Things I hate about my ex

[Nizzy 1]

Sorry I'm late. Eating lunch.

I hate my ex. He has blown my kids off for 7 weeks in a row now. He calls them and tells them he's going to come and take them out to the movies, Friendly's, etc. and never shows. Then, when I try to call him, he ignores my phone calls.

There's a lot of other things I hate about my ex too. He hasn't paid child support, ever. He works as a barber and gets paid in cash so they can't garnish his check. He bought his girlfriend a diamond necklace for christmas. He says he has 'no' money what an a-hole.

There's a lot of other things I hate about him but I'd like to see what you guys have to say about the winners you guys were with.

Nothing is sadder than seeing the look on a child's face when a promise is broken...what a loser!

[Niels Bohr 72]

Ah. The Xs. So nostalgic!

I don't have one!

[IR5FORMUMSIE 850]

Ah. The Xs. So nostalgic!

I don't have one!

Have you forgotten the Atari 2600?

[scandal 951]

Have you forgotten the Atari 2600?

That was long before his time.

Oh, now you've made me miss my Intellivision!

[john & jean 37]

for me to express true feelings is a TOS violation

[Ban Hammer 13,465]

That was long before his time.

Oh, now you've made me miss my Intellivision!

i had one of those. and a trash 80

[IR5FORMUMSIE 850]

That was long before his time.

Oh, now you've made me miss my Intellivision!

Who are you, George Plimpton?

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for me to express true feelings is a TOS violation

C'mon now don't be bashful.

i had one of those. and a trash 80

I figured you for more of a Colecovision guy.

[sachinky 465]

Dealing with ex-boyfriends is a royal PITA. I've no idea how people deal with ex-spouses, especially with children in the middle. I'm truly sorry about your situations and I hope things work out someway or another. Children aren't toys, they shouldn't be used as manipulation.

And just as a FYI: It's one thing to get over a person -- the loving them, the missing them -- and a whole other ball game to get over all the ####### and heartache they put you through. When someone devastates your life, it's hard to get to a place where you can get over that no matter how over the person you are. We all need closure. One way or another.

[Christi and Ian 24]

I hate the way my ex gets my 9 year-old daughter involved when he's mad at me. Actual things my ex has said to my daughter:

"Mommy made me feel like I didn't love you." (This was when he told me he gives me $7,000 a year for nothing, to which I replied, "she's not nothing...she's your daughter."

And...

"If mommy asks why I am mad at her, it's because I have to sell my house because of all of the money I have to give her every month" He gives me $600/month. In the mean time, he's completely remodeled his house, new appliances, new windows, bought a brand new Toyota Camry, and owns a SECOND house that he rents out...

Yeah...poor guy...

[tigerlily 0]

Thanks trinket. That's exactly right.

If all my ex and I ever had were material possessions, there would be no issue here. We would have just split the IRA accounts, sold the house and divided the proceeds, and moved on with our separate lives. I wouldn't give a damn where she lived, what she did, or how she behaved.

But the fact is I have 3 kids, kids I love very much, that are with her. So I DO care where and how she lives, and how she behaves. And it DOES matter that she throws obstacles into my relationship with my kids.

She will always be a factor in my life, for the rest of my days, because we share these kids. As they grow, get married, have kids of their own, we will BOTH be intimately involved. Our kids will ALWAYS feel the stress of having to placate her need to not be anywhere near me, and my need to be part of their lives.

This has nothing to do with moving on and starting a new relationship. I am happily remarried, I have no residual feelings for her. I wish her the best personally, I really do. I hope she finds happiness - in relationships, with friends and family, in life in general. I have a vested interest in her doing so. If she finds happiness, that can only be beneficial for my kids. If she harbors resentment, that can only hurt them.

People who haven't been through a messy divorce with kids really shouldn't judge. Just sayin.

I agree with you.

I hope he spent time in jail, Nagi. Seriously.

[Nagishkaw 510]

and a whole other ball game to get over all the ####### and heartache they put you through. When someone devastates your life, it's hard to get to a place where you can get over that no matter how over the person you are.

For me, it was forgiveness. It was something I was compelled to do in order to move on and not have the past rot me from the inside out.

[Niels Bohr 72]

For me, I think it's a disgrace to myself if I ever have an ex.

[Aubrey 10]

And just as a FYI: It's one thing to get over a person -- the loving them, the missing them -- and a whole other ball game to get over all the ####### and heartache they put you through. When someone devastates your life, it's hard to get to a place where you can get over that no matter how over the person you are. We all need closure. One way or another.

Thank you.

For me, I think it's a disgrace to myself if I ever have an ex.

Easy to say if you have a great spouse. My ex-husband sucked the life out of me. It was a disgrace for me to stay with him as long as I did. My friends and family thought I was a new person afterwards, but it was more like I finally got to lift the burden from my shoulders and be myself again after 8 years.

There's been so many posts about kids, and that seems to be the only reason to some to hate things about your ex. I fortunately did not have kids with my ex-husband, but I still hate things about him -- the things that changed me in ways that I do not like. I will spend many more years un-learning the damage that 8 years with him did. I hate his mental illness (bi-polar), isolation, and never doing anything without being asked. I hate that he never remembered to do anything on his own. I hate that he often ignored me when I spoke, and rarely laughed out loud at my jokes. I hate that he complained when we did stuff I liked to the point that I gave it up. After so many years, it left me feeling depressed and alone, and I rarely smiled anymore. It was never deliberate nor abusive, so I stayed with him anyway until I reached my breaking point.

I am grateful every day that I left that marriage and found myself again. I am even more grateful that I had the courage to tell my husband that I love him and pursue this wonderful marriage I am now in. I never dreamed that a man could be so loving, understanding, thoughtful, and work so hard for our marriage. We smile and laugh together all the time. I just wish that I could have gotten where I am today without having 8 years of my life sucked away by my ex-husband.

[natty bumppo 297]

For me, I think it's a disgrace to myself if I ever have an ex.

careful .... these words may haunt you ... i hope not .... but things do happen