Yardies a home and a farrin (Part 23)

[charandivan 0]

So I have a serious question for e/one.

As things have moved and stalled and moved again, and thru all the issues, drama, tears, fights, pain and all... Im sure we all have similar stories and trials. Question is.. would you do it all over again? Or, knowing what you know now, would you run like hell.

Im sometimes 50/50 on this. I love my husband, but getting to where we are (and we arent even there yet) has been a ride- and sometimes downright painfull. I dont regret marrying him! Dont regret loving him.. but sometimes I regret meeting him. Is that bad?

I would definitely do everything all over again. I feel like when God has made someone specifically for you, you should go any length to be with them. When I was dating people would think that I was crazy because I would pass over some awesome men. The problem is that there was always something missing. Being a wife is the ultimate calling (assignment) by God so I refuse to settle with someone because the road seems easier or to gain approval from friends/family.

[LadyC 1]

Lawny G 30th B-day is on Wednesday and I need a cake for him. He does not like "american cake" where can I get him a cake. Im going to surprise him with a small get together on wednesday. Nothing big me and my girls are working on it. Im taking him to Atlantic City on Saturday and he has no idea. Im packing his bag and putting it in the car and I will just drive to the 95. When he ask im going to tell him we are going to a mall in NJ so when we pull up to the hotel he will be surprise.

[BunzTheMagicSnail 2]

atsleumas -- I didn't spell you name wrong, I just typed it backwards -- I was trying to see if it spell something different...

Okay, someone was using my office and my PC while I was gone and it smell like dead ARMPITS in here

is how dat smell?

mi nuh even waan know how you know how dat smell

Lawny G 30th B-day is on Wednesday and I need a cake for him. He does not like "american cake" where can I get him a cake. Im going to surprise him with a small get together on wednesday. Nothing big me and my girls are working on it. Im taking him to Atlantic City on Saturday and he has no idea. Im packing his bag and putting it in the car and I will just drive to the 95. When he ask im going to tell him we are going to a mall in NJ so when we pull up to the hotel he will be surprise.

what is that?

[TRELAWNY PARISH 10]

I feel okay....feel like kicking my co-workers a@@. She snitched on me about my internet usage She's just mad cuz I won't tell her I'm pregnant...none of her damn business.

People just so damn CHUPID...it's not her business. ..people didn't know at my job until I was 7 months and they were mad that I didn't tell them sooner...like a dem breed mi.

[dillon 6]

I don't know if you new VJ ladies know this or not but I was married before...to a Jamaican and yes I went through the entire process before with him. I didn't file the K-1 we were married so we went the other route. After we broke up I said I will NEVER marry again. NO ONE...American, Jamaican, British, Canadian...you get the picture. I continuted to take my daughter to Jamaica to see her grandparents, Aunts, Uncles etc. My husband now was always around because he ran with Marley's family and if I would go out to a club at night he would be the one to take me. Our relationship grew over the years and eventually I gave him a chance and I am very happy I did. So I say to you ladies if it your marriage doesn't work out...NEVER say NEVER! Just my 2 cents because I was one that said NEVER again.

[DedicatedWife 4]

I basically feel the same way you feel. I love this man to death, most perfect match I ever met but this process can drive the most sane person insane. If there's anything I could change, I would've marry in Jamaica (I'm dying to have a beach wedding!). That way we'd have less paper work to do when he comes and I wouldn't have to worry about having a wedding on a budget here.

But I could not imagine marrying my love and having have to leave him there...

So would I do it over? Absolutely not!

Aww, we were planning to get married in Jamaica as well...renewal of vows in a few though..I already got a dress (a few sizes smaller) and everything

[Shemmy 4]

I would definitely do it all over again. I love me some Damien . I wouldn't change the K1 process, being broke, explaining the same thing 100 times...etc.

Now I regret not having the wedding I wanted but it's all good.

[TRELAWNY PARISH 10]

Lawny G 30th B-day is on Wednesday and I need a cake for him. He does not like "american cake" where can I get him a cake. Im going to surprise him with a small get together on wednesday. Nothing big me and my girls are working on it. Im taking him to Atlantic City on Saturday and he has no idea. Im packing his bag and putting it in the car and I will just drive to the 95. When he ask im going to tell him we are going to a mall in NJ so when we pull up to the hotel he will be surprise.

My husband is the same way. Mich was asking the same question a few weeks ago. I don't know of anyone off hand. All the ones I know have all moved to ATL or FL. That's goood. I did the same to my husband the first time we went to NY -- he asked where we going, I said to the store, den he was like mi look like ediat it no tek dat lang fi reach di store. When we linked up with his friends in Queens they damn near lost their mind. We want to do Atlantic City this summer, if we have time. We have a voucher for Sandals Whitehouse that we need to use before the end of this year.

[MoLuvsAcory 0]

I hear you, you make a decision and you go with it! I had to do the same thing.

Ok, I feel better Im not the only one!! I know the transition is the next step to the challenges we face. Course theres always that bullshit bmama drama I have to contend with ...

So what WOULD you do different?

As with all of us, transition can be hard.

In regards to BM drama, don't make it discourage you one bit!!!! Life actually will be better off for the child as the father is able to find work & contribute to raising of the child again. If you see where BM want to hype up herself on the phone, hang up after a few choice words or tell her to EASY!!!!!!!

VJ family is here to give input & comfort when needed.

Best of luck on journey

[LadyC 1]

is how dat smell?

mi nuh even waan know how you know how dat smell

what is that?

Bunz thats what G calls it. It regular yellow cake, red velvet cake any cake that is not a fruit cake.

[TRELAWNY PARISH 10]

Lawny G 30th B-day is on Wednesday and I need a cake for him. He does not like "american cake" where can I get him a cake. Im going to surprise him with a small get together on wednesday. Nothing big me and my girls are working on it. Im taking him to Atlantic City on Saturday and he has no idea. Im packing his bag and putting it in the car and I will just drive to the 95. When he ask im going to tell him we are going to a mall in NJ so when we pull up to the hotel he will be surprise.

[DedicatedWife 4]

I don't know if you new VJ ladies know this or not but I was married before...to a Jamaican and yes I went through the entire process before with him. I didn't file the K-1 we were married so we went the other route. After we broke up I said I will NEVER marry again. NO ONE...American, Jamaican, British, Canadian...you get the picture. I continuted to take my daughter to Jamaica to see her grandparents, Aunts, Uncles etc. My husband now was always around because he ran with Marley's family and if I would go out to a club at night he would be the one to take me. Our relationship grew over the years and eventually I gave him a chance and I am very happy I did. So I say to you ladies if it your marriage doesn't work out...NEVER say NEVER! Just my 2 cents because I was one that said NEVER again.

Aww Dills, I didn't know that...but see you're a living testimony of what I was saying...I always want to be open to the possibility of love again!

[TRELAWNY PARISH 10]

Bunz thats what G calls it. It regular yellow cake, red velvet cake any cake that is not a fruit cake.

I call it "AMERICAN cake" too.

[charandivan 0]

atsleumas -- I didn't spell you name wrong, I just typed it backwards -- I was trying to see if it spell something different...

Okay, someone was using my office and my PC while I was gone and it smell like dead ARMPITS in here

Ok And what does that smell like?

Girl dem folks in your office just a funky, positive pregnancy test taking, snanking hot @$$ mess today!

Hi Char! Okay so link up coming this weekend or next?

Yes, Girl...Link up is the weekend!!! I'm thinking about doing Barley's on Saturday. We can listen to some live R&B and the guys can shoot pool. I will text you with details.

Hey Charadivan. What is a Fork and Screen theatre? Hubby and I stayed at the hotel in Buckhead right next to one and we didn't know what they meant. Do you have to go dressed up?

Hey Shemmy,

Its a movie theatre where you can eat dinner, order drinks, bottle of wine, etc.. You don't have to dress up, but there are tables in the movie theatre. There are waiters and you eat dinner while watching the movie.

I'm w' you on that 100%!

Me and my boss was discussing "what if it doesn't work" and she joked around (atleast I thought she was joking!) and said I should try dating women. Then she looked @ me like a piece of chunky beef. That's when I snatched my check and bounced. In the back a mind I was like "damn bipolar, 40 add year old lesbian byatch"

Oh!! Heck to no!! You should have told her where to go. If you don't have positive things/advice to give about someone's relationship...Keep your dayum comments/opinions to yourself...

I feel okay....feel like kicking my co-workers a@@. She snitched on me about my internet usage She's just mad cuz I won't tell her I'm pregnant...none of her damn business.

Girl. I can't stand nosey co-workers..You are so like me because I would be 10 months pregnant and still walking around like ain't nothing wrong. People kill me with the expectation that you have to share your personal business with them. People were so shocked when they found out I got married...I'm like since when is it a requirement that I have to make an announcement..I don't talk to ya'll about personal stuff on any other day.

Lawny G 30th B-day is on Wednesday and I need a cake for him. He does not like "american cake" where can I get him a cake. Im going to surprise him with a small get together on wednesday. Nothing big me and my girls are working on it. Im taking him to Atlantic City on Saturday and he has no idea. Im packing his bag and putting it in the car and I will just drive to the 95. When he ask im going to tell him we are going to a mall in NJ so when we pull up to the hotel he will be surprise.

Aww..That's a really sweet idea. Maybe you can have the hotel concierge to setup the cake in the room with roses/balloons, etc...

[Shemmy 4]

Lawny G 30th B-day is on Wednesday and I need a cake for him. He does not like "american cake" where can I get him a cake. Im going to surprise him with a small get together on wednesday. Nothing big me and my girls are working on it. Im taking him to Atlantic City on Saturday and he has no idea. Im packing his bag and putting it in the car and I will just drive to the 95. When he ask im going to tell him we are going to a mall in NJ so when we pull up to the hotel he will be surprise.

Sounds great. Have fun in AC and good luck findng a cake. Wish I could help but Damien loves a good chocolate cake.