Threesome

[Calypso 464]

If you are a husband: Have you ever "joked" to your wife that you wanted to try threesome? How did she react? Or would you "crack that joke" to her one day?

If you are a wife: Has your husband "made jokes" that he likes to have threesome with your permission? How did you deal with that? Or how would you respond if he'd say that "jokingly?"

[Pinocchio Liberal 268]

If you are a husband: Have you ever "joked" to your wife that you wanted to try threesome? How did she react? Or would you "crack that joke" to her one day?

If you are a wife: Has your husband "made jokes" that he likes to have threesome with your permission? How did you deal with that? Or how would you respond if he'd say that "jokingly?"

"God is perfectly able to enrich you with every grace, so that you always have enough for every conceivable need, and your resources overflow in all kinds of good work."

[Darnell 8,479]

geez.

my wife introduced me to a female friend of hers, and said we were all travelling together for the weekend.

I asked her for a quiet chat.

I told her - I not think to participate, sorry.

Then her friend walked up to me, said - you passed the test, big boy !!!

[Wyatt's Torch 45]

For whatever reason, the idea has NEVER interested me at all. Not even a little. I guess that makes me an atypical man?

[Ban Hammer 13,634]

If you are a husband: Have you ever "joked" to your wife that you wanted to try threesome? How did she react? Or would you "crack that joke" to her one day?

If you are a wife: Has your husband "made jokes" that he likes to have threesome with your permission? How did you deal with that? Or how would you respond if he'd say that "jokingly?"

old news, nessa and i already had a Menage a Trois. now she wants that all the time!

http://www.visajourney.com/forums/index.ph...=215442&hl=

[Calypso 464]

I am not asking for the sake of initiating a topic. I want to know.

[Pinocchio Liberal 268]

old news, nessa and i already had a Menage a Trois. now she wants that all the time!

http://www.visajourney.com/forums/index.ph...=215442&hl=

Was the crust moist?

[Wyatt's Torch 45]

I am not asking for the sake of initiating a topic. I want to know.

Three out of two people like threesomes?

[Ban Hammer 13,634]

I am not asking for the sake of initiating a topic. I want to know.

so what was he suggesting? a male or female?

Three out of two people like threesomes?

[luckytxn 2,265]

In before the lock.

[Pinocchio Liberal 268]

If im not mistaken I believe Spooky, Scandal, and a sheep are involved in one this very minute.

[VanessaTony 3,567]

My husband and I have discussed this sort of thing (as i'm sure most couples have) in conjunction with cheating and other such things. I'm going to talk on behalf of both of us

Both of us are in COMPLETE agreement than anyone in need of another partner does not love their partner enough or their relationship isn't valuable enough to them. Any time you introduce another person into your relationship you're asking for trouble and basically admitting the intimacy from your partner isn't enough for you. You are admitting that you have had sexual feelings for someone else. That someone else turns you on and you want to involve them in your relationship. You are trying to make it "okay" to cheat under the guise of "spicing up your relationship". We are both against cheating and introducing any other person into our relationship. We are a 2 person team only! No third wheel needed!

So that's OUR opinion on it. We know it works for some people but we would never do it. We also don't completely understand the "mental goings-on" in people who are into that sort of thing but understand that some people are just wired differently... whether we "get it" or not.

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To answer your qn directly, as the female -

If my husband suggested a threesome to me with a FEMALE I would wonder what I'm doing wrong. I would wonder why he needs someone else, while telling myself at least he wants to involve me and at least he isn't cheating.. which would leave to wondering if he IS cheating and is trying to find an "in" for his "new girlfriend". I would be wondering if he's checking out girls all the time and if in some way's he isn't using me for "stability" in a sort of "cake and eat it too" scenario.

If my husband suggested a threesome with a MALE, I would be SO turned off. I would think of him COMPLETELY differently and he wouldn't be the man I married. I'm not against homosexuals but if I found out after the 2 plus years we've known each other that he's been hiding this other "side" of himself for so long I'd be concerned and it would completely change the way I think about him.

HOWEVER, if my husband suggested a threesome with a male OR female in which he wanted to watch or wanted minor participation... I wouldn't appreciate that at all. I don't think anyone should enjoy watching their partner being intimate with someone else. I think I would feel like he didn't "love" me and instead thought of me as some sexual object, or someone that he can just "play" with. I would also probably think we were more friends than husband and wife as in my personal opinion (and my husbands) not wanting our partners to be with anyone else, wanting complete devotion is one of the joys of being in a loving and monogamous relationship. I think it would destroy a lot of the intimacy we share.

I understand a lot of my reaction would be based on any of my own insecurities and the fact monogomy is hard-wired into my head but that's how I would react

Edited February 11, 2010 by Vanessa&Tony

[Ban Hammer 13,634]

To answer your qn directly, as the female -

If my husband suggested a threesome to me I would wonder what I'm doing wrong. I would wonder why he needs someone else, while telling myself at least he wants to involve me and at least he isn't cheating.. which would leave to wondering if he IS cheating and is trying to find an "in" for his "new girlfriend". I would be wondering if he's checking out girls all the time and if in some way's he isn't using me for "stability" in a sort of "cake and eat it too" scenario.

I understand a lot of my reaction would be based on any of my own insecurities and the fact monogomy is hard-wired into my head but that's how I would react

that above is assuming the op's husband is referring to a female. i've asked for clarification on the gender of the 3rd for that very reason.

[VanessaTony 3,567]

that above is assuming the op's husband is referring to a female. i've asked for clarification on the gender of the 3rd for that very reason.

Valid point. OKay. Edited my post accordingly

Edited February 11, 2010 by Vanessa&Tony

[one...two...tree 2,762]

Can someone explain to me what a threesome is? Does it have to do with golfing?