need cancel k-1 visa..faincee refuse to go U.S

[JoBri 548]

This post gave me happy tears. Thanks for sharing.

Did I mention she is 14 and a half weeks pregnant now? And we are very much in love

[movingsoon2 0]

Brijo,

thank you for sharing your amazing testimony. May you two be blessed!

[JoBri 548]

Brijo,

thank you for sharing your amazing testimony. May you two be blessed!

Thank you moving

[-B&T- 1]

This is hard to explain to anyone and maybe will sound strange.My fiancee since the seond month of the NOA1 she has refuse to come live in America.I asked her the reason she has given me many.Strangely,There is 1 other option if i want to be with my love.She wants me to go there.I know the conditions for the 13(a)Permanent Residence Visa, and other option to stay there.I willing to do it if it what takes be with the women to be my wife.We talk it with family members and friends.I will cancel the visa a few days from now.I give her time to see her if change mind.We have a small store already in philippines and and few other small businesses.We agreed on a 6 month to 12 months saving period to improve things before plans to go.I don't know what to do.

Do anyone have advice or ideas would be nice?!!

Hey, your GF looks very familiar to me! Is her family name Febra? Good luck to you guys.

[SuperDuper! 230]

There are some filipinas who does not want to go to the US. You just need to respect her on that. Your plans are logical and feasible.

But it is NOT respectful for an ambivalent Pinay to lead the Kano on, and allow him to file all the paperworks and all the money, time and effort that goes with it, only for Pinay to face reality when it comes time for embassy interview to say, "I didnt have the guts to tell you that I am afraid to leave my family and culture."

Pinay likes Kano's money and attentions, but in the end she is only teasing and scamming him, although she may say she still loves him. Love is all about honest communication. If she does not disclose her ambivalency and apprehensions, then she is not ready for a serious relationship.

[Kevin-n-Merlaine 14]

I'm curious how old she is? In the endless cloud of information you read on the web about how "Filipinas make such wonderful wives", it's never mentioned that they are STILL women and/or STILL teenagers! I'm as guilty as the next guy of overlooking that fact, but age makes all the difference in the world, no matter where in the world you are and it needs to be considered going into the relationship from the start. I'm really sorry to hear what you're going through and was hoping I'd read that "she's just having a cold feet problem, she's coming now" at some point, but this thread has been here a while now. I wish you all the very best At the same time, don't take too much ####### myfriend - life's too short to spend it like that.

[Loolie 56]

My wife also was very confused. Our relationship developed and she was ready to come here. She always said she would adjust. Then she got her dream job as principal, and I noticed right away from the opposite end of the earth that she changed. I could not figure it out, and i worried a lot, and felt very insecure. She changed because she became a principal and had job security and financial stability and had family obligations in the Philippines and her heart was so deeply attached to Asia.

She came here in spite of her mixed feelings, and we went through a nightmare. Twice she went home to the Philippines, the first for a 3 week visit, and the next time was indefinitely. She admitted she was so confused. But within just a couple days of being back in the Philippines, she sorted out all her confusion. She realized we were truly one. She didnt feel she fit in back in the Philippines anymore, and she became homesick for me and the USA.

When she first left the Philippines she even made excuses there to only take a leave of absense from her job, just in case she would want to go back. That also caused me a lot of grief and insecurity. When she went back the 2nd time, and sorted things out, she permanently resigned her job, burning all bridges back to the Philippines. Ever since she came back to me again all has been wonderful. Our marriage was changed for the better. And we are happily expecting our first child now too. All walls came down in our relationship. I also changed, for the better, becoming less insecure, more patient, trusting, and gentler in heart.

After her return to the USA, I think a big part of the improved relationship was actually that we became habitual in having daily devotions together. Every night we end our day with a daily Christian devotion for couples and prayer. We begin our day with prayer too, and surrendering all to God for the day. But in addition to that, we each learned a lot about ourselves and about each other, and it all impacted huge on our marriage.

So anyways, what I am trying to say is that I understand. My wife was torn. She really wanted us BOTH to go back to the Philippines to live. But it would have been more difficult for me, and she realized that. But she still left me and went back alone, and sorted her feelings out, then commited 100% to our marriage and walked away from a good life there to a life of financial hardship and foreign culture here because she realized the importance of me and our marriage to her.

That is how it was for us... I remember the day she left...just a note saying "Dont look for me anymore. I will come back when I am ready and if you still love me". She got a ride with a filipina I introduced her to, and her husband, a captain in the police department, to the airport 2.5 hours away. By the grace of God I figured it out she would be at that airport. I called my parents, and told them she is there, with certainty. They drove the 45 minutes to the airport to try to find her and did, and mom gently asked her if she would go home with them to sleep a few hours, and then they would take her back to get her flight that morning. I drove to mom and dad's house, and was exhausted, and fell asleep outside the door of the bedroom she was sleeping in. A couple hours later, that morning, I took her to the airport myself, and we held each other much, and it was very sad, and I stood there, watching through the crowd as she went through security, and she would look back to see if I was still there watching. And I watched her disappear out of site, and she watched for me, until she disappeared... and I guess she could see how much I loved her.... The hardest thing for a husband to do I think is to take the wife he loves to an airport, and with so much love watch her board a plane for the opposite end of the earth, not knowing if he will ever see her again, but determined not to pressure her or force her to stay or anything....to just let go and still love her with all his heart... So hard to do... Terribly hard to do... And God used it all to do something wonderful in our marriage.

Brian in Tennessee

such a wonderful story brijo it made me cry... im happy for both of you.

[rheanick 42]

But it is NOT respectful for an ambivalent Pinay to lead the Kano on, and allow him to file all the paperworks and all the money, time and effort that goes with it, only for Pinay to face reality when it comes time for embassy interview to say, "I didnt have the guts to tell you that I am afraid to leave my family and culture."

Pinay likes Kano's money and attentions, but in the end she is only teasing and scamming him, although she may say she still loves him. Love is all about honest communication. If she does not disclose her ambivalency and apprehensions, then she is not ready for a serious relationship.

Its takes two to tango...

[SuperDuper! 230]

Its takes two to tango be serious about the relationship, and not have Pinay back out at the last minute.

Fixorred!

[Kevin-n-Merlaine 14]

Techno Viking is a post fixing machine

[SuperDuper! 230]

Techno Viking is a post fixing machine

Yes he is!

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