Your age difference..Could it be a problem?

[Mikhail 1]

Im just curious what do you and your wife think about your age difference? Do you you think it could be a problem later in life? What happens when you become an old man and your wife is still a young woman?

Edited January 20, 2010 by Mikhail

[Ban Hammer 13,334]

have you by any chance done a search on the topic "age difference" within this very forum?

[marklovetina 52]

it depoends....

if ur wife loves u with all her heart.. if the love is pure and honest, that she married u not just bcoz of the GC then there will be no problem...

a good wife can understand u, trust u, be honest to u, love u even when u get old,old,old...

and for the first place ur wife knew that ur age gap is big so she must be ready to love u with all her heart when u get old

and she, still young, beautiful... in return to all the good u did for her she must respect and take care of u...

[Deputy Purple 1,294]

As you say you're only 20 {and unemployed} what age gap are you concerned with?

Trolling on a "Hot Button" Topic to see if you can start a Flame War?

[marklovetina 52]

As you say you're only 20 {and unemployed} what age gap are you concerned with?

Trolling on a "Hot Button" Topic to see if you can start a Flame War?

is he only 20 yrs. old..? lol!!!

then why u are posting this..?, uhmmm i thought ur old and ur wife is young and pretty...

uhmm ok maybe ur just curious...

anyway have a good reading to u all...

Mabuhay po kayo!!!

[Mikhail 1]

is he only 20 yrs. old..? lol!!!

then why u are posting this..?, uhmmm i thought ur old and ur wife is young and pretty...

uhmm ok maybe ur just curious...

anyway have a good reading to u all...

Mabuhay po kayo!!!

Im just curious about the guys that are alot older than there wives

[marklovetina 52]

Im just curious about the guys that are alot older than there wives

uhmmm well base on what i am experiencing right now... my honey is older than me of 23 yrs.. BUT honestly i am not goin to marry him just bcoz of the GC or i just want to go to USA knowing that there econmy is not good too (recession)... i have a good job here too in the Phil., a beautiful family who loves me very much, and taking care of me...

just that simple i am inlove with a this man, and i had an experienced b4 that i was married to a younger man but that experienced gave me sooo much pain, and i don't know why but from then i never wanted to have a man who is young like me, or aged like me, or older than me of a little bit... i am just a simple filipina who is seeking happiness, live simple life with my love, but really that simple dream really soo hard to have... and i found it in him.... its bcoz he is sooo mature and he knows already what to do, and in my earlier post as i told u: wife knew that ur age gap is big so she must be ready to love u with all her heart when u get old and she, still young, beautiful... in return to all the good u did for her she must respect and take care of u...

that's what will i do.. why? that is bcoz my love for this man is true and pure!!!

:luv:

Godsgift...

[Mikhail 1]

i hope everything works for you, its just an interesting topic beacause while its commom for the man to be older than the woman the age differences are never as big as some of the people on here, you usually dont see Filipno guys 20+years older than there wives in phil

Edited January 20, 2010 by Mikhail

[marklovetina 52]

i hope everything works for you

yeah right, thank u... but honestly i am nervous too bcoz we had a wrong moved b4 though i know there are many people who did it too before... but it still it bothers me too.... but for now all i can do is pray hard to God to still guide us on what we are doing, we are making it right this time and we are making it for our future together...

godsgift..

[Mikhail 1]

I think some people see other people getting married to men alot older and feel that for some reason if there doing it then it must be the right thing to do. Alot of the women dont need to go to such an extreme to find love, unfortunately I think some are almost "brainwashed" into thinking that well if hes american, white, and atleast 20 years older then me then i know he loves me, thats kind of sad.

[Mikhail 1]

My soon to be wife and I are the total opposite we dont fit the typical bill at all Im 20 and shes 27, Im unemployed in a tough economy, I dont have alot of money or whatever. We like our age difference but I dont get these age differencs when the wife is 21 and the guy is like 48. I wonder where they see themselves in 20 years when the 21 year realizes maybe she shouldnt have married a guy so much older then her.

[DainandVicky 4]

I think some people see other people getting married to men alot older and feel that for some reason if there doing it then it must be the right thing to do. Alot of the women dont need to go to such an extreme to find love, unfortunately I think some are almost "brainwashed" into thinking that well if hes american, white, and atleast 20 years older then me then i know he loves me, thats kind of sad.

I don't buy that. It's a cultural difference, yes. Filipinos in general (and several other Asian cultures) are more accustomed to having older man/ younger woman relationships. It's common and socially acceptable there that your mate is 10 years difference, whereas here it's 5 years is the cultural "norm", although it's certainly not uncommon to have a larger age split, especially in couples that start later in life, in the US as well.

It's no big surprise in most cases women mature faster than men. And a large percentage of women crave security, also not a big surprise. So it should not be surprising to see women seek out older, more mature, more stable men fairly often.

20 years is a lot, and I wonder how it works. There's some pretty big generational differences then. Grew up with different television, music, movies. If nothing else you just have a little less in common purely by the generational differences of your childhoods. Think how differently children were raised in the '50s to the '70s. I'm a big believer in "love conquers all" though, and it certainly DOES work for a large number of people.

I don't think it's "brainwashing" when someone sees several successful and long-lasting marriages (with a larger age split) of their friends and family, and opens their horizons a bit more accordingly.

And there's certainly some that are gold-diggers, just like in the US (plenty of young women marrying older men here too, not unique to Asia or the Philippines).

That being said, Vicky and I are only 4 years difference. Not everyone here has such a large age split.

Edited January 21, 2010 by DainandVicky

[happywifeymom 4]

Im just curious what do you and your wife think about your age difference? Do you you think it could be a problem later in life? What happens when you become an old man and your wife is still a young woman?

My husband is 23 years older than me. When true love is the foundation in your relationship i think age does not matter. We are going on our 3rd year anniverssary and still happy and in love with each other esp with our 18 month old baby boy.

[max&tabby 0]

I think some people see other people getting married to men alot older and feel that for some reason if there doing it then it must be the right thing to do. Alot of the women dont need to go to such an extreme to find love, unfortunately I think some are almost "brainwashed" into thinking that well if hes american, white, and atleast 20 years older then me then i know he loves me, thats kind of sad.

34 yrs is the difference between me & my husband and were on our 4th yr anniversary & counting... I disagree that woman is brainwashed when she married older man...I believe when your committed to a relationship & put God in the center everything is possible and age is just a number. Were happy enjoying everyday life & actually he looks younger on his age. He's 67 & Im 33. We both works but I ask him to retire for good in the next 2 yrs, i want him to enjoy his retirement. I Love my Husband & I will be with him till the Lord ask him to come home.

[marklovetina 52]

My husband is 23 years older than me. When true love is the foundation in your relationship i think age does not matter. We are going on our 3rd year anniverssary and still happy and in love with each other esp with our 18 month old baby boy.

agree,