Yardies a home and a farrin (Part 22)

[MRStee 19]

Afternoon Yardies!

So what have I missed since pg. 59? I don't think I can try & catch up today.

Little 'adjustment' update & I'm going to try not to sound like I only come on here to b@#$h about stuff. So, I'm not shy to admit that hubby has no education & has been going to adult literacy classes to catch up & hopefully get to the point in the not-too-distant future where he can take GED classes & achieve that. Well, lately I've felt like the program we have him in is just a little too lax & I don't like the other 'students' that he is associating with there. It is a program where the main focus is on the homeless & disabled. I'm deeply appreciative of all they've done so far for him but it's time to pick up the pace. This program focuses on chronically disabled or homeless & hubby is neither of those things. Unfortunately, it is not the most motivating environment when you are around people who have been in the program 4 years & still are in level 1.

This week, he came home as I was getting ready for bed after coming home from my evening class & he had been drinking. That part is okay...for the most part. What is not okay is that he was hanging out in front of the library like the bums do drinking beer out of a paper bag. I told him that if a cop wants to be a jerk, he might have been issued a fine for doing something like that or harrassed by the law. The friends he was hanging with were from that school & one is illegally here from Belize after overstaying a visa & I'm fairly certain deals in stolen merchandise like Ipods (even if he isn't the one committing the crimes) & the other is not attending the program now because his ex-GF who still goes had a 16 y/o daughter he decided to fool around with (molest). These are not the kind of people he needs to be associating with no matter how desperate he is for friends.

So this morning, I've been mulling this over for a few weeks now & finally discovered that City College has ESL/literacy classes that will be 5 days a week & should keep him a lot more occupied than he has been. He's worried about getting a job & I made it clear, even before he got here, that his JOB would be going to school. He thinks I'm pushing him to do more than he's ready for but I now just say TOO DYAM BAD! I want him to see examples of immigrants who are really trying to do something instead of the US-born folks at the other program who mostly only attend the occasional class just so they can take advantage of the free lunches & other giveaways/ public assistance. Some of his classmates have even encouraged him to try & get on disability!! FOR WHAT?? He's perfectly capable & willing to work...unlike most of them!

We parted ways after enrolling him & sharing a lunch where I tried to understand why he was so perturbed but he wouldn't talk to me....just kept rolling his eyes sorta. I told him my reasons for this decision as well as a few other things....basically told him that his level of motivation needs to increase because it's time! Neither of us were very happy when I went back to work & he went off to his afternoon school to talk to his favorite teacher about what a mean wife I am.

Well, I don't really know what my point is & I may get some criticism for being such a shrew but frankly, I don't care. He's the kinda guy that needs a push & I'm here to give it to him....or else eventually, he'll have to get to steppin. I don't have time in my life to coddle or baby a grown man.

SOOOOO, how is everyone else today??

Good luck Lehi. Education is the key!!!

Hey everyone!! I have a quick question, my fiance received his Interview letter. There is a paragraph on the bottom under his Case #, Name and preference category. It says "Traveling Applicants" under that it lists his daughters name with her bday and a ©. Do they normally list the children.

On the paperwork we listed his daughter - where is said list ALL children. And where it asked if anyone was accompanying you to the US we put n/a. Just curious if this is normal that they list their children or do they think I am filing for her as well? And will they ask for anything on her at the Interview? Thanks everyone!!

Yayyyyyyyyyyyy you can in! Welcome

[MRStee 19]

Ells I think you just trying to encourage your hubby to stay focused and you pushing him to keep it moving! He can't get left behind by hanging with Pookie and 'em as I like to call slackers. Hopefully once both of you breathe a lil bit, you can communicate why you felt so strongly about him changing schools and he can express himself...that way everything is out in the open. Big ups to you for letting him know this is both of you in this thing together...this is not a game, no time for recess...let's go get it! Hugs to you from me

well said A

If I remember correctly my step son's name was on the interview letter as well. When you get there they will just ask you if she is with you or not. It isn't a biggie.

Dills... resident advisor on the children questions!

Hi peeps! Hope everyone is doing well. I have been sick as hell the last few weeks....don't even know what the frick day it is anymore...tired of being in the house. I'm looking forward to getting back to a somewhat normal routine come Monday.

JQ - what is the latest on stepdaughters case?

anyone have any exciting news?

Awwwwwwwwwwwwww feel better!

Some one spoke with her...MrsTee (maybe)? and she and baby are doing fine! I think her interview from 1/14 was postponed...not sure on anything else. I miss her though and ready to see pics of that beautiful baby girl!

Nat, what did Steven decide to do about his hair?

She has pics posted on FB...maybe she is taking a break and enjoying her children

[Tosh Love 77]

I agree..not many single men. The couple who stayed next to us fought the entire trip and they got married on the boat His groomsmen had a ball with the ladies and I guess he wanted to be part of the action...wrong decision.

The women did not ruin our trip cuz Damien handled himself but couldn't believe how bold the women were.

Sus - Damien wearing those t-shirt get lots of complaints of guys too...it's kinda funny.

The last time I was on a cruise I was being beaten upside the head, dragged by my hair and was filing charges on board....but I digress, that's a story for a different day.

[MRStee 19]

The last time I was on a cruise I was being beaten upside the head, dragged by my hair and was filing charges on board....but I digress, that's a story for a different day.

Oh God thats horrible!

[Shemmy 4]

The last time I was on a cruise I was being beaten upside the head, dragged by my hair and was filing charges on board....but I digress, that's a story for a different day.

WHA??? We got time .

[DedicatedWife 4]

She has pics posted on FB...maybe she is taking a break and enjoying her children

MrsTee can you PM me her real name so I can request her on FB?

Hey Shunsgal! (Waving) What's been going on?

[DedicatedWife 4]

Dills... resident advisor on the children questions!

Yeah go figure cause they didn't list my step-son on Den's interview letter.

[MRStee 19]

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Tee why does he have on guyliner????

Ells ((((Waving)))

Wait, why they getting married on the 26th? (my date) and his name is Steven (even though I have Steve) lol what coinky dink!

[NatPatBen 3]

Nat, what did Steven decide to do about his hair?

I just finished corn-rowing it.

This is why I don't post until I read everything. I am always worried that I would post a statement like "OH Don't U Just Love Pink Toilet Paper" right after someone just got finished posting something extremely sad. That said, let me go finish reading these last 7 pages. Be right back!

I've done that a few times.

MrsTee can you PM me her real name so I can request her on FB?

She doesn't go by her real name on there (unless her parents were very unorthodox with names).

[DedicatedWife 4]

Glad you were able to hook up his hair before he goes outta town. Such a good wifey!

[MRStee 19]

i couldnt wait for you Philly I went on you tube myself lol

i couldnt wait for you Philly I went on you tube myself lol

[DedicatedWife 4]

i couldnt wait for you Philly I went on you tube myself lol

I refuse to even look at one of those movies...I can't get hooked on watching them, I just can't!!!!

[jamerican 2]

Where is my West Coast Sista Jamerican at? Hope everyone in her life is good as well as her.

Anyone heard from her?

Hey girl I feel so special .....u missed me! All is good with me. I just don't get a chance to check in until late night cause of school. There r so many things I want to comment about but by the time I catch up the topic of conversation is long gone. I do update my facebook throughout the day though.

[IrieCat 2]

goooood morning and happy Friday!

Louis calls me at 5:50am and says " I Lost my wallett!!".... OMG ... HOLY $HIT.... #######..... I am freaking out! His GC is in there.

So then as I am freaking out his friend walks in and says "hey Louis, Wayne found your wallet on his couch"....Thank GOD!!!

What a way to wake up!! I could smack him!!!!

[NatPatBen 3]

Morning, All

About to bring Steven to the airport up north, then venture back south during rush hour. Soooooooooooooo tired.

Glad you were able to hook up his hair before he goes outta town. Such a good wifey!

I know... especially cause I feel he was being silly.