this a mistake by the USCIS? Or is it really possible that the immigration officer at POE was wrong?? And if it is a mistake, what do I do??? How do I correct it? I do not want to go thru Removal of Conditions if there shouldn't be a need to.

Would be grateful again for all the help and suggestions.

Thank you.

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[Deputy Purple 1,294]

When you return to the US make an infopass appointment and discuss this with them.

[Darnell 8,478]

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