marriages with big age diffference, something to think about

[aishahossam 1]

hello everyone, i want to say first off im not here to badger anyone with my view points and thoughts, i just thought it might be somethings to think about when marrying someone with an age difference,

ill tell you about me, my name is aishah and my husband is from egypt, we have a wonderful relationship but it took time to develope this,me and him do have a good ammount of age difference and im not saying these relationships cant work , im saying these relationships sometimes need alot more working on that the ones closer in age and ill tell you why i think this way, and again not trying to anger anyone,

i have had 2 divorces in my life, my husband has none,hes only been married to me, and im the only woman hes kissed or had a relationship with, ive been down the road of relationships, loves and breakups,i know why they didnt work, i know the struggles they went through, i knowthe mistakes i made and they made also and i have learned how to not repeat them again,when anyone has went through all this they have more knowledge in my opinion on things that can hurt or even destroy a relationship,

when a younger man marrys a older woman thats been divorced, shes had alot of experiance in the good and bad things that happen in a relationship, and men in general like to be head of the family , like the one whos got the experiance and no how of a relationship, i know what im trying to say but i cant find the words sorry . and when a man is married to a woman whos had alot of experiance at problems in a relationship , then sometimes the man can feel threatened by this,im not saying its right or in all relationships, im just giving something to think about,

with a new marriage we think in this new marriage as the wow, im so in love and like romeo and juliet , we all have been there in our lifes, new love and the heart beating a mile a minute hehe, but with the new marriage things can happen and if we dont have experiance in how to handle them can cause many problems,when a younger man is married to an older woman hes competeing with her past, her experiance in relationship, her ex husband whos the father of her children, hes competeing with all thuings and on top of that when he comes to a foreign country he is also dealing with the move, missing his family, the cultureal differences, all this can be extreemely difficult and this is why i believe that when a older woman marrys a younger man they should take a serious look at what thier faceing in the challenges that ly ahead,ive seen many of these relationships work and ive seen them fail like in any relationships, but i believe the key is very close communication and seriously addressing these issues,

now my thoughts on older men marrying younger women,men to women in general, and not to all women look to thier man for guideance, for emotional support, like if theres a problem they look to them for help,i know that in many countrys the women feel that men are ahead of them in the hosuehold and in decision making, not saying that her opinion dont count , but sayuing in general.so if the man is older than her this is usually acceptable,cause he has knowledge and experiance and it usually is easier for a woman to accept the mans experiance than for a man to believe the woman knows more about things than him,

ive got so many thoughts all stuck in my head and hard to get them out to where all can understand,

the only think im saying is when a couple decides to get marrried or engaged they must get pass of the romeo and juliet feeling and look at alll things in thier life and make sureeeeeee they can handle this,

if i have offended anyone i do so apologize, i dont mean to at all. like i said i am in a relationship with a big age difference and it took me and hossam a good time befor we were able to really make sure that we can handle these challenges,when your in thier country,,, its different, your with thier family, thier friends, thier ways, when they come here , thier around your friends, your family,your culture, the ex comes to get the kids for the weekend, and having to hear from family how when you married to whoever,, ya did this and that, this can be hard for them to hear,these i know are challenges that we even face if we marry someone from our own country, but, for someone whos not been around many divorced couples , it can be hard,

sorry again for my long letter of thought, and please try to to comment rudely torward me cause im not here badgering anyone , its just a thought i had today,

may all of us be reunited with out loves! and may this visa journey end in best results soon for each and everyone of us

[NickD 203]

Well perhaps our age difference is the same between my step daughter and I that I also got in the deal. But our kissing is limited to a peck on the cheek now and then.

Am told we have a generation gap and that I am old fashion in my ways and thinking. Kind of argue that point. We had drugs when I was a kid and had to stay far away from them, listened to music our parents didn't either approve of or liked, but none of our music had the F word for every other word in it. We had to follow the rules of the road or would have lost our insurance if not our drivers' license as well. High school always has been an unreal place where a handful of kids take over the place, acne faces, hornier than hell, disruptive, and disobedient, I don't see where that has changed either. Still have to have good grades to go to college unless you want to work at Macs the rest of your life. We had Macs too.

Our schools were drug, smoke, and alcohol free, but no signs to indicate that they are drug and smoke free, but still a lot of alcohol floating around. We did have tats, but wasn't popular to hand a bunch of metal in your face as it is today. So what's all this ####### about new problems and this so-called generation gap #######? The cute girls in high school at 14 turned out to be pretty ugly at 17, the good looking ones at 17 turned out to be fat and ugly at 24, that hasn't changed either. The big tough bullies that grew quicker turned out to be whims at a later age. Some old ####### back then as it is today and kids are still too damn young to get serious for life.

Read your thoughts, but wonder if you also have a generation gap, do you have to get on him to keep your room clean? Does he have a curfew? Do you ground him if he is naughty? Just wondered.

[Nagishkaw 510]

and please try to to comment rudely torward me

0k. That post is the longest sentence I've ever read.

[NickD 203]

0k. That post is the longest sentence I've ever read.

Could run it through my grammar, syntax, and spelling checker, but may take awhile, only have a 3 GHz box.

[del-11-03-2013 1]

hello everyone, i want to say first off im not here to badger anyone with my view points and thoughts, i just thought it might be somethings to think about when marrying someone with an age difference,

ill tell you about me, my name is aishah and my husband is from egypt, we have a wonderful relationship but it took time to develope this,me and him do have a good ammount of age difference and im not saying these relationships cant work , im saying these relationships sometimes need alot more working on that the ones closer in age and ill tell you why i think this way, and again not trying to anger anyone,

i have had 2 divorces in my life, my husband has none,hes only been married to me, and im the only woman hes kissed or had a relationship with, ive been down the road of relationships, loves and breakups,i know why they didnt work, i know the struggles they went through, i knowthe mistakes i made and they made also and i have learned how to not repeat them again,when anyone has went through all this they have more knowledge in my opinion on things that can hurt or even destroy a relationship,

when a younger man marrys a older woman thats been divorced, shes had alot of experiance in the good and bad things that happen in a relationship, and men in general like to be head of the family , like the one whos got the experiance and no how of a relationship, i know what im trying to say but i cant find the words sorry . and when a man is married to a woman whos had alot of experiance at problems in a relationship , then sometimes the man can feel threatened by this,im not saying its right or in all relationships, im just giving something to think about,

with a new marriage we think in this new marriage as the wow, im so in love and like romeo and juliet , we all have been there in our lifes, new love and the heart beating a mile a minute hehe, but with the new marriage things can happen and if we dont have experiance in how to handle them can cause many problems,when a younger man is married to an older woman hes competeing with her past, her experiance in relationship, her ex husband whos the father of her children, hes competeing with all thuings and on top of that when he comes to a foreign country he is also dealing with the move, missing his family, the cultureal differences, all this can be extreemely difficult and this is why i believe that when a older woman marrys a younger man they should take a serious look at what thier faceing in the challenges that ly ahead,ive seen many of these relationships work and ive seen them fail like in any relationships, but i believe the key is very close communication and seriously addressing these issues,

now my thoughts on older men marrying younger women,men to women in general, and not to all women look to thier man for guideance, for emotional support, like if theres a problem they look to them for help,i know that in many countrys the women feel that men are ahead of them in the hosuehold and in decision making, not saying that her opinion dont count , but sayuing in general.so if the man is older than her this is usually acceptable,cause he has knowledge and experiance and it usually is easier for a woman to accept the mans experiance than for a man to believe the woman knows more about things than him,

ive got so many thoughts all stuck in my head and hard to get them out to where all can understand,

the only think im saying is when a couple decides to get marrried or engaged they must get pass of the romeo and juliet feeling and look at alll things in thier life and make sureeeeeee they can handle this,

if i have offended anyone i do so apologize, i dont mean to at all. like i said i am in a relationship with a big age difference and it took me and hossam a good time befor we were able to really make sure that we can handle these challenges,when your in thier country,,, its different, your with thier family, thier friends, thier ways, when they come here , thier around your friends, your family,your culture, the ex comes to get the kids for the weekend, and having to hear from family how when you married to whoever,, ya did this and that, this can be hard for them to hear,these i know are challenges that we even face if we marry someone from our own country, but, for someone whos not been around many divorced couples , it can be hard,

sorry again for my long letter of thought, and please try to to comment rudely torward me cause im not here badgering anyone , its just a thought i had today,

may all of us be reunited with out loves! and may this visa journey end in best results soon for each and everyone of us

My fiance and I had very big age gap. When Paul first wanted to be my boyfriend, I wasn't really suprise because we had amazing time together and he is fun to be with. Paul even says that he wouldn't mind to convert to muslim to be with a girl like me when we was just a normal friend. I love a guy who's adventure. All my exes is like a baby. They are not into backpackers. I am young, I love exploring new country, learn new culture & I love ruins. Paul & I have the same interest. I didn't agree immediately to become his girlfriend because I was afraid people will look down on me. After loads of thinking, I was like....What the heck? He is a nice guy and I shouldn't bother what people think. When my exes found out his age, they was like "Can't u find someone younger?", "You are crazy honey. You are beautiful. Why him?". Some even says mean things to me. Of course I feel a bit upset but I also aware they are worried about me. I tried to think positive.

Since we came from different generation, there's a thing we have to compromise like music. He's not really "in love" with my music and I also not "in love" with his music but we enjoy listening to each other music. Paul is very laid back and I'm a girl who is cheerful all the time. I'm a girl who loves to take risk while Paul is always being realistic. Travelling actually a good test for us. There was a time we missed our bus in Sihanoukville, Cambodia (From Sihanoukville to Phnom Penh takes 4-5 hours to reach) and we have a flight to catch the next few hours in Phnom Penh, Cambodia. Instead of panic or blaming each other, we try to solve the problem by finding the next express bus. We are lucky because we manage to reach the airport 3 hours before the checking time. There's a lot thing happened actually like the credit card suddenly can't be use, the flight ticket finish (we decided to stay a bit longer and that's why we have to buy new return ticket), lost + the traffic is so bad and we can hardly cross the road and etc. We learned a lot from each other by travelling. It also makes our relationship become stronger.

Paul is lucky because my parents can speak english very well. So, we don't have language problem. After my visa has been approved, I got cold feet. Paul tried his best to convince me that he'll look after me. I have to admit that I was so tense until I almost ready to say goodbye to our relationship. Paul kept telling me that Kuala Lumpur is like San Francisco and I won't miss home so much. I feel very lucky to have him because he is very patient and always put up with me. I guess that's the advantage of dating older guy. They are very patient

[egypt lover 0]

i have age diffrent between me and my wife and we love each other so much its not condetion to be at the same age to be in deep relationship we r doing so good and every day our love grow

[Sofiyya 1,687]

I don't get it.

[My Name Is Nobody 3]

when his pecker quits working you might think twice about a large age gap

[SuperDuper! 230]

when his pecker quits working you might think twice about a large age gap

NewsFlash: They have meds for this condition, sometimes known as ED. The 70 year old guy drops a pill, and has the vigor and stamina of a 20 year old. He can even hang his hat on that one. So what will you argue now?

[My Name Is Nobody 3]

Marketing BS

[Amit-N-Melody 11]

hes only been married to me, and im the only woman hes kissed or had a relationship with

its not the age gap that bothers me about this topic.... its the lack of experience in the bedroom

hehehehehehe

[MrsCat 6]

The only times I notice our age-gap is when Chris refers to music from his hay-day as Poison and Metalica, and I respond with Who?

Could run it through my grammar, syntax, and spelling checker, but may take awhile, only have a 3 GHz box.

[SuperDuper! 230]

Marketing BS

Either you are A ) trolling, or B ) a woman who has never seen what the ####### drugs can do (make your lips bleed)!

Edited January 30, 2010 by Hopp

[Ban Hammer 13,429]

when his pecker quits working you might think twice about a large age gap

like my dad said - once you get too old to cut the mustard, you can always lick the bowl.

[Calypso 464]

Problems in marriages are not caused by age difference but by couples themselves.

My husband is 15 years my senior and he's very cool. We learn a lot from each other each passing day and we both have the eagerness to contribute something to our marriage.

On music... It's so much fun to see his reaction when I sing "Genie In a Bottle"

(if you wanna be with me

baby there's a price to pay

I'm a genie in a bottle

you gotta rub me the right way) or some songs of the Pussycat Dolls (don't cha wish your girlfriend was hot like me) but when it's his turn to play his CDs inside the car, I always request him to stop playing anything.

Your topic is a little bit similar to this thread.

Hakuna matata.

God bless us constantly.

FAE