devistated...now what?

[Dr. A ♥ O 203]

we did the CR1 visa so he can come here without an interview until the 2 year green card is complete. However the green card and SS info will come to my address. I think you are right that he probably is not here. It hurts all the same. But I am coming to realize that better now than after he got here and he was working and had a larger mortgage and all the things that married people do. Ive decided not to do anything right now...My emotional status cant handle it, other than the obvious, stop him from coming if he isnt here and take him off insurance and financial things. The Sheik told me I am no longer Islamically married barring the 3 month waiting period, however we are legally married in the USA. So the cleanup is all here. There is no hurry to do anything else at this time. +Judgement Day comes for all of us and I hope by then that I have some ounce of forgiveness n my heart..but right now I dont.

They can change their address at Point of Entry (POE) and the petitioner know nothing about this nor be notified about it. Their green card and SS would go to whatever address they put then. With a CR-1 visa they can come work here right away without needing the petitioner as well for anything else. If their sole purpose was to obtain a green card you can bet they have contacts stateside to go to and who know how to successfully navigate lifting conditions when it comes time. There are ways to do this as well if they can prove themselves to immigration that when they entered the marriage it wasn't a fraud. For that to happen he'd have to be betting on you being emotionally drained enough not to do anything to stop him or prove him otherwise. Really there isn't much you can do about him coming here now other than notify immigration that you believe that you are divorcing before he even uses the visa and pass on the evidence to support that and why. This is encase later down the road he does come here and try to lift conditions without you using some other excuses. However, I do believe no matter what you are still on the hook for him financially for the next 10 years.

[gaeliza 0]

I contacted ICE and the 3 embassys involved....(I have not heard back from any of them) I dont know what else to do than these things. I had called USCIS and they told me pretty much the same thing you did. No amount of AP or FBI checks can determine outcomes in these cases. Now is the time to protect myself as best I can...just where to go from here is my issue...I have to put the emotional devistation on the back burner until that is achieved.

They can change their address at Point of Entry (POE) and the petitioner know nothing about this nor be notified about it. Their green card and SS would go to whatever address they put then. With a CR-1 visa they can come work here right away without needing the petitioner as well for anything else. If their sole purpose was to obtain a green card you can bet they have contacts stateside to go to and who know how to successfully navigate lifting conditions when it comes time. There are ways to do this as well if they can prove themselves to immigration that when they entered the marriage it wasn't a fraud. For that to happen he'd have to be betting on you being emotionally drained enough not to do anything to stop him or prove him otherwise. Really there isn't much you can do about him coming here now other than notify immigration that you believe that you are divorcing before he even uses the visa and pass on the evidence to support that and why. This is encase later down the road he does come here and try to lift conditions without you using some other excuses. However, I do believe no matter what you are still on the hook for him financially for the next 10 years.

[Dr. A ♥ O 203]

I contacted ICE and the 3 embassys involved....(I have not heard back from any of them) I dont know what else to do than these things. I had called USCIS and they told me pretty much the same thing you did. No amount of AP or FBI checks can determine outcomes in these cases. Now is the time to protect myself as best I can...just where to go from here is my issue...I have to put the emotional devistation on the back burner until that is achieved.

It sounds like you've done all that you can for now and just wait to hear back from them. If you don't hear from them maybe follow up with them. It must be very disappointing to have this outcome after all that you've been through. I'd still take steps to get into a grief counselor because it may be a great source of relief and support while you are going through this right now so you don't have to carry everything on your shoulders and can have a safe and confidential place to let it all out.

[gaeliza 0]

yes I am actually doing that..and it is a frre service as part of my benefit package at work.. I am trying to come to grips with the fact that I may never have the answers I need.

It sounds like you've done all that you can for now and just wait to hear back from them. If you don't hear from them maybe follow up with them. It must be very disappointing to have this outcome after all that you've been through. I'd still take steps to get into a grief counselor because it may be a great source of relief and support while you are going through this right now so you don't have to carry everything on your shoulders and can have a safe and confidential place to let it all out.

[~ameriptian~ 54]

((((Eliza))))

I might not have answers to the questions you asked, but I just wanted to see I'm sorry for what happened. I believe you are a strong woman and are able to overcome your sadness and move on. Everything happens for a reason, and I'm sure God has saved you and your future. (F)

If you ever need to talk, I'm just a PM away!

[me_4_musa 1]

Sorry you're having to go through this. Take care.