Yardies a home and a farrin (Part 22)

[*JG* 2]

I KNOW WOULD LOSE MY FRICKIN MIND but then after a couple hours i would feel better knowing he didn't lose it

Well, if he ever does, Jengles, I think is the one who went through that on here.

[JQ Smiley BOOM 3]

I like her JG

I still PM'd Jengles on my step daughter's case, and she never got back to me. Havent been on here since Nov I think

Edited January 22, 2010 by Jamerican Queen

[*JG* 2]

I just remembered!

GOOD LUCK BUNZ!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Me too.....Go Bunzy.

[LadyC 1]

I JUST TALKED TO BUNZ AND SHE WAS APPROVED!!!!!WOOOOHHOOOOO!!

Yayyyy BUNZ...Congrats to you and your hubby

[JQ Smiley BOOM 3]

I JUST TALKED TO BUNZ AND SHE WAS APPROVED!!!!!WOOOOHHOOOOO!!

[DedicatedWife 4]

I JUST TALKED TO BUNZ AND SHE WAS APPROVED!!!!!WOOOOHHOOOOO!!

Congratulations Bunz!!!! So happy for them!!!

[MsSheka 0]

DHL just delivered my stuff AMEN

[1luv 1]

CONGRATS BUNZY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Edited January 22, 2010 by 1luv

[*JG* 2]

I have homework up the wazoo, and am babysitting my two youngest nephews and the dog all weekend - What an exciting life, lol

Come to CT - $1500 for a one bedroom -

Damn....I pay $400 for my entire house.

[1luv 1]

DHL just delivered my stuff AMEN

Thats great MsSheka

Damn....I pay $400 for my entire house.

how is that JG?

[sus 70]

Congrats, Bunz -

I agree to a point. I'm sorry; but I have been there. You can talk till you are blue in the face; but when you see your life flash before your eyes cause you think God we worked so long and hard for this and you are going to throw it all away..........well, you might think differently.

I see your point, JG - But there is a difference in how you can handle things - You have to discuss things and make decisions together, or the relationship will never work - If you tell your partner what to do all the time, eventually it will lead to resentment and anger, lies, etc..... Bottom line to it is that you have made a commitment to a partnership, which means working things out together, not dictating how something is going to be - And as hard as it is, sometimes you have to just say what you feel, and then sit back and see how your partner handles it - it's not an easy thing, but if it's the wrong choice, they will learn that.

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[*JG* 2]

She wants me to send it if he cant...where does she think I will get it from? I have bills up to my eyeballs. She will be ok.

Girlfriend, PM if you want to talk about this. You have to put your foot down there. Been there, done that.

[phillyfashionista 8]

Ells...

I am sorry for what is going on with you. I understand what you are trying to do but I also agree TELLING him what to do isn't going to help much.

I try to encourage Louis to go to school. I tell him he AND US will get closer to our goals if he has a better education.

He does not have a whole lot of confidence in himself so he is hesitent. I continue to remind him of our goals and let him know what I think he should do. It the end it will be his decision... in fact if I made him do it, he probably would resent me and not do very well.

He has been here a year and 1/2. Its slow going, but I feel this year is going to be his year. He wants a child, I want a child... we are not getting any younger. To make more money, get a better job... doing what he likes... he will HAVE to go back to school.

He is getting closer to making the decision on his own, and I will be so proud of him when he does.

I will continue to encourage him.

Good luck my friend.

Irie, thanks for sharing Sistah I am feeling your response and share yur sentiments as well....

Wait, why they getting married on the 26th? (my date) and his name is Steven (even though I have Steve) lol what coinky dink!

LOL girl you into this one huh? where did you stop off? I was gonna continue to post. I jsut tracked my package I have 9 new movies arriving today and Damian prmised me it will be a Nollywood weekend

goooood morning and happy Friday!

Louis calls me at 5:50am and says " I Lost my wallett!!".... OMG ... HOLY $HIT.... #######..... I am freaking out! His GC is in there.

So then as I am freaking out his friend walks in and says "hey Louis, Wayne found your wallet on his couch"....Thank GOD!!!

What a way to wake up!! I could smack him!!!!

Ruh Roh I kno you were hotter than fish grease, that is the reason I keep the GC in the safe but I know he is traveling so he needs it. Thank God it's found! Woosahhhhhh

[*JG* 2]

JG, your package is in the mail today!

I need the pick me up. Bad day yesterday. I have to ask you some stuff in a few.

[DedicatedWife 4]

DHL just delivered my stuff AMEN

Go girl!