Yardies a home and a farrin (Part 22)

[finesse 3]

Hi peeps! Hope everyone is doing well. I have been sick as hell the last few weeks....don't even know what the frick day it is anymore...tired of being in the house. I'm looking forward to getting back to a somewhat normal routine come Monday.

JQ - what is the latest on stepdaughters case?

anyone have any exciting news?

[DedicatedWife 4]

Hi peeps! Hope everyone is doing well. I have been sick as hell the last few weeks....don't even know what the frick day it is anymore...tired of being in the house. I'm looking forward to getting back to a somewhat normal routine come Monday.

JQ - what is the latest on stepdaughters case?

anyone have any exciting news?

Sorry to hear you been sick! Well my man soon come...and I had some hella sexy parties last week...

[DedicatedWife 4]

If I remember correctly my step son's name was on the interview letter as well. When you get there they will just ask you if she is with you or not. It isn't a biggie.

Dills how's the weather been your way?

[finesse 3]

Afternoon Yardies!

So what have I missed since pg. 59? I don't think I can try & catch up today.

Little 'adjustment' update & I'm going to try not to sound like I only come on here to b@#$h about stuff. So, I'm not shy to admit that hubby has no education & has been going to adult literacy classes to catch up & hopefully get to the point in the not-too-distant future where he can take GED classes & achieve that. Well, lately I've felt like the program we have him in is just a little too lax & I don't like the other 'students' that he is associating with there. It is a program where the main focus is on the homeless & disabled. I'm deeply appreciative of all they've done so far for him but it's time to pick up the pace. This program focuses on chronically disabled or homeless & hubby is neither of those things. Unfortunately, it is not the most motivating environment when you are around people who have been in the program 4 years & still are in level 1.

This week, he came home as I was getting ready for bed after coming home from my evening class & he had been drinking. That part is okay...for the most part. What is not okay is that he was hanging out in front of the library like the bums do drinking beer out of a paper bag. I told him that if a cop wants to be a jerk, he might have been issued a fine for doing something like that or harrassed by the law. The friends he was hanging with were from that school & one is illegally here from Belize after overstaying a visa & I'm fairly certain deals in stolen merchandise like Ipods (even if he isn't the one committing the crimes) & the other is not attending the program now because his ex-GF who still goes had a 16 y/o daughter he decided to fool around with (molest). These are not the kind of people he needs to be associating with no matter how desperate he is for friends.

So this morning, I've been mulling this over for a few weeks now & finally discovered that City College has ESL/literacy classes that will be 5 days a week & should keep him a lot more occupied than he has been. He's worried about getting a job & I made it clear, even before he got here, that his JOB would be going to school. He thinks I'm pushing him to do more than he's ready for but I now just say TOO DYAM BAD! I want him to see examples of immigrants who are really trying to do something instead of the US-born folks at the other program who mostly only attend the occasional class just so they can take advantage of the free lunches & other giveaways/ public assistance. Some of his classmates have even encouraged him to try & get on disability!! FOR WHAT?? He's perfectly capable & willing to work...unlike most of them!

We parted ways after enrolling him & sharing a lunch where I tried to understand why he was so perturbed but he wouldn't talk to me....just kept rolling his eyes sorta. I told him my reasons for this decision as well as a few other things....basically told him that his level of motivation needs to increase because it's time! Neither of us were very happy when I went back to work & he went off to his afternoon school to talk to his favorite teacher about what a mean wife I am.

Well, I don't really know what my point is & I may get some criticism for being such a shrew but frankly, I don't care. He's the kinda guy that needs a push & I'm here to give it to him....or else eventually, he'll have to get to steppin. I don't have time in my life to coddle or baby a grown man.

SOOOOO, how is everyone else today??

ells, is there a big age difference between the two of you? i don't mean to judge but oonu really don't seem to be on the same page with a lot of things. you are going to push him away and create serious distance between you if you just tell him what to do. on the other hand, grown people should not have to be told the difference between right and wrong which leads me to believe he isn't quite grown....is this what you want to deal with?

Sorry to hear you been sick! Well my man soon come...and I had some hella sexy parties last week...

hope they were with him!!

[finesse 3]

what's up with JaP?

[NatPatBen 3]

what's up with JaP?

[DedicatedWife 4]

hope they were with him!!

what's up with JaP?

Some one spoke with her...MrsTee (maybe)? and she and baby are doing fine! I think her interview from 1/14 was postponed...not sure on anything else. I miss her though and ready to see pics of that beautiful baby girl!

Nat, what did Steven decide to do about his hair?

[Shemmy 4]

I know a lot of woman go on their to meet guys but I’m like come on how many guys hook up with buddies and go? To me most single men will hit a city up or maybe go out of town but I don’t think many of them say hey lets go on a cruise….

I have a GF whose hubby went on a cruise and he told her he was going with his buddies for a week. I always thought that sounded fishy but yuh neva know I guess.

I agree..not many single men. The couple who stayed next to us fought the entire trip and they got married on the boat His groomsmen had a ball with the ladies and I guess he wanted to be part of the action...wrong decision.

The women did not ruin our trip cuz Damien handled himself but couldn't believe how bold the women were.

Sus - Damien wearing those t-shirt get lots of complaints of guys too...it's kinda funny.

[Shemmy 4]

Sorry to hear you been sick! Well my man soon come...and I had some hella sexy parties last week...

Finesse's sexy parties will get you in big trouble.

Hey Finesse...hope you feel better soon.

I agree..not many single men. The couple who stayed next to us fought the entire trip and they got married on the boat His groomsmen had a ball with the ladies and I guess he wanted to be part of the action...wrong decision.

The women did not ruin our trip cuz Damien handled himself but couldn't believe how bold the women were.

Sus - Damien wearing those t-shirt get lots of complaints of guys too...it's kinda funny.

meant to say compliments...not complaints...going back to bed

[Shemmy 4]

ells, is there a big age difference between the two of you? i don't mean to judge but oonu really don't seem to be on the same page with a lot of things. you are going to push him away and create serious distance between you if you just tell him what to do. on the other hand, grown people should not have to be told the difference between right and wrong which leads me to believe he isn't quite grown....is this what you want to deal with?

There is an age difference with Damien and myself but I would never make a decision for him. Couldn't imagine not discussing things first.

[Tosh Love 77]

I guess that is what u get for jumping pages!!

Thanks Sus and IrieCat! Glad Louis made it safe!

Sus I hope he gets better soon also

This is why I don't post until I read everything. I am always worried that I would post a statement like "OH Don't U Just Love Pink Toilet Paper" right after someone just got finished posting something extremely sad. That said, let me go finish reading these last 7 pages. Be right back!

[IrieCat 2]

Ells...

I am sorry for what is going on with you. I understand what you are trying to do but I also agree TELLING him what to do isn't going to help much.

I try to encourage Louis to go to school. I tell him he AND US will get closer to our goals if he has a better education.

He does not have a whole lot of confidence in himself so he is hesitent. I continue to remind him of our goals and let him know what I think he should do. It the end it will be his decision... in fact if I made him do it, he probably would resent me and not do very well.

He has been here a year and 1/2. Its slow going, but I feel this year is going to be his year. He wants a child, I want a child... we are not getting any younger. To make more money, get a better job... doing what he likes... he will HAVE to go back to school.

He is getting closer to making the decision on his own, and I will be so proud of him when he does.

I will continue to encourage him.

Good luck my friend.

[MRStee 19]

Just for you TEE

Presenting Empty Coffin, I'm not even gonna give you a spoiler but Damian and Mr and Mrs Bootsy liked this one!

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God bless you Philly

[MRStee 19]

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Tee why does he have on guyliner????

Ells ((((Waving)))

[Tosh Love 77]

Afternoon Yardies!

SOOOOO, how is everyone else today??

Ells. This is from my heart to you. Plz take it EZ. It will all work out!