Urgent Help Reqd!!

[mrs. wife! 3]

yes, don't do anything in India!!!!! as soon as you place your foot into U.S talk to immigration officer. ASk to be seperated from your people and let them know that you have been held against your will and force to marry with guy.

There are more options for women in your case as far as visa status. I have to give U.S goverment a credit that if it comes to human rights they are pretty helpful. You will get temporary help. Being a Spanish ciitizen is quite good. Spain embassy will be able to help you and you can always live and work in EU.

Stay strong and wait 'till you get out from India. Obey, smile and accept everything and wait 'till you get U.S. Ask immigration officer very calmly that you need his help because of this forcful situation.

Don't plan to stay in this for GC because things may get ugly after a while...

Good luck!

Also as your marriage was not entered in good faith it will be impossible to prove that your marriage is bonafide. You can be deported from the US if they find it was an immigration fraud.

Don't stay in this marriage because of GC. You likely won't get it and will get in trouble for nothing.

[preet27 0]

Why i was hoping to stay still green card was coz if they don't perform that religious ceremony he won't be allowed to touch me call it hypo critic behaviour or anything else but if they succeed in marrying me to him then they will allow him to have sexual relations without my consent,

Now i was thinking of playing along till i get a green card if that ceremony is not held once i get the green card i will have my rights in US too, then i can divorce him and stay in US till the green card expires and my BF from India can also help me financially in the initial phase, the only doubt i have in this situation is that what if i divorce him right after getting my green card, will my green card be invalid after getting divorce or can i stay and work in USA for the conditional 2 years and then go back to my country after completing my studies?

Edited January 5, 2010 by preet27

[Bobby+Umit 161]

They have taken my phone, and i don't have money, how can i contact anyone, i have mailed the embassy in India but i am still waiting any kind of response and i fear they might even take my laptop from me if they came to know that i can use the internet with it

I feel like killing myself

Contact your boyfriend - surely he has email...

[Bobby+Umit 161]

Why i was hoping to stay still green card was coz if they don't perform that religious ceremony he won't be allowed to touch me call it hypo critic behaviour or anything else but if they succeed in marrying me to him then they will allow him to have sexual relations without my consent,

Now i was thinking of playing along till i get a green card if that ceremony is not held once i get the green card i will have my rights in US too, then i can divorce him and stay in US till the green card expires and my BF from India can also help me financially in the initial phase, the only doubt i have in this situation is that what if i divorce him right after getting my green card, will my green card be invalid after getting divorce or can i stay and work in USA for the conditional 2 years and then go back to my country after completing my studies?

Nope - not really.

You are entering under "false" pretenses. Fraud would stop your attempt.

Again - if you wish to stay in India with your BF - then stay in India, do not complicate it with trying to get a GC.

You are not a citizen of the US - go to your embassy. Have your BF take you.

[ValerieA 350]

Why i was hoping to stay still green card was coz if they don't perform that religious ceremony he won't be allowed to touch me call it hypo critic behaviour or anything else but if they succeed in marrying me to him then they will allow him to have sexual relations without my consent,

Now i was thinking of playing along till i get a green card if that ceremony is not held once i get the green card i will have my rights in US too, then i can divorce him and stay in US till the green card expires and my BF from India can also help me financially in the initial phase, the only doubt i have in this situation is that what if i divorce him right after getting my green card, will my green card be invalid after getting divorce or can i stay and work in USA for the conditional 2 years and then go back to my country after completing my studies?

You seem way more concerned about getting a green card than you do about escaping this ridiculous situation.

I call troll.

[preet27 0]

Contact your boyfriend - surely he has email...

Sir that is the biggest problem, my family is very influential here in India and if i try to do anything here in India then i am doomed, he also knows this, they won't let me leave India, they can even have me killed before i reach the embassy and if he gets involved they will ruin his future probably by charging kidnapping case against him.

[preet27 0]

No what i am more concerned in is getting myself out of this situation with at least a ray of future ahead of me, they have my educational qualification certificates, my passport, what will i do if I even get back to my country without any certificate to prove my education, how do u suppose i will fend for myself i'm just trying to find the best way out.

[Lona.C. 16]

like you said you didnt sign anything for immigration purposes

so my question to you is

since the marriage would be enterd in faulse pretent in a few month when its suposently be the religious marriage

and you will be in the states before that ceremony why would you even concider attending that ceremony

staying married getting ( as you said ) rapped , and going for the GC ,

applying for the GC takes steps medical exam , getting a police cert from places you resided and so on

it will require your signature on multiple docs ,

so why if you hate this man so much why would you subject your self to this just to get divorce ,

USCIS will ask for effidence of bonafide relation ship how will you prove this ,

point blank if that ceremony is in a few month you will NOT have a GC before that ,

GC require marriage cert

what it shows to me if you attend this ceremony knowing you will get divorced you are as guilty of visa fraud

as your family is in theft and ID fraud

I would report every scam artist from your fine family

including that so called husband cose sounds to me its all one big immigration fraud ring

[preet27 0]

like you said you didnt sign anything for immigration purposes

so my question to you is

since the marriage would be enterd in faulse pretent in a few month when its suposently be the religious marriage

and you will be in the states before that ceremony why would you even concider attending that ceremony

staying married getting ( as you said ) rapped , and going for the GC ,

applying for the GC takes steps medical exam , getting a police cert from places you resided and so on

it will require your signature on multiple docs ,

so why if you hate this man so much why would you subject your self to this just to get divorce ,

USCIS will ask for effidence of bonafide relation ship how will you prove this ,

point blank if that ceremony is in a few month you will NOT have a GC before that ,

GC require marriage cert

what it shows to me if you attend this ceremony knowing you will get divorced you are as guilty of visa fraud

as your family is in theft and ID fraud

I would report every scam artist from your fine family

including that so called husband cose sounds to me its all one big immigration fraud ring

I am not considering attending the ceremony, and i don't even have an iota of knowledge regarding GC procedures, i am just saying because he told me that I will get the green card in 3 months while i can study in new jersey and he is staying in new york, i don't know how is that supposed to happen, and i don't wanna stay with him and if that will be the case then i am already clear in my mind that i will go back to my country in that case i don't want a green card, i am trying to look out for all the possible solutions.

[justashooter 430]

For those who can't figure out what i am saying

i came to US in July of 2008 under a student visa and got admitted for a diploma course in hospitality management at community college New Jersey, i am living with my maternal aunt at her home, that's for the background.

I can't contact Indian authorities since that would rather cause more problems and these people might not let me leave India and reach US.

sounds like somebody's parents want to immigrate to USA.

sounds like somebody is an indian citizen as well as a spanish citizen.

sounds like somebody is discovering that in india the law can be meaningless.

sounds like a family we don't want in USA.

india is a big place. i have been there for long time.

no matter how good the family connections, they stop at your city limits.

get out of town and beg your way to spanish embassy.

[Lona.C. 16]

like you said don't even have an iota of knowledge regarding GC procedures,

its obvious neather does your so called husband cose if you never signed any immigration docs

or did any step to get the GC wich includes your signature and all other required steps and got no marriage cert ,

well on that part you can take a deep breat cose there wont be a GC in few month ,

i would take others advice go take the plane then report those scam artist at point of entry

also if you have a min try to step away from VJ and write a nice letter to the spanish embassy

notify them of your condition and ask for someone from the embassy to be there on your arrival so they can suport you at the US point of entry when all this stuff hit the fan ,

cose i bet there will be some arrests reguardless of your familys ties to hitmans in India once you step foot on US ground and have suport from the spanish embassy who know your story as you stated it here ,

your 5 bodyguards are worthless and will be in trouble

so my thinking is your studies should be your last concern at this moment ,

you have to focus on getting out of there and get them people reported , once you got a clear head on that you can focus back on your education

( as for not having your education certificats you can always require another copy at the board of education or where you got the certs from people do it all the time )

[Brother Hesekiel 2,236]

1) I'm not sure India allows dual citizenship.

2) Looks like the O.P. wouldn't mind a Green Card herself

3) Looks more like a strange relationship including financial dependence between the O.P. and her parents

I assume you are of Indian background. How did you become a citizen of Spain?

[trinket 30]

Yes these kidnapping and forceful marriages happen all the time in India. Some points

--You said Spanish Embassy is 10 hours drive from where you live, so I would assume you are living in North India, that is either Punjab or near by. Both Punjab and Haryana states have passed a new law a couple of years ago, where it is meant for NRIs and this law allow NRIs to marry quickly, so 30 day wait period doesn't matter if you are in any of these states.

--As others have attested only Spanish Embassy can help you as you are its citizen. I do assume that you do belong to Indian descent, if so as any other Indian girl you might have some jewelery on you, sell that if you can and get the money for train fare and run to Spanish Embassy.

--If not that, when you do leave for US, that is in another couple of weeks, shout at the airport, tell the authorities your story, get refuge at any women shelter till the time divorce hasn't been proceeded.

Others might think you are a troll or this is a bizarre case, but I can understand that this is a true case, things like these happen all the time. Parents want their Indian kids to be following "Indian tradition" and make sure they marry anther Indian and not someone from another race.

You might be in danger even when you come over to US, as you have said your parents got links, if you have to leave New Jersey and start your life somewhere else, do it. If you have to leave school for a bit and start over again, do it. That is better to do than living under threat.

People might think I am exaggerating but other Indians can attest to it, kids do get killed if they dishonor the family, and I don't wish another young kid losing their life because they didn't want to be married to someone they love. I wish you best and hope you can come out of this situation

Edited January 5, 2010 by trinket

[trinket 30]

Also do you have OCI (Overseas Citizenship of India) or PIO (Person of Indian origin), try contacting Police authority or district judge with that, these days every district has their email set up. If you are scared that your parents have links with police authorities, try for women right NGO in your area.

If you really want to get free and feel that your parents got links in all these above mentioned places, try to email media outlets, they can help, once the story comes to any news channel, your parents and all their links will be forced to give you a free way. Media outlets need sensational story and you need your freedom, use it if you wish for. If you want I can provide you some of the email addresses of those.

Edited January 5, 2010 by trinket

[preet27 0]

Okay but what about the paper i signed on the engagement day, that b@st@rd called me up in the morning next day to tell me just this that we are married now and you will get a green card within 3 months, after that i haven't signed any papers yet, he has also planned a family vacation tomorrow maybe to gather evidence or god knows what, i am feeling scared to death, what kind of a mess have I fallen into.