Tips to help your SO adjust

[doodlebugg 10]

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[LaL 418]

These threads would be great to merge.

[ya falaha! 0]

Great idea!

These threads would be great to merge.

[bhajishah 4]

Study the teachings of prophet Muhhamed. Wife is not MOMMY anhd wife is not slave. Follow the quran dude take it like a man!!

[MouadsWife 161]

So, for those of us who have already gone through the (possibley painful) adjustment period after our significan others arrive in the United States, I think it would be beneficial to create a list of tried and true tips for those sistas out there who haven't gone through it yet. These can be cultural and/or religious in origin, or just helpful tips for when you go from living alone to sharing your space

Here are some of mine:

*Have some food from home readily available if possible

I stocked the cupboards with cans of foul and had the round bread popular across the ME/NA.

That softened the blow of odd things like tuna sandwiches and frozen pizza a bit

*Make space for him.

He might not come with a lot of stuff, but make sure there's a spot on the bookshelf for him,

room in the closet and in the drawers

*Watering can in the bathroom

At least from what I'm aware of, many people from the ME/NA region don't feel comfortable using just toilet paper. Putting a watering can in the bathroom will allow easy access at that certain time. Also, there are several bidet attachments availble that can be fit on american toilets.

*If he makes salat (ie muslim daily prayer), find the direction of prayer (usually NE) and get a printout of prayer times for your area.

The direction of prayer in North America is generally North East. Buying a cheap qiblah compass will help to find the exact direction.

Prayer times differ by location. Put your zipcode into Islamic Finder and you'll get a page that will list prayer times for the day, a link to a monthly prayer times chart, and a list of muslim businesses in the area, which may provide you info on where to find home food. Islamic finder also has a athan 3.0 program that you can download onto the computer. This program will calculate prayer times for your area and call the athan (call to prayer) on your computer.

Ask him if he has room to bring a prayer rug in his suitcase. Since he has limited room, offer to buy him one so he has more room to bring other stuff.

What am I reading wrong about this sentence???? I stocked the cupboards with cans of foul and had the round bread popular across the ME/NA. Foul = bird... sooo????? "Cans of bird???" Whats "round bread popular???"

[Ihavequestions 419]

foul = fuul = beans

[doodlebugg 10]

What am I reading wrong about this sentence???? I stocked the cupboards with cans of foul and had the round bread popular across the ME/NA. Foul = bird... sooo????? "Cans of bird???" Whats "round bread popular???"

Yes. You can find many cans of different varieties of birds in your local Arabic stores.

Actually it's normally spelled ful or fool, or at least that's how I've seen it. It's what they call fava beans over there. The round bread that's mentioned is probably just pita bread available at your local supermarket, though the kind we get at the arabic store is three times the size of the kind you'd find at a regular store.

Honestly I"d just wait and bring him to an arabic store and let him look at everything and he can decide what he wants. You don't wanna be stuck with 100 cans of bird, you know?

[LaL 418]

What am I reading wrong about this sentence???? I stocked the cupboards with cans of foul and had the round bread popular across the ME/NA.

Foul = bird... sooo????? "Cans of bird???" Whats "round bread popular???"

FOWL = bird

[MouadsWife 161]

What am I reading wrong about this sentence???? I stocked the cupboards with cans of foul and had the round bread popular across the ME/NA.

Foul = bird... sooo????? "Cans of bird???" Whats "round bread popular???"

FOWL = bird

[ya falaha! 0]

Doesn't foul = offensive? So cans of offensive? I guess fuul could end up being offensive eventually.

Sheesh "round bread popular across the ME/NA" is really dumbing it down.

What am I reading wrong about this sentence???? I stocked the cupboards with cans of foul and had the round bread popular across the ME/NA.

Foul = bird... sooo????? "Cans of bird???" Whats "round bread popular???"

FOWL = bird

Edited September 19, 2009 by Astarte

[venusfire503 54]

This thread is why I wanted (request denied) a new forum section. There is the "moving here and your new life in America" forum, but I think the USCs could use a forum, too. One about what we should expect - even though it's less of an adjustment for us, our lives change, too. I think also putting in there things we can do to help the new immigrant would be good, too. We love them and want them to be happy - and helping them adjust can make it easier for us (and our children, for those who have them), too.

venusfire

[Olive♥ 2]

I am trying hard to make a seperation in my mind to justify the whole wife is not mother thing but other than marital relations ( with your wife) I can not find any difference Rats!!!!!

Study the teachings of prophet Muhhamed. Wife is not MOMMY anhd wife is not slave. Follow the quran dude take it like a man!!

[childress_london 3]

I think wife is mommy and husband is daddy.

[amysaid 9]

My hubby's been here a week... so far there's been a lot of happiness, a few tears, moderate stress and anxiety (re: not being able to work yet) and daily voice chats with his family back home. pretty typical, I guess. so far he's given a thumbs-up to mexican food, olive garden, and anything i've made at home. thumbs-down to taco bell.

[Aymsgirl 0]

My hubby's been here a week... so far there's been a lot of happiness, a few tears, moderate stress and anxiety (re: not being able to work yet) and daily voice chats with his family back home. pretty typical, I guess. so far he's given a thumbs-up to mexican food, olive garden, and anything i've made at home. thumbs-down to taco bell.

I would say pretty normal chica. It will be up and down for some time and the hardest thing for him will be not working. I pray he finds employment soon Amy. Did the Taco Bell give him bathroom hell? My hubster digs anything buffet...swears if we opened one in EG that it would be closed down in one day the way they eat. LOL.