Yardies a home and a farrin (Part 22)

[MoLuvsAcory 0]

Hi everyone!!! Throughout the day I've been reading all the post. @ 4:27pm eastern time, I finally caught up!! Nothing new to report on my end. Same thing, just a different day. Weather in NY isn't that cold. It's been fairly decent.(low 40s).

Dens, I'm confident by next week your SO will have his visa.

In regards to Kingston & country, my SO & I are from St Elizabeth. But when we are ready, we drive to Kingston. It's a typical city, ALOT going on. I'm a party person so if country is quiet, str8 2 town we go. Due to the drive, that isn't all the time.

Take care everyone & be safe!!!!!!!!!!

[phillyfashionista 8]

Just for you TEE

Presenting Empty Coffin, I'm not even gonna give you a spoiler but Damian and Mr and Mrs Bootsy liked this one!

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[MsSheka 0]

Sheka I love your next to last smiley. LOL

I can see your frustration your like come on people I'm so close just work with me not against me. I hope everything works itself out but memba to relax relate release before your pressure goes through the roof and back…

I am trying so hard to get this thing over with and bwoy i tell ya its like

Tee ok give me a sec I've only got 7 projects left ughhh and started with 22! the one I want to post is not on Youtube soon come

Awwe Sheka, breathe Sis I know exactly how you are feeling have faith everything will work out in God's time!

Hey Philly I am trying girl this is just hard sometimes

[PortlandAngel 0]

Oops I see you already answered my question....

Portland are you renewing your vows?

Well, yes, but most of the people at the wedding don't know we are already married!

[phillyfashionista 8]

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I'll have to post my catch ups later LOL

[NatPatBen 3]

In 14 minutes, I have my first one-on-one meeting with my new manager. She's the first female manager I've had in a LOOOONG time. Actually, she might be the first.

I prepared days ago, so I'm ready for whatever she asks me during our HOUR LONG meeting.

[phillyfashionista 8]

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[phillyfashionista 8]

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Tee why does he have on guyliner????


Ells ((((Waving)))

[Ellsinlove 2]

Afternoon Yardies!

So what have I missed since pg. 59? I don't think I can try & catch up today.

Little 'adjustment' update & I'm going to try not to sound like I only come on here to b@#$h about stuff. So, I'm not shy to admit that hubby has no education & has been going to adult literacy classes to catch up & hopefully get to the point in the not-too-distant future where he can take GED classes & achieve that. Well, lately I've felt like the program we have him in is just a little too lax & I don't like the other 'students' that he is associating with there. It is a program where the main focus is on the homeless & disabled. I'm deeply appreciative of all they've done so far for him but it's time to pick up the pace. This program focuses on chronically disabled or homeless & hubby is neither of those things. Unfortunately, it is not the most motivating environment when you are around people who have been in the program 4 years & still are in level 1.

This week, he came home as I was getting ready for bed after coming home from my evening class & he had been drinking. That part is okay...for the most part. What is not okay is that he was hanging out in front of the library like the bums do drinking beer out of a paper bag. I told him that if a cop wants to be a jerk, he might have been issued a fine for doing something like that or harrassed by the law. The friends he was hanging with were from that school & one is illegally here from Belize after overstaying a visa & I'm fairly certain deals in stolen merchandise like Ipods (even if he isn't the one committing the crimes) & the other is not attending the program now because his ex-GF who still goes had a 16 y/o daughter he decided to fool around with (molest). These are not the kind of people he needs to be associating with no matter how desperate he is for friends.

So this morning, I've been mulling this over for a few weeks now & finally discovered that City College has ESL/literacy classes that will be 5 days a week & should keep him a lot more occupied than he has been. He's worried about getting a job & I made it clear, even before he got here, that his JOB would be going to school. He thinks I'm pushing him to do more than he's ready for but I now just say TOO DYAM BAD! I want him to see examples of immigrants who are really trying to do something instead of the US-born folks at the other program who mostly only attend the occasional class just so they can take advantage of the free lunches & other giveaways/ public assistance. Some of his classmates have even encouraged him to try & get on disability!! FOR WHAT?? He's perfectly capable & willing to work...unlike most of them!

We parted ways after enrolling him & sharing a lunch where I tried to understand why he was so perturbed but he wouldn't talk to me....just kept rolling his eyes sorta. I told him my reasons for this decision as well as a few other things....basically told him that his level of motivation needs to increase because it's time! Neither of us were very happy when I went back to work & he went off to his afternoon school to talk to his favorite teacher about what a mean wife I am.

Well, I don't really know what my point is & I may get some criticism for being such a shrew but frankly, I don't care. He's the kinda guy that needs a push & I'm here to give it to him....or else eventually, he'll have to get to steppin. I don't have time in my life to coddle or baby a grown man.

SOOOOO, how is everyone else today??

[Ellsinlove 2]

HI PHILLY!! (((HUGS)))

[phillyfashionista 8]

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[phillyfashionista 8]

HI PHILLY!! (((HUGS)))

Ells I just read your post I am hugging you right back. I will respond soon I have to get out of here before I drop soon come. Stay strong Sis!

[dillon 6]

Afternoon Yardies!

So what have I missed since pg. 59? I don't think I can try & catch up today.

Little 'adjustment' update & I'm going to try not to sound like I only come on here to b@#$h about stuff. So, I'm not shy to admit that hubby has no education & has been going to adult literacy classes to catch up & hopefully get to the point in the not-too-distant future where he can take GED classes & achieve that. Well, lately I've felt like the program we have him in is just a little too lax & I don't like the other 'students' that he is associating with there. It is a program where the main focus is on the homeless & disabled. I'm deeply appreciative of all they've done so far for him but it's time to pick up the pace. This program focuses on chronically disabled or homeless & hubby is neither of those things. Unfortunately, it is not the most motivating environment when you are around people who have been in the program 4 years & still are in level 1.

This week, he came home as I was getting ready for bed after coming home from my evening class & he had been drinking. That part is okay...for the most part. What is not okay is that he was hanging out in front of the library like the bums do drinking beer out of a paper bag. I told him that if a cop wants to be a jerk, he might have been issued a fine for doing something like that or harrassed by the law. The friends he was hanging with were from that school & one is illegally here from Belize after overstaying a visa & I'm fairly certain deals in stolen merchandise like Ipods (even if he isn't the one committing the crimes) & the other is not attending the program now because his ex-GF who still goes had a 16 y/o daughter he decided to fool around with (molest). These are not the kind of people he needs to be associating with no matter how desperate he is for friends.

So this morning, I've been mulling this over for a few weeks now & finally discovered that City College has ESL/literacy classes that will be 5 days a week & should keep him a lot more occupied than he has been. He's worried about getting a job & I made it clear, even before he got here, that his JOB would be going to school. He thinks I'm pushing him to do more than he's ready for but I now just say TOO DYAM BAD! I want him to see examples of immigrants who are really trying to do something instead of the US-born folks at the other program who mostly only attend the occasional class just so they can take advantage of the free lunches & other giveaways/ public assistance. Some of his classmates have even encouraged him to try & get on disability!! FOR WHAT?? He's perfectly capable & willing to work...unlike most of them!

We parted ways after enrolling him & sharing a lunch where I tried to understand why he was so perturbed but he wouldn't talk to me....just kept rolling his eyes sorta. I told him my reasons for this decision as well as a few other things....basically told him that his level of motivation needs to increase because it's time! Neither of us were very happy when I went back to work & he went off to his afternoon school to talk to his favorite teacher about what a mean wife I am.

Well, I don't really know what my point is & I may get some criticism for being such a shrew but frankly, I don't care. He's the kinda guy that needs a push & I'm here to give it to him....or else eventually, he'll have to get to steppin. I don't have time in my life to coddle or baby a grown man.

SOOOOO, how is everyone else today??

Well that is what you are doing when you make the decisions for him. Did you just demand him to go to this new school or did you guys sit down and discuss it? Seems like you already made your mind up and his before he even had a chance. He has to have a voice in this too.

I agree with you regarding that isn't the best place for him to further his education and it is the best choice to go to the other one. However...just telling him this is what he is going to do now is not fair.

Edited January 21, 2010 by dillon

[sus 70]

Well that is what you are doing when you make the decisions for him. Did you just demand him to go to this new school or did you guys sit down and discuss it? Seems like you already made your mind up and his before he even had a chance. He has to have a voice in this too.

I agree with you regarding that isn't the best place for him to further his education and it is the best choice to go to the other one. However...just telling him this is what he is going to do now is not fair.

Agreed

[DedicatedWife 4]

then i hear this mess but imma go watch some spongebob and order some pizza before i end up in the crazy house

Its going to be okay MsSheka! Hugs!!!