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[chri'stina 190]

Congrats Attaya Girl!

BTW, when was the earliest you took your baby on a long overseas plane trip? I would love to go see my family for Christmas, but with a then 4 month old I'm not sure if that's a good idea. We would have at least one stop-over and the total trip would probably be 12-16 hours. Besides the seasonal flu viruses my main concern is the air pressure issue - but I was told that there are some kind of drops you can give your baby to help cope with it?

Hey congrats to you too!!

We took our son to India when he was just over a year old. That travel time is about 24 hours and difficult but he did ok! We took him again this year when he was 2. I saw infants on the planes both times for that long journey. The air pressure issue did seem to effect him. The first year he cried on take offs for about 15 minutes and sometimes on landing, but not always. During the regular part of the flight he does well. This year only once it bothered him on one landing and he cried hysterically for about 10 minutes. I am sure someone here traveled with a younger baby but I can't recall who it was. hmm.

[Nizzy 1]

Congrats Attaya Girl!

Hey congrats to you too!!

We took our son to India when he was just over a year old. That travel time is about 24 hours and difficult but he did ok! We took him again this year when he was 2. I saw infants on the planes both times for that long journey. The air pressure issue did seem to effect him. The first year he cried on take offs for about 15 minutes and sometimes on landing, but not always. During the regular part of the flight he does well. This year only once it bothered him on one landing and he cried hysterically for about 10 minutes. I am sure someone here traveled with a younger baby but I can't recall who it was. hmm.

I travelled with my little guy when he was about 3 months old. The plane taking off just rocked him to sleep and I really had no issues. At that age, they take so many naps that they will just sleep through it. Also I should add that my journey was from Virginia to Chicago so I am not such a good source when it comes to longer trips.

[chnst 6]

tweety: I think 4 months is the best age to travel. He will probably sleep thru most of it. For the air pressure- infants are not any different than adults. they instinctively deal with it, just like any other person by swallowing etc as long as they don't have ear issues. Give him a bottle or nurse during take off/landing or let him suck on a pacifier. Ben was 6 months old when we took him to Germany. We had a layover too, he was absolutely fine. It is more difficult now that he is a toddler and doesn't want to sit still and wants to touch everything. I think the first 8 months are the best for travel. Like with everything else, just make sure you wash hands frequently, drink lots etc and you should be fine.

Moms: I need your adivce. We have been on some playdates recently and I don't know but it rally irritates me when other kids rip something out of Ben's hands/push him or act inapproprietly otherwise, with the parents standing right there not saying anything!! I understand this is the way kids play, but I don't understand how the parents sit there and not say anything! Or one mom said "haha look at him, he is such a boy" I don't know if its ok to say something to the other kid? or the parent? I don't want Ben to copy that kind of behaviour. It breaks my heart for Ben. His knees got all scratched up when he was pushed over by a little boy at a birthday party and this kids' parents just stood there laughing.

[Susita 175]

Moms: I need your adivce. We have been on some playdates recently and I don't know but it rally irritates me when other kids rip something out of Ben's hands/push him or act inapproprietly otherwise, with the parents standing right there not saying anything!! I understand this is the way kids play, but I don't understand how the parents sit there and not say anything! Or one mom said "haha look at him, he is such a boy" I don't know if its ok to say something to the other kid? or the parent? I don't want Ben to copy that kind of behaviour. It breaks my heart for Ben. His knees got all scratched up when he was pushed over by a little boy at a birthday party and this kids' parents just stood there laughing.

Just wait until they get bigger I also have a problem with this. I think the parents should correct the child, and honestly, if they don't, I do. Some parents don't like it but I do the same thing if one of my kids does something inappropriate.

I had a situation yesterday with my 5-year-olds. They play with the neighborhood kids and usually there are no problems. However, the little girl from across the street decided she didn't want to play with Jonathan anymore but still wanted to play with Joe, so she told the other kids to get him in trouble so he'd get sent inside. My son Joe came inside and told me that Jonathan was throwing sticks so I told Jon if he did it one more time he'd have to come inside. Well, Joe came in again and told me Jon was throwing sticks and so I said OK Jon you have to stay inside now and my other son went outside and I heard him say "Jon can't come back outside" and the little girl said "YES!" Well... as you can imagine this didn't go over well with me. They were telling him to throw sticks so he'd get in trouble on purpose.

I made both of the boys come inside and didn't let them back out to play with her. I don't know what else to do, I guess I could go to her house & talk to her parents but IMO it isn't worth it, I just told them to play in the backyard instead by themselves. I also talked to Joe and told him it isn't okay to turn against your brother just to fit in with the other kids, it's mean.

[gabby4ever 1]

I took my son Alex on his first trip to Romania when he was 3 months old. He was very good, slept when the plane took off or landing, and fussed very little only when he was hungry. Same thing when he was 9 months.

His third trip however, it was a NIGHTMARE!!! Traveling with a 1 1/2 year old, by myself....He cried and yelled for 25 hours straight. I thought i was going to die He sure hated being strapped in his carseat and he would not sleep for nothing.

I recommend 1 thing though: DO NOT hold him in your lap the entire trip, buy him a seat. Trust me, it's worth the money

[chnst 6]

Suzy: yeah I have the same problem. Some parents are so touchy, I don't want to start a fight or discipline their kid. I said to Ben: "Ben it's ok, apparently this little boy still needs to learn how to share" and his mother rolled her eyes, but didn't say anything. What would she have said if I had asked her to tell her kid to share? Or if I had said something to her son? I think its so rude, and I don't want Ben to act that way. He is copying so much from other kids, I guess it's inevitable that kids do stuff like that but seeing some parents set such a bad example is just rude.

[Mommy2ZaidnSalma 11]

Stef,

We go through this alot at my house. The reason is is that my brothers kid is AWFUL! He is a 4.5 yr old demon and his parents do NOTHING to correct his behavior. They would come over and my nephew would throw Zaid to the ground and his mother would just say "oh hes just standing his ground bc he is the first grandchild" or "hes just showing Zaid that hes bigger" and if my brother tries to correct his son his wife will yell at him and say he did nothing wrong. It got to the point where I got COMPLETELY fed up with it and they just dont come over anymore.

I dont allow Zaid to misbehave with other children. If he tries to, I remove him from the situation. I always make him apologize for not sharing or not being nice. I believe thats what all parents should be doing, and yes, it drives me nuts, just like you when they dont.

I finally see the doctor on Tuesday. Im hoping to get an US to see the heartbeat. I should be about 6.5 weeks right now. Hopefully I am able to find out exact dates. So exciting!

[Autumnchik 6]

Stef - I have had the same problem too with parents. If it is a minor issue, I usually just talk to Declan, like you did with Ben, and say something like, So-and-so is still working on sharing ... If it is a more major thing, I will talk to the parent. At Disneyworld in January, we were playing in the Winne the Pooh play area. I was right next to Declan when this little boy came up to him and spit in his face. I was so furious!!! I tracked down the mother (who was nowhere near her kid or paying attention) and told her what happened. She made her son apologize to Declan, so I give her credit for that.

[chri'stina 190]

Yeah when other kids are doing stuff around your child that isn't nice, or even violent, and the other parent is oblivious it's so frustrating!! We aren't around a lot of little kids all the time and since Kavi isn't in daycare, he isn't either. He doesn't even use the word "mine!" yet, because he hasn't needed to really. He is a pretty relaxed child in my opinion and hasn't learned yet how to react when a kid is being mean to him. At a toddler group months ago, a little boy was pushing Kavi's face when Kavi was trying to climb through a tunnel. The little boy was at the end of it and when Kavi got near the end he pushed a toy into Kavi's face and was trying to push him backwards. I was shocked because the little boy's mom was so nice(I had chatted to her), and he was acting like a brat and she was chatting away to someone else and didn't notice. So I just said to him, that isn't nice and told Kavi to back up. I don't like confrontations and I want Kavi to be a nice boy and share. But I also want him to know to say something like "Hey!" or "help!" if someone is being mean. Kavi just looked at the boy like "why did you do that?". And if someone takes something out of his hand he looks sad and might say hey but doesn't freak out. I don't want him to freak out, but I wish the other parent would be paying attention. It's just not a fun thing! It's a scary new world to deal with when your child interacts with other kids whose parents are oblivious.

Edited June 14, 2010 by chri'stina

[chnst 6]

autum: awww that is gross, I feel bad for Declan. At least the mother made him appologize. I remember last year when I took Ben to Germany we went to an indoor playground and there was this 3 or 4 year old girl who hit Ben. He couldn't walk then, he tried to crawl away from her but she kept throwing punches and in the few seconds that it took me to get to him she had hit him a lot of times. And her father was just sitting there watching the whole thing. When her mother showed up he told her what happened and they both laughed like they were proud of their girl beating up a little boy! That just broke my heart for Ben. He was crying and I was busy comforting him. My friend went over to the parents and yelled at them, but it didn't seem like they cared. I really wonder what kind of people these parents are raising? I have to admit that I wasn't prepared to deal with bullying and stuff like that until Ben goes to like 2nd grade or so. Lately it seems like everywhere we go we run into situations like that.

Kelly: wow I guess it's even worse when you have a little bully like that in the family. I don't know I hate kids hitting and pushing other kids, although that's somewhat inevitable. But seeing tiny little toddlers (and especially your own baby!) get pushed over that just breaks my heart.

Enjoy your doctor appointment! I can't wait to see ultrasound pics! With Ben we had our first ultrasound and heartbeat around the same time too. How are you feeling? Any different yet?

[Ban Hammer 13,344]

Moms: I need your adivce. We have been on some playdates recently and I don't know but it rally irritates me when other kids rip something out of Ben's hands/push him or act inapproprietly otherwise, with the parents standing right there not saying anything!! I understand this is the way kids play, but I don't understand how the parents sit there and not say anything! Or one mom said "haha look at him, he is such a boy" I don't know if its ok to say something to the other kid? or the parent? I don't want Ben to copy that kind of behaviour. It breaks my heart for Ben. His knees got all scratched up when he was pushed over by a little boy at a birthday party and this kids' parents just stood there laughing.

yeah i know, not a mom. but i'd say no more playdates with that group of parents. they obviously don't plan to teach their kid to play with others.

[Eveline 9]

I'd want parents who witness my kid hitting another kid to tell me. Sometimes I don't notice cause I'm on my phone or watching the other kid or whatever. You can't have your eyes on all of them at the same time and I totally understand when parents get mad that 'my' kid hit theirs...but at least let me know and don't be like "Mom didn't say anything". Allie is a feisty little thing. She will hit or take toys and I always have to have an eye on her. She won't spit or kick but she might take a toy away and throw it or swat at the other kid. She also screames a lot when other kids get to close. It drives me nuts but I won't be able to tell her NOT to do it unless it happens so I can catch her in the act and correct her behaviour. Adam on the other hand is so quiet, he won't hurt another kid. He might want to take their toy but he won't get mean like Allie does.

[chnst 6]

I totally agree with you, I think this is normal child behavior. I was just pissed at the kind of parents who do watch this kind of stuff and then either laugh or make excuses. Ben isn't a saint either, but he knows how to play nice with other kids and how to appologize because we enforce it. I think most parents are the same way and it can happen that you are distracted for a second. But what makes me so mad are the parents who know exactly what's going on and even encourage their kids to act like that. We were on the playground the other day waiting for a turn to go on the swing and we had been standing there at elast 10 minutes to wait for this little boy to get off the swing. He eventually pointed at Ben and said to his father "Daddy I don't want HIM to get on this swing" so his father said "Oh just stay on the swing then, he will give up"

[anya-D 8]

Hi ladies,

The subject of other kids behaving badly to your child and the parents seemed to be enjoy watching it made me sad I really hope I know how to deal with parents like that, and also hoping my boy isnt the one causing the problem! lol

This friday is my due date.. no sign of him wanting to come out yet I'm extreamly uncomfortable but think i'm going to work until the end... hope soon!!!

My Sister had a surprise this weekend. The doctor told her at 22 weeks that she's having a girl but at their 4D US yesterday at 28 weeks they discover that she's having a boy!! now my parents are going to have 2 grandsons at the same time.. lol

I hope my son decide to come out soon.. i'm getting very impatient!!

[Staashi 371]

Anya, best of luck girl! I hope he shows up any day now.

Anya, best of luck girl! I hope he shows up any day now.