taking people seriously

[Beauty for Ashes 257]

Anyone who takes kat seriously needs to get a clue. I missed gettingmy response in on the closed thread, but many of us who have been reading her racist rants and self-serving negativity on this board for years are willing to challenge her sad sack act.

Can I ask the admins to report Soffiya for dragging my name into thread after thread and bullying me? Soffiya, aka green eyed girl. I think what I have been through is alot more than sad sack and even though this thread didnt mention my name, you drag me into thread after thread singling me out and bullying me.

I ask you now to stop villifying me and bullying me.

What you are doing is a TOS violation and offensive.. You were the one that drug me across the other thread as well talking about how I was used for papers before. I am going to make a formal complaint to vj about you because I am sick and tired of not being able to post freely

[Sofiyya 1,687]

The truth hurts

[Beauty for Ashes 257]

am i the only one who has trouble taking people seriously, or holding their viewpoints as legitimate when they've been downright racist in the past, targetting certain nationalities repeatedly, and throwing in lots of islamophobic commentary from time to time, just for good measure?

should myself and others be forgiving and forgetting, and just take comments they make now at face value, even though there's never been an apology, or any expressed acknowledgment from these posters that some of the comments they've made were unacceptable, and regrettable? i don't care how long ago it happened, i'm still disgusted by it. and i know other people are too. to me anyways, it's like the 800 pound gorilla in the room, every time they post. to those who are still able to respond to these people without this coming up, how do you do it? how do you find any shred of credibility left from them?

Stop calling my daughters father a sperm donor and humiliating me every time I post and I will gladly apologise for anything I said that you find offensive..You are not easy to deal with either.. Please block me, then you wont see the gorilla and I can talk with people that I get along with ....You have said miserable things to me and about me and have never apologised not knowing the tears I have been through and the horror I have lived with...Calling my beautiful daughters father a sperm donor is a violation of TOS as well and you are not innocent as well. I will apologise but I ask you to stop the vitriol as well...You are doing alot that isnt right as well... I have alot of experience in immigration and have alot to offer as well.. You drag my child into conversations that have nothing to do with topic.. you are doing alot rotten to me as well

The truth hurts

You are over 20 years older than your husband and could be his mother....thats pretty weird...hows that for truth

[Darnell 8,478]

I dunno, anything in 'Off Topic' I rarely take seriously, but still try not to be TOO acerbic.

If yer getting slams on 'Off Topic' area, I wouldn't sweat it.

If it's NOT in 'Off Topic' - then there's something else going on, perhaps even a violation of the TOS by 'that poster'.

I can't say that 'to accept' what is said 'at you' is the right thing to do, but whatever is 'being said', just consider the source. I know if I find someone's comments to be untoward, here on VJ, I take a hard look at their profile, a hard look at their prior posts, before I launch any 'volley across the bow'. But that's just me - usually if I see a pile of bizarre comments from 'that person' - I'm not gonna give 'that person' any further fuel with which to make incendiary comments.

[Beauty for Ashes 257]

I dunno, anything in 'Off Topic' I rarely take seriously, but still try not to be TOO acerbic.

If yer getting slams on 'Off Topic' area, I wouldn't sweat it.

If it's NOT in 'Off Topic' - then there's something else going on, perhaps even a violation of the TOS by 'that poster'.

I can't say that 'to accept' what is said 'at you' is the right thing to do, but whatever is 'being said', just consider the source. I know if I find someone's comments to be untoward, here on VJ, I take a hard look at their profile, a hard look at their prior posts, before I launch any 'volley across the bow'. But that's just me - usually if I see a pile of bizarre comments from 'that person' - I'm not gonna give 'that person' any further fuel with which to make incendiary comments.

this is mena and no one was brought up by name...soffiya constantly drags me into threads and thats not fair at all

[~Jackie~ 30]

Dang Kat I was all along with ya til ya had to bring up age. Weird? Really? Well that sure would be a passive agressive way to skirt 'gross & abnormal'

carry on

J

[nurse1967 287]

Well the truth of the matter is that there are some people who post to ask honest questions or to assist others. Then there are those that post to plant doubt and division in the minds of new posters. I am not mentioning any names but the same people do seem to rear their ugly heads again and again offering nothing of substance. They are the Jerry Springers of VJ. It's sad that they really don't have anything else to do but hang around regional forums and get off of trying to trash a particular group of people. I would say if you have such animosity and distaste for a certain group of people then the last place you want to go hanging around is in post or forums that cater to that exact group. P.S. I still love my Egyptian husband

Edited January 8, 2010 by Betsy El Sum

[Sofiyya 1,687]

Stop calling my daughters father a sperm donor and humiliating me every time I post and I will gladly apologise for anything I said that you find offensive..You are not easy to deal with either.. Please block me, then you wont see the gorilla and I can talk with people that I get along with ....You have said miserable things to me and about me and have never apologised not knowing the tears I have been through and the horror I have lived with...Calling my beautiful daughters father a sperm donor is a violation of TOS as well and you are not innocent as well. I will apologise but I ask you to stop the vitriol as well...You are doing alot that isnt right as well... I have alot of experience in immigration and have alot to offer as well.. You drag my child into conversations that have nothing to do with topic.. you are doing alot rotten to me as well

You are over 20 years older than your husband and could be his mother....thats pretty weird...hows that for truth

I make better choices than you do. Stop whing already.

[Beauty for Ashes 257]

Dang Kat I was all along with ya til ya had to bring up age. Weird? Really? Well that sure would be a passive agressive way to skirt 'gross & abnormal'

carry on

J

that wasnt my thread.....that was before I got here....remember

I make better choices than you do. Stop whing already.

yes you do....you also have made mistakes as well and lost alot.. have some compassion

[Sofiyya 1,687]

Compassion has its limits. Mine's done. You need to stop taking every opportunity to turn other people's concerns into a chance to spew more venom about how untrustworthy Arab men are because of your issues. Enough already. Have some compassion for us who still have a man

[KittyPollitt 284]

[Beauty for Ashes 257]

kind of like a car accident.. fun to watch.. horrible to be in huh?

Compassion has its limits. Mine's done. You need to stop taking every opportunity to turn other people's concerns into a chance to spew more venom about how untrustworthy Arab men are because of your issues. Enough already. Have some compassion for us who still have a man

I didnt say a thing about issues on any of my recent posts.. you drug me into the last several posts by name...

You were bullied on here for years by several people.. you should know what it feels like green eyed girl...

[KittyPollitt 284]

kind of like a car accident.. fun to watch.. horrible to be in huh?

[Beauty for Ashes 257]

Well the truth of the matter is that there are some people who post to ask honest questions or to assist others. Then there are those that post to plant doubt and division in the minds of new posters. I am not mentioning any names but the same people do seem to rear their ugly heads again and again offering nothing of substance. They are the Jerry Springers of VJ. It's sad that they really don't have anything else to do but hang around regional forums and get off of trying to trash a particular group of people. I would say if you have such animosity and distaste for a certain group of people then the last place you want to go hanging around is in post or forums that cater to that exact group. P.S. I still love my Egyptian husband

Yes and if we dont like people we can block them....that way we dont have to read what they post...

And alot of people until they find themselves in the situation never believe it can happen to them. Paris Heart wasted 3 years of her life and tons of money and she never thought it would come to this..

I say just block people you dont want to read and dont read them. You dont have to chase them around the boards slandering them

Dang Kat I was all along with ya til ya had to bring up age. Weird? Really? Well that sure would be a passive agressive way to skirt 'gross & abnormal'

carry on

J

You have to tell people what the meaning of gross and abnormal is.. It was a very long thread by a former member saying that huge age differences were gross and abnormal... this is VJ like 3 years ago before I got here in the peasy days

Yes and if we dont like people we can block them....that way we dont have to read what they post...

And alot of people until they find themselves in the situation never believe it can happen to them. Paris Heart wasted 3 years of her life and tons of money and she never thought it would come to this..

I say just block people you dont want to read and dont read them. You dont have to chase them around the boards slandering them

You have to tell people what the meaning of gross and abnormal is.. It was a very long thread by a former member saying that huge age differences were gross and abnormal... this is VJ like 3 years ago before I got here in the peasy days

sorry paris heart...i just feel alone in this and noone screwed over has posted on this thread like it never happens.. love ya girl

[Ban Hammer 13,248]

further comments about age differences, a known hot topic in mena, will result in this thread being closed. stay on topic, stay off the personal attacks.