how i forgive my ex-wife

[SuperDuper! 230]

Does not really matter whether you forgive her or not. Best thing is for you to move on, stop obsessing about her and start over.

But in order to heal and move on, the OP must forgive his wife, lest he harbor resentment forever....

[john & jean 37]

MOVE UP, MOVE ON, AND FORGIVE, BUT DO NOT FORGET!!!

[Old Dominion 26]

Is there a trusted "someone" like a pastor with whom you could share your emotions? The only way she can continue to hurt you emotionally is if you continue to react the same way. Meanwhile, get legal advice on those support payments and visitation, and follow it.

[ziia 9]

It can be a real struggle if you missed out on the bonding at an early age. With my oldest I used to sit, hold her on my lap and stare into her eyes for hours. Unfortunately with the young one when I tried that my ex's daughter would come and rip her out of my arms and then I would get yelled at for not being an adult and letting the brat, stinking daugher hold her sister. Ugh! I have a pretty good relationship with the younger one now but it still isn't the same as with the older one because of that bonding that occurred at a young age.

I hope to God your name is not Leggs! You used to hold your daughter on your lap and stare into her eyes for hours to create a "bond"? No wonder you've been married 4 times. I wonder why...I'm starting to think the other poster I was debating things with might be right in what she was saying. What you wrote here is very alarming to me and should be to anyone who reads your posts.

To the OP, you did the best you could, you have to focus on yourself and the future. Good luck and know there are good people out there. You will soon find yours.

Edited December 26, 2009 by ziia

[Yahya54 4]

people makes mistakes and they dont relize tell they pay for it .and some time its cost so much but after all you did learn a good lesson

[baron555 934]

Does not really matter whether you forgive her or not. Best thing is for you to move on, stop obsessing about her and start over.

This is right on. Stop obsessing over her and get on with your life. Are you a man or a mouse?

Obviously in raising children, they need a man and father who is strong. Are you?

[Old Dominion 26]

"With my oldest I used to sit, hold her on my lap and stare into her eyes for hours."

Something in this sentence doesn't sound right to me...even sounds a bit sick. Just my reaction to what you say. Have you considered sharing this with a counselor or therapist?