Visa denied

[Nwanyioma 11]

When people meet someone new there is a period of excitement. As you study each other more the excitement wears down and life sets in. Some people are very good at putting on a show that hides their real personality. Some people jump into a relationship crouch first and fail to see anything other than the sweet lies that caused them to make that leap. When you marry someone you have to leap with your head not your crouch. You need to know that person, their ways, their family. It is Nigerian custom to investigate a potential mates family before committing to marriage. They actually hire a private investigator and let them dig through records ( such as they are ) I doubt many of the woman that got "taken" by their spouse did much in the way of due diligence before their leap into marriage. Using the internet to find a life partner is kind of like wandering into a bar in Vegas with a blank marriage license in hand. Some are not going to look at the gamble they are taking and just let hormones take over . then look for someone to blame when they wake up with a stranger. Don't let them get you down. I had the same crowd all over me when I had a denial and one witch who was so proud of her perfect relationship is now among those sleeping alone. Hold your head up high and gather the information that helps you though this the rest is just trash talk.

Nigeraorbust,

Very inspirational.So true. I wish that others can relay to your post.

Nwanyioma

[idocare 3]

I didn't know that you only wanted to hear from those that post uplifting words for you. If that's what you wanted maybe you should of mentioned that. I can only post my experience and hope that you will constructively take from it what you can, or ignore it if you feel that you can't benefit from it.

Being that it's not your forum I can pretty much post here as long as I attend to the TOS, remember, your not the only one reading in here, I may of helped someone, my post aren't just for your eyes only it's an open forum so please proof read that.

Edited January 13, 2010 by idocare

[idocare 3]

When people meet someone new there is a period of excitement. As you study each other more the excitement wears down and life sets in. Some people are very good at putting on a show that hides their real personality. Some people jump into a relationship crouch first and fail to see anything other than the sweet lies that caused them to make that leap. When you marry someone you have to leap with your head not your crouch. You need to know that person, their ways, their family. It is Nigerian custom to investigate a potential mates family before committing to marriage. They actually hire a private investigator and let them dig through records ( such as they are ) I doubt many of the woman that got "taken" by their spouse did much in the way of due diligence before their leap into marriage. Using the internet to find a life partner is kind of like wandering into a bar in Vegas with a blank marriage license in hand. Some are not going to look at the gamble they are taking and just let hormones take over . then look for someone to blame when they wake up with a stranger. Don't let them get you down. I had the same crowd all over me when I had a denial and one witch who was so proud of her perfect relationship is now among those sleeping alone. Hold your head up high and gather the information that helps you though this the rest is just trash talk.

I know pretty much none of us Americans think to really investigate the men we meet. Who has the resourse's to really dig deep and really get to know them, that was a lesson learned for me. We go into it believeing in the man and his words that he so eloquently speaks to us. It's really hard to investigate a man that lives that far away, even when you go to visit that person will make sure your around people that will support him and not let you find out too many things. I think I've only heard of one person on here that said that she hired a private investigator to find out about her fiance. I agree with you concerning this internet meeting, dating stuff.

[Nwanyioma 11]

I didn't know that you only wanted to hear from those that post uplifting words for you. If that's what you wanted maybe you should of mentioned that. I can only post my experience and hope that you will constructively take from it what you can, or ignore it if you feel that you can't benefit from it.

Being that it's not your forum I can pretty much post here as long as I attend to the TOS, remember, your not the only one reading in here, I may of helped someone, my post aren't just for your eyes only it's an open forum so please proof read that.

Mature adults dont take things so personal. The OP fiancee k1 visa was denied. Your husband visa was not denied. Again what does your story have to do with her fiancee's denial? Absolutely nothing. You see the more you respond the more ridiculous you sound. No one is responding or agreeing with your post. Your postings are baseless and has no merit. Key word to the Subject: Visa Denied, not Visa scam. So if anyone needs more proof reading it should be you.

[Matana74 0]

I dated a man here in America for a very very long time…only to find out that he was a user. It is not about where the person is from; it really is about what you know about the person and how well you know that person. I am not sure if you wanted to insinuate that people who have foreign spouses/fiancées are/were lonely and likely a target to be scammed…I think that is too general a statement.

I have to agree with Momov31, at least let her have her moment to collect her thoughts…I think that it is important in supporting each other. It was not that what you said was not true but I think that it was just not the appropriate time…no one by any means is saying that you were wrong in the content of what you said it was just too soon. Let us show each other compassion. We cannot fit all people into the same shoes or walk of life.

~Matana74

[Nwanyioma 11]

I dated a man here in America for a very very long time…only to find out that he was a user. It is not about where the person is from; it really is about what you know about the person and how well you know that person. I am not sure if you wanted to insinuate that people who have foreign spouses/fiancées are/were lonely and likely a target to be scammed…I think that is too general a statement.

I have to agree with Momov31, at least let her have her moment to collect her thoughts…I think that it is important in supporting each other. It was not that what you said was not true but I think that it was just not the appropriate time…no one by any means is saying that you were wrong in the content of what you said it was just too soon. Let us show each other compassion. We cannot fit all people into the same shoes or walk of life.

~Matana74

[kayj 0]

I didn't know that you only wanted to hear from those that post uplifting words for you. If that's what you wanted maybe you should of mentioned that. I can only post my experience and hope that you will constructively take from it what you can, or ignore it if you feel that you can't benefit from it.

Being that it's not your forum I can pretty much post here as long as I attend to the TOS, remember, your not the only one reading in here, I may of helped someone, my post aren't just for your eyes only it's an open forum so please proof read that.

It is her thread. You can open up a new thread and post all your negative thoughts there.

Edited January 13, 2010 by kayj

[Nwanyioma 11]

It is her thread. You can open up a new thread and post all your negative thoughts there.

Enough said.

[forchika 4]

I just want to say Miriam....I am sorry about the visa denial, I was wanting to hear good news from you about the approval. I also would like to say " YOU HAVE THE RIGHT ATTITUDE". Remember anything worth having is worth fighting for. I am speaking about fighting for your man , if that is what you want!!!!! I wish you all the best!!!!

[Ban Hammer 13,474]

hmmm. am i gonna have to keep an eye on this thread to keep it on topic?

[idocare 3]

Mature adults dont take things so personal. The OP fiancee k1 visa was denied. Your husband visa was not denied. Again what does your story have to do with her fiancee's denial? Absolutely nothing. You see the more you respond the more ridiculous you sound. No one is responding or agreeing with your post. Your postings are baseless and has no merit. Key word to the Subject: Visa Denied, not Visa scam. So if anyone needs more proof reading it should be you.

Please reframe from calling me ridiculous!!! I can see u now sitting there in front of your pc thinking you have all the right answers . Your need for wanting to control others postings is way over the top. Your fiance isn't here yet, although your igbo; your American born,( from what I gather ) I don't wish any bad events on your journey; you really need to get off me because even you stand a chance at being used for a greencard. They have people who police these boards so you don't have too. Please relax and control what YOU type on here,worry less about me and what I choose too type. You can't control me!! Who knows one day you might need some advice from me.

I have nothing but love for you; can you learn how too respect others? I truly hope you can.

I wil no longer be answering your typings even if you continue to bash me; that wiil be your choice and that's the only thing that you have control of on here is what you type.

[NigeriaorBust 4,087]

Please reframe from calling me ridiculous!!! I can see u now sitting there in front of your pc thinking you have all the right answers . Your need for wanting to control others postings is way over the top. Your fiance isn't here yet, although your igbo; your American born,( from what I gather ) I don't wish any bad events on your journey; you really need to get off me because even you stand a chance at being used for a greencard. They have people who police these boards so you don't have too. Please relax and control what YOU type on here,worry less about me and what I choose too type. You can't control me!! Who knows one day you might need some advice from me.

I have nothing but love for you; can you learn how too respect others? I truly hope you can.

I wil no longer be answering your typings even if you continue to bash me; that wiil be your choice and that's the only thing that you have control of on here is what you type.

You have been asked to keep for rehashing your personal stupidity in this thread several times. The OP has heard you anti Nigerian ravings several times and they really are not meant to provide assistance to her plight , in fact it is down right cruel and inconsiderate of you to insinuate to her that her relationship was as stupidly planned as yours while she is suffering from one of the biggest disappointments in the immigration world. You lurk about looking for Nigerian denials to jump in their thread for your own personal agenda. Your story of how you aided a scammer to get a green card is not helpful to this couple figuring out what to do with their denial. Your justification that you are helping someone ... Make your own thread if you want to post your story. It is cruel to add to the tears of a couple that is distraught by the actions of Lagos.

[Ban Hammer 13,474]

mkay.....if what you want to post isn't helpful to the op from this point forward, it will be removed. this isn't a thread for bickering or a place for grinding one's ax, it's to provide advice and assistance to the op.

charles

vj moderation team

The paper says our relationship isnt real But if i havent learned anything from you guys i have learned to fight, so i have sent emails and called my senator and i will email everyday if have to. My boo said he had a chinese lady who asked him a lot of questions one being why we didnt marry when i came there? He told her my divorce was not final and i want my family to be at the wedding. She then asked him to tell her about my childhood which he could not because we have never discussed my childhood. My childhood is something i dont like talking about so i wouldnt have told him or many people at all. She asked him why he would want to marry someone my age (38-31) like there is a twenty year difference. He told her he loves me and my age doesnt have anything to do with it. My boo says while he was there she denied everyone that came before her. Im in a state of calm anger if anyone can understand that. Well just wanted to let you guys know what the outcome of today's interview was. The devil is a lie if he thinks its over. Be bless all.

quoted to remind everyone what the topic is about.

[momov31 2]

Ty everyone and mr charles. I am really looking to see what our next step in this journey will be. Nigeriaorbust ty. Can anyone tell me if i go there and marry him what would we file then and would we have to cancel the k1? Pls help i have contacted my senator and my congressman, im not sure what all i can do now since they r both telling me they r waiting for a response from the embassy. Im not crying but im really frustrated lol and need to go to the hairdresser because im looking real raggedy. Be blessed

[Nwanyioma 11]

Please reframe from calling me ridiculous!!! I can see u now sitting there in front of your pc thinking you have all the right answers . Your need for wanting to control others postings is way over the top. Your fiance isn't here yet, although your igbo; your American born,( from what I gather ) I don't wish any bad events on your journey; you really need to get off me because even you stand a chance at being used for a greencard. They have people who police these boards so you don't have too. Please relax and control what YOU type on here,worry less about me and what I choose too type. You can't control me!! Who knows one day you might need some advice from me.

I have nothing but love for you; can you learn how too respect others? I truly hope you can.

I wil no longer be answering your typings even if you continue to bash me; that wiil be your choice and that's the only thing that you have control of on here is what you type.

I dont think you have read what others have posted. And from what I see, your alone with all of your negative comments. As stated before, everyone on this website are grown adults entitled to their own opinions as well. If you taking my opinions personal, then simply dont reply. Simple its not by force.Im a Nigerian/American.I come from a culture you obviously know nothing about. Where my parents are from is where Im from. Your lack of maturity are shown on your post. No need to worry about me and my fiancee. I dont need your blessing. Please dont worry about me, because I can care less about you. You need to stop worrying about other being scammed because you got scammed. Im sick of bitter woman like you brainwashing women who are in love because of your misfortunes. Thats nonsense. Well judging from your posts, that leaves me to question: did he scam you or did chase him away? Hmm I wonder. Do me a favor. Kindly rent/buy a Diary of a Mad Black Woman. It seems you have alot of oppressed issues that you need to address. Advice from you? Will never be needed.