I have some questions regarding getting married

[Jennifer1 0]

Initially, my Pakistani fiance and I were going to have him apply for a tourist visa to visit me here in the US. Then I learned here how difficult getting one would be.

So then we thought...okay I guess we could try for the K1 visa. Then we decided that we really want to plan a meeting (in a third country) to visit with each other again as it's already been 6 months. I think it would really be good for us and can help sustain the hope and faith that we'll get through this and be together in 'the end'. We'd like to meet at the beginning of march. Then, I began wondering if getting married during this meeting is possible. We are thinking about meeting in Casablanca, Morocco. I looked up info regarding getting married there, and it seems there could be delays in getting paperwork 'done' so it seems like a difficult task. And, my fiance seems to think we wouldn't be able to get married there anyway because neither of us is a Moroccan (sp) citizen. My fiance seems to think that me going to visit him in Pakistan is the best place to get married. We still want to meet in March, regardless if we get married then or not.

I'd like to know how/where everyone else got married. And, if anyone has any advice and information for us? Any insight would be greatly appreciated.

Thanks so much.

[carolynhotstuff 252]

I married my husband at his home in Pakistan. It was very easy to get married in Pakistan. Everything was in Urdu and I didn't understand a word but it was beautiful to me just the same. As soon as possible we had the marriage papers translated into English. Make sure you hire someone to take pictures no matter where you marry to show at the Embassy.

[whitel 0]

hi,

i am from india so my case was kinda similar to yours.my husband and i met in Bahrain and we were not sure if we should get married in Greece(which is valid and allowed) or should we apply for a K1 or should we go to india and get married.Firstly getting married in Greece sounded good but the paperwork takes too long,then we thought of getting married in India and the same story with paperwork.Tourist visa from india was out of question because its very difficult to get one and i didnt want any unnecessary trouble.So the best thing we did was we went to India and got engaged in the traditional way(u know engagement with family and relatives) and then filed for our K1 paperwork.he went back to the states and i stayed back in india.within six months our K1 paperwork was approved and i was in the U.S.and we got married in court here.

As for the K1 evidence u can always show ur phone records,emails and pictures of u guys getting engaged in pakistan with his family and friends.

if u plan to get married in pakistan or morocco the paper work is very lengthy for k3 and u dont want to stay away from ur hubby right after u get married,u know what i am saying.hope this helps...

[trinket 30]

There are a few things to look for before you get married in another country.

--Marrying in Morocco means, your husband's interview for k-3 will be done in Morocco, given you do apply for k-3

--You can apply for CR-1 in which interview would be in Pakistan.

--According to Pakistani culture and norms CO might have his/her suspicion about you NOT meeting with the family of your husband, unless they are also going to travel with him to Morocco. If not then be ready for added scrutiny.

I personally would suggest you going to Pakistan and meeting with his family, that will show family approval and also you will get a first hand idea about the life in Pakistan. You don't have to marry in Pakistan, you can do the engagement ceremony and file for k-1.

[sachinky 465]

As far as I understand, tourist visas to Pakistan for USCs are scarce because of the current climate.

Edited January 13, 2010 by sachinky

[Muhammad n Maryam 1]

She can get one.

[JenATL 2]

Hello

We are new on here so not sure if our opinion is right, but here are my (Jen's) thoughts...

- Yes, it is much too difficult for him to get a tourist visa. BUT... you CAN get a visa to visit him. I just visited my fiancee in Pakistan and had no problem getting approved for my visa twice. The first time I had to take another trip for work that interfered with my date of travel so I had the first visa (October '09) cancelled and received another one (December '10) with no problem at all. I spent 1 month (Dec. 14, 2009 - Jan. 12, 2010) with Atique in Pakistan.

- In my experience with the 1st visa received, they only allowed me 2 weeks stay in Pakistan. So when I had requested my 2nd visa, I asked for a full 30 days and they gave it to me.

- If you plan on living in the US after you get married, I would recommend holding out till your K1 visa is processed and then when he is able to come to the us once the K1 is approved, get married here. We decided this for us because we feel it will be much easier to prove the validity of the marriage and get it verified if it is done here in the US. Also, because it would not be fun to get married and then after getting married, having to part ways and stay in separate countries while waiting out the process.

- We plan to do a quick civil ceremony here in the US with a small party afterwards for friends and family here. Then shortly afterwards going to Pakistan to do a more official/traditional wedding with friends and family there.

- I would not focus so much on when to get married. That does not seem to be the priority in this process. The priority seems to be focusing on gathering all your documents and getting your paperwork started so you can file ASAP. The wedding will happen in time, but if you really want to be together, you should consider getting started on the mountains of paperwork you will need to process.

This is all the opinion of the conclusions we came to, but I hope some of it is helpful for you Good Luck!

[1orraine 0]

Jenn, I can't say that I have seen all of your posts but I have read a few. Getting a visa to Pakistan from US is very easy. Getting married in Pakistan would also be easy if that is what you choose to do. And since you have already met in person with your fiance' you could also start your paperwork for a K1 now if you are not going to choose to marry now. I have been engaged to my Pakistani finace' since July of 2008, and our K1 visa petition was approved in August of 2008, been in AP since Dec 2008. Each case is different, I know, but the likelihood that a Pakistani male will be in Administrative processing for a year or more is great. Don't waste time.. if you two are committed get your process started ASAP. K1 or K3, if he is a straight up guy there is nothing to fear... he will get here eventually.

[Jigi 0]

Hi,

I would say either get married in Pakistan or USA. The best thing to do is get married in the country , from where the person is going to immigrate to the USA.... Pak to USA visa is tough but if u can marry in Pakistan and then apply for CR/IR visa it would be the best. It will take more than a year but its good.

Just my personal thought

Jigi