Question of the context of hardship in K1

[Rebecca Jo 1,962]

No that is not the advice I was looking for.

Shane, what are you looking for? The qualifications for waiver?

[~Johnny~ 27]

I'm 25 years old. When I see cases where the applicant has to get co-sponsor I think how he/she will support her/ his spouse, wedding, marriage, etc. BUT WHEN I SEE CASES WHERE THE APPLICANT CAN'T EVEN AFFORD THE AIR TICKET (AND I HAVE SEEN A LOT OF THOSE) I JUST CAN'T STAY QUIET.

shane7721237 with respect I'm tell you that you are not prepare to bring your future wife just yet. Disability is NOT the issue here. Money and stability are the real issue. With respect I'm telling you: If you can't even afford a single trip you can't afford the petition case you can't afford a wife.

That's your biggest problem right now, get this problem resolve then you can move to the next one.

Good advice from a 25 yr old!

[Rebecca Jo 1,962]

Quite possible, maybe the difference is that the OP never worked so he gets more limited benefits from a different program whereas the 3 specific examples I listed have all worked in technical fields making a decent salary prior to becoming fully disabled.

Your acquaintances are likely drawing SSDI.

[Deputy Purple 1,294]

No that is not the advice I was looking for.

Then lighten-up. I understand your situation sucks but really getting upset at people who are trying to give helpful info & advice will get you nowhere.

[Shane0210 0]

No, I just wanted to know the context of hardship. Whether I tried it or not.

[Deputy Purple 1,294]

Your acquaintances are likely drawing SSDI.

And I'll admit that I was previously unaware of the difference.

That said, an airplane ticket given as a gift to the Philippines has a cash value of less than $2,000 and no value once it has been used so I doubt it would disqualify Shane from his SSI benefits.

[Deputy Purple 1,294]

No, I just wanted to know the context of hardship. Whether I tried it or not.

As mentioned several times, you would be asking to waive something that has an extremely small chance of being waived even if you meet the very limited requirements of the waiver as the level of hardship and required proof of said hardship is extremely high.

[Rebecca Jo 1,962]

And I'll admit that I was previously unaware of the difference.

That said, an airplane ticket given as a gift to the Philippines has a cash value of less than $2,000 and no value once it has been used so I doubt it would disqualify Shane from his SSI benefits.

That I do not know. But there usually is a way to skin most cats.

What I do know is that SSI is a means-tested benefit. Shane cannot count this income on any I134 or I864 that he would be signing for different steps of this process. Thus his need for a co-sponsor, which Manila WILL take in an otherwise well-grounded case.

[Rebecca Jo 1,962]

As mentioned several times, you would be asking to waive something that has an extremely small chance of being waived even if you meet the very limited requirements of the waiver as the level of hardship and required proof of said hardship is extremely high.

Shane doesn't need a waiver for hardship. He needs to convince the Service to waive the requirement of having met in person. The term 'hardship waiver' is usually applied at the Consular phase wherein the US Citizen attempts to convince the Department of State that his/her relationship with the foreign beneficiary would be impossible outside the borders of the US due to mitigating factors (hardships) in the USC's life.

[Calypso 464]

Shane, we all mean you no harm. You have to be smarter than that.

Have you ever thought what kind of life you could give to your future wife when she comes here? If she could work, what job would she get? If she'd get a job, would her income suffice? Even your fellow Americans have been kicked out from their work and newly-grads don't get a job quick.

Do you at least love her or you merely want to have someone to look after you and earn for you? Does she truly care about you or is she only finding ways to run away from her responsibilities in the house or out of poverty she wants to use you to support her family in the Philippines?

There's so much more to marriage and relationships than sparks, man. You don't have to wait until you're burnt.

Your original post regarding hardships for K1 and getting a tourist visa has been answered. There's nothing more to squeeze. People here will just give you more tips on other relevant or irrelevant areas because your original post already got answers. Now, if you don't want to listen to or read such pieces of advice, you may go ahead and ask a moderator to close this thread or you stop reading.

[Shane0210 0]

Calypso why don't YOU just back off, O.K.

[Calypso 464]

Calypso why don't YOU just back off, O.K.

Sure. The truth may hit you. I will not mind this anymore but you have been told and advised. It's up to you if you want to wait for your girl to appear before you experience reality.

Basing on your reaction to what people post, you need to enlighten yourself.

I hope things work out for you and your girl. God bless you, Shane.

As far as possible, without surrender,

be on good terms with all persons.

Speak your truth quietly and clearly;

and listen to others,

even to the dull and the ignorant;

they too have their story.

Exercise caution in your business affairs,

for the world is full of trickery.

Beyond a wholesome discipline,

be gentle with yourself.

You are a child of the universe

no less than the trees and the stars;

you have a right to be here.

And whether or not it is clear to you,

no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should.

Therefore be at peace with God,

whatever you conceive Him to be.

And whatever your labors and aspirations,

in the noisy confusion of life,

keep peace in your soul.

With all its sham, drudgery, and broken dreams,

it is still a beautiful world.

Be cheerful. Strive to be happy.

-an excerpt from

Desiderata

Edited February 16, 2010 by Calypso

[Deputy Purple 1,294]

Calypso why don't YOU just back off, O.K.

Because he has given you good sound advice, as have many others here.

Based on your replies in this thread and via PM it has become very clear what you are looking for.

Honestly you will not find it here. VJ Members are fully in support of Spousal/Family Based Immigration but you'll be hard-pressed to find members here that support importing someone to act as your personal caregiver and wage earner.

Your lack of concern to understand your girlfriend's culture is alarming. This puts you at risk of being used as a means to an end by her and honestly makes you look like you don't care about her only what you perceive she can do to improve your quality of life.

How can you honestly say that you don't need to understand her culture in order to have a good loving relationship with her? Even with that understanding the initial adjustment will be difficult for both of you (I'm speaking from experience).

Your statements throw up so many red flags here I can't imagine how difficult USCIS would make the whole process for the both of you.

Edited February 16, 2010 by Bob 4 Anna

[Shane0210 0]

Bob 4 Anna I seriously don't know where the hell you are getting off, so why don't you just back off as well.

[beinha 0]

With all respect: you are not seeking for advice, you want us to agree with your needs and toughs and find out a solution for you. Seems like non of us can help you.

No that is not the advice I was looking for.