Just wondering....

[venusfire503 54]

I love this thread - I think it gives hope to anyone who has heard one too many "horror stories"!

Not sure if this is a good idea or not, but does anyone want to add their "red flags" or anything like that? For instance, it seemed NO ONE thought things would last for us. The reasons? 11 year age difference (I'm older), different religions, his poor English (and my lack of French and Arabic) when we first started talking, meeting on the internet, the fact that I was in the middle of a divorce when we met online, the fact that he never really was in a relationship before and I "came with" three children, the fact that we only knew each other a very short time before I visited him, short time before we started talking about marriage, short time before we actually got married (especially since it was only a few months after my divorce was finalized)... Turns out those "problems" really didn't matter much with our relationship. We match with all the other things - like how we feel about things, and what's really important to us.

We've been married almost three years now, and in that time, we've really learned how to get along. There were some adjustments, of course, but we've had a much better adjustment than I did with my first husband (he and I were only a year apart, same country, same state, same religion, both single when we met, same language, we met in person and knew each other 4 years before we got married... ) during our 15 years of marriage.

So, go figure!

venusfire

[Meriem_DZ 37]

Hachemi and I have been married for a very happy 3 years and 4 months.

Meriem

[Henna Rose 0]

It's so heart warming to read all of these great love stories ! I think mine was the shortest marriage in MENA at 5 weeks Guess I am just feeling a bit lonely this New Year's Eve with noone to kiss. God willing love will find me again ~ Your stories are inspiring

[venusfire503 54]

It's so heart warming to read all of these great love stories ! I think mine was the shortest marriage in MENA at 5 weeks Guess I am just feeling a bit lonely this New Year's Eve with noone to kiss. God willing love will find me again ~ Your stories are inspiring

venusfire

[Olive♥ 2]

I love this thread - I think it gives hope to anyone who has heard one too many "horror stories"!

Not sure if this is a good idea or not, but does anyone want to add their "red flags" or anything like that? For instance, it seemed NO ONE thought things would last for us. The reasons? 11 year age difference (I'm older), different religions, his poor English (and my lack of French and Arabic) when we first started talking, meeting on the internet, the fact that I was in the middle of a divorce when we met online, the fact that he never really was in a relationship before and I "came with" three children, the fact that we only knew each other a very short time before I visited him, short time before we started talking about marriage, short time before we actually got married (especially since it was only a few months after my divorce was finalized)... Turns out those "problems" really didn't matter much with our relationship. We match with all the other things - like how we feel about things, and what's really important to us.

We've been married almost three years now, and in that time, we've really learned how to get along. There were some adjustments, of course, but we've had a much better adjustment than I did with my first husband (he and I were only a year apart, same country, same state, same religion, both single when we met, same language, we met in person and knew each other 4 years before we got married... ) during our 15 years of marriage.

So, go figure!

venusfire

Venus fire this must be common because your situation is almost exactly the same as me & my husband accept there are no kids (accept now I may be guardian of my 9 mo old grandson). We have been married 2 1/4 years.

[nunyab 0]

mashallah... we've been married 1 yr 7 months and change lol... no where near the longest or the most recent.

[b_assif 1]

I love this thread - I think it gives hope to anyone who has heard one too many "horror stories"!

Not sure if this is a good idea or not, but does anyone want to add their "red flags" or anything like that? For instance, it seemed NO ONE thought things would last for us. The reasons? 11 year age difference (I'm older), different religions, his poor English (and my lack of French and Arabic) when we first started talking, meeting on the internet, the fact that I was in the middle of a divorce when we met online, the fact that he never really was in a relationship before and I "came with" three children, the fact that we only knew each other a very short time before I visited him, short time before we started talking about marriage, short time before we actually got married (especially since it was only a few months after my divorce was finalized)... Turns out those "problems" really didn't matter much with our relationship. We match with all the other things - like how we feel about things, and what's really important to us.

We've been married almost three years now, and in that time, we've really learned how to get along. There were some adjustments, of course, but we've had a much better adjustment than I did with my first husband (he and I were only a year apart, same country, same state, same religion, both single when we met, same language, we met in person and knew each other 4 years before we got married... ) during our 15 years of marriage.

So, go figure!

venusfire

your timeline is similar to mine. we met march of 06 and talked online, Im 12 yrs older then him divorced 2 times, 4 kids. Went over june of 07 stayed for 3 1/12 months and married him on that trip. This is the most loving and best relationship I have ever had. Ive tried being married to someone from this country and older( that didnt work) tried on here from El Salvador and a little bit younger (that didnt work) I had to leave the country and bring one home to get it right. We had our second anniversary in Sept.

[amal 4]

5 years this past December 4th. Feels like a very long time (most days).

[True Love at Last 15]

4 years

[sara535 15]

5 years and 2 months - cant say its been easy but its better than ever for us these days

[Mommy2ZaidnSalma 11]

Same here Sara, by no means easy. but after a 5 year struggle with finances, cultural differences, adapting to life with a baby, etc. We have finally found a common ground and things are good

[Muh and me 18]

2 years 2.5 months

[Staashi 371]

It's so heart warming to read all of these great love stories ! I think mine was the shortest marriage in MENA at 5 weeks Guess I am just feeling a bit lonely this New Year's Eve with noone to kiss. God willing love will find me again ~ Your stories are inspiring

Henna - there was a lot of love in those 5 weeks. God willing, you will find love again - I hope you find someone who you will grow old with, but still keeps you young at heart.

Bless you, sister.

, Staashi

Edited January 11, 2010 by Staashi

[Sandrila 1]

3 years February 2, 2010

[*JG* 2]

Awwwwww...you guys made me smile today.

I wish only happiness for all of you!