I've lost hope

[AstroM33 0]

Hi Everyone,

I have officially lost all hope. I really, really, really, REEEAAALLLY, thought that I would be getting my NOA2 sometime this week. Tomorrow is Friday and I haven't received a thing. I've contacted both senators (filled out the authorization form when sending letter the first time) and haven't heard anything from them. I contacted my rep. in congress and haven't heard from her either. I've contacted UCSIC to get the same "call back in 30 days" bull.

I've seen people with NOA1s of April and May, but yet I who have an NOA1 of March 10 get nothing. I know, I know, I should get this depressed, but every night when I speak with my fianceé it just seems like she is farther and farther away. Our relationship has grown as have we and yet it seems we are prisoners to this process and our relationship cannot progress.

I am seriously on the verge of just simply giving up. Lord knows what I will do if I am denied. Most likely I will just give up. At one point or another we must admit that we are doing ourselves more harm than good by staying in this sort of relationship. Obviously every bone in my body tells me that breaking up is just simply not an option, but I don't know how long that can last. 2 years, 3 years, 4???

Maybe I will cheer up once the processing times change, but even then it will only mean that I have to wait until the processing date reaches 30 days after I got my NOA1.

[joseph22 0]

Hey..try to cheer up a bit.

Remember that you are definately not alone in this.

My fiance and I have been in a long distance relationship for several years now, so a very small fraction of that is actually going through the K-1 process. Its incredibly difficult for sure, but consider the payoff. You and your fiance have already gone through more to prove your dedication to each other than most couples have to endure in a lifetime. Being together for the rest of your lives because of it is definately worth the wait.

And keep in mind, that although the days of waiting seem to be getting longer and more depressing, especially for us on the high end of the NOA2 waiting scale, there is going to be an end....and more likely than not, it will be very soon. Someone in this forum once attached a saying that we love to use... "The good thing about time is that it passes, and when its done it seems like no time at all."

Every moment is a moment closer to vindication.

[desert_fox 32]

why would yu be denied??

You are a USC?/

You have met in the last two years and provided evidence??

You submitted certified copies of the required docs??

Answered any RFE on time??

There is no way that you can be denied if you have met all the prima facie requirements.

Cheer up...your turn is coming. A I-129 cannot be denied if you provided the required evidence and you meet all the requirements. Any problem will occur at the interview.

[William33 110]

You will get approved Astro, cheer up..

Although this process puts a strain on the relationship, in the end it will be well worth it and you will be reunited.

Hang in there!!

[phatmadame81 0]

Hi Everyone,

I have officially lost all hope. I really, really, really, REEEAAALLLY, thought that I would be getting my NOA2 sometime this week. Tomorrow is Friday and I haven't received a thing. I've contacted both senators (filled out the authorization form when sending letter the first time) and haven't heard anything from them. I contacted my rep. in congress and haven't heard from her either. I've contacted UCSIC to get the same "call back in 30 days" bull.

I've seen people with NOA1s of April and May, but yet I who have an NOA1 of March 10 get nothing. I know, I know, I should get this depressed, but every night when I speak with my fianceé it just seems like she is farther and farther away. Our relationship has grown as have we and yet it seems we are prisoners to this process and our relationship cannot progress.

I am seriously on the verge of just simply giving up. Lord knows what I will do if I am denied. Most likely I will just give up. At one point or another we must admit that we are doing ourselves more harm than good by staying in this sort of relationship. Obviously every bone in my body tells me that breaking up is just simply not an option, but I don't know how long that can last. 2 years, 3 years, 4???

Maybe I will cheer up once the processing times change, but even then it will only mean that I have to wait until the processing date reaches 30 days after I got my NOA1.

I understan what you are feeling, I know you do not want to here : don't worry, things will get better or any of those but do cheer up. I have been without my husbnad for over 4 months ( I know there are others who have been apart longer), when we had gotten married 2 days later he left to go back home, 3 months later I saw him for 2 weeks. I know it is very fustrating seeing all these people who just got in line jump ahead of you but you will get through.

I do not know you guys but I don't think you would be denied, for what reason?Because you have been sentenced away from your fiancee due to a stupid lenghty process from the USCIS. Or is it because the USCIS skipped your petition to approve the ones after yours?.

Hon..........cheer up and think about the light at the end of the tunnel. You will be with your fiancee, start a new life with her.................a few months down the line you guys will be laughing about how stupid you feel at this moment.

[ya falaha! 0]

Astro,

God willing..this feeling will pass. This waiting game is torturous, yes, but anything worth while doesn't come easy. I run out of patience with this whole thing at times myself. When I get to really thinking about it..my husband is sooooo worth this wait. I'm sure your fiancee is too. Keep the faith and don't lose hope. We're here for you, bro.

[bradyvicky 0]

Hi Everyone,

I have officially lost all hope. I really, really, really, REEEAAALLLY, thought that I would be getting my NOA2 sometime this week. Tomorrow is Friday and I haven't received a thing. I've contacted both senators (filled out the authorization form when sending letter the first time) and haven't heard anything from them. I contacted my rep. in congress and haven't heard from her either. I've contacted UCSIC to get the same "call back in 30 days" bull.

I've seen people with NOA1s of April and May, but yet I who have an NOA1 of March 10 get nothing. I know, I know, I should get this depressed, but every night when I speak with my fianceé it just seems like she is farther and farther away. Our relationship has grown as have we and yet it seems we are prisoners to this process and our relationship cannot progress.

I am seriously on the verge of just simply giving up. Lord knows what I will do if I am denied. Most likely I will just give up. At one point or another we must admit that we are doing ourselves more harm than good by staying in this sort of relationship. Obviously every bone in my body tells me that breaking up is just simply not an option, but I don't know how long that can last. 2 years, 3 years, 4???

Maybe I will cheer up once the processing times change, but even then it will only mean that I have to wait until the processing date reaches 30 days after I got my NOA1.

Wow... giving up on a lifelong commitment of 50+ years just because of a 5 month wait for a visa that can be expected to take about take 6-8 months! I'll bet your fiance will be proud of you!!!

Sorry, but somebody had to say it.

[jen&darcy 0]

Hi Everyone,

I have officially lost all hope. I really, really, really, REEEAAALLLY, thought that I would be getting my NOA2 sometime this week. Tomorrow is Friday and I haven't received a thing. I've contacted both senators (filled out the authorization form when sending letter the first time) and haven't heard anything from them. I contacted my rep. in congress and haven't heard from her either. I've contacted UCSIC to get the same "call back in 30 days" bull.

I've seen people with NOA1s of April and May, but yet I who have an NOA1 of March 10 get nothing. I know, I know, I should get this depressed, but every night when I speak with my fianceé it just seems like she is farther and farther away. Our relationship has grown as have we and yet it seems we are prisoners to this process and our relationship cannot progress.

I am seriously on the verge of just simply giving up. Lord knows what I will do if I am denied. Most likely I will just give up. At one point or another we must admit that we are doing ourselves more harm than good by staying in this sort of relationship. Obviously every bone in my body tells me that breaking up is just simply not an option, but I don't know how long that can last. 2 years, 3 years, 4???

Maybe I will cheer up once the processing times change, but even then it will only mean that I have to wait until the processing date reaches 30 days after I got my NOA1.

Wow... giving up on a lifelong commitment of 50+ years just because of a 5 month wait for a visa that can be expected to take about take 6-8 months! I'll bet your fiance will be proud of you!!!

Sorry, but somebody had to say it.

No....nobody had to say anything negative.

Edited July 27, 2006 by jen&darcy

[AndyMisiu 0]

I'm not going to be the one to say "everything is going to be alright" and pat you on your back. If you give up on this, your not giving up on the process or giving up on the relationship, your giving on up on your fiancee and letting them down. You need to toughen up a little bit. I'm not saying this to put you down, I'm saying this to build you up. The process is built for you to give up, and for the relationship to break! When you get married you will say "for better or worse, till death do us part" You need to stand up and be happy your even in this process with the most important person in your life! Good luck!!!

Edited July 27, 2006 by AndyMisiu

[babybunny 2]

what does lost hope mean? your gonna turn your back on your sweet heart? this process is just beginning for you. if your gonna give up now whats gonna happen later on in this process when you have a much bigger wait. postings like this always bring me down. because, there are people waiting a long and harsh time apart. my case 1 1/2 years from my husband. I know people waiting longer than that. Dude he has been waiting 2 years. and cindi she was waiting 4 years. so maybe you should realize you wont be like us.. your day is comming any day now. hang in there focus on something else.. learn a new hobby

Edited July 27, 2006 by babybunny

[PlatyPius 5]

Hi Everyone,

I have officially lost all hope. I really, really, really, REEEAAALLLY, thought that I would be getting my NOA2 sometime this week. Tomorrow is Friday and I haven't received a thing. I've contacted both senators (filled out the authorization form when sending letter the first time) and haven't heard anything from them. I contacted my rep. in congress and haven't heard from her either. I've contacted UCSIC to get the same "call back in 30 days" bull.

I've seen people with NOA1s of April and May, but yet I who have an NOA1 of March 10 get nothing. I know, I know, I should get this depressed, but every night when I speak with my fianceé it just seems like she is farther and farther away. Our relationship has grown as have we and yet it seems we are prisoners to this process and our relationship cannot progress.

I am seriously on the verge of just simply giving up. Lord knows what I will do if I am denied. Most likely I will just give up. At one point or another we must admit that we are doing ourselves more harm than good by staying in this sort of relationship. Obviously every bone in my body tells me that breaking up is just simply not an option, but I don't know how long that can last. 2 years, 3 years, 4???

Maybe I will cheer up once the processing times change, but even then it will only mean that I have to wait until the processing date reaches 30 days after I got my NOA1.

Wow... giving up on a lifelong commitment of 50+ years just because of a 5 month wait for a visa that can be expected to take about take 6-8 months! I'll bet your fiance will be proud of you!!!

Sorry, but somebody had to say it.

No....nobody had to say anything negative.

No, really..... someone did.

If someone would throw away a relationship because of impatience, then someone HAD to slap the OP in the face and ask "What the bloody hell's wrong with you?!?!?!?!"

The OP didn't just say that he was depressed about the wait, he specifically mentioned breaking it off. I can't even fathom breaking my engagement to Sian off just because it was taking a little longer than expected. The thought of ending it with her has never, ever crossed my mind.

I own two houses here; one of which has EXTREME sentimental value. I would, however, move my ####### to England if that is what I needed to do to be with her. That would happen LONG before I would even give breaking up a thought, let alone giving it voice where thousands of people could read it.

Edited July 28, 2006 by Cian

[Mew 0]

I've sent myself and my fiance an e-mail to be read in the future, using this site: http://www.futureme.org

I thought that it would be incredibly nice to get to some point in the future and get to read a desperate message from the past-me, or read about the plans I had made for the future and that will have become true by then. And then cry and laugh a little - the past me and the future me.

Just an idea. I found it to be a source of encouragement for me

[William33 110]

Maybe the guy is really depressed about the whole thing and came here for moral support.

I really don't believe he is contemplating "breaking it off", just venting in an extreme way. In any case, moral support is what he needs, not a lecture on the value of relationships.

Give the dude a break.

[sbgwolf1 0]

I've sent myself and my fiance an e-mail to be read in the future, using this site: http://www.futureme.org

I thought that it would be incredibly nice to get to some point in the future and get to read a desperate message from the past-me, or read about the plans I had made for the future and that will have become true by then. And then cry and laugh a little - the past me and the future me.

Just an idea. I found it to be a source of encouragement for me

That is great!! I will start doing that...hmm, what a great idea. Maybe I will send them over a period of time.

THANK YOU!

[ya falaha! 0]

I agree with William33. I've had passing thoughts of calling it all off because of extreme frustration with this waiting game but I know in my heart of hearts that I would NEVER leave my husband just because of this process. I think he's just frustrated, worried, anxious and desperate for this to be over. Just like most of us here.