I need gimygirl's aggression

[noviademexicano 0]

I'm sure the kids are fine, their grandma is a kind lady. She was not even totally aware of what was going on because her daughter did not want her butting in her life. Which was exactly what she needed.

Anyways, when a situation arises, I think you have to ask yourself, "Are this kids in immediate danger". If they are then yes, report it. If they are not in any danger and mom is upset with them, then maybe mom is tired and has had a long day. I would say something like "You must feel blessed having 2 beautiful and well behaved children", then maybe she would stop and think a little bit.

I'm a mom of five; 3 teenagers, 1 preteen and a preschooler. It takes a lot of patience and sometimes you need to reflect, parents do make mistakes, as long as they are not big ones it's okay. My children know they are loved, even if there are days I may not be so pleasant with them (but for good reason).

[incanada1234 0]

I would say something like "You must feel blessed having 2 beautiful and well behaved children",

Oh I like that, I wish I would have said it.

[Hilarious Clinton 452]

People need to stay the #### out of other people's business.

They usually do..

but we'll talk endlessly about it here.

[incanada1234 0]

Exactly...I think in this instance, and in Gimygirl's instance, there was something about the situation that wasn't right...that made you feel weird.....to where you knew what was going on was not ok. If there's something going on that makes you (and probably others) so uncomfortable, it's probably not within the realm of normal parenting. There's a line that's crossed when people will start to take notice, and you don't have those feelings for nothing.

Yes. I just wish that children could defend themselves.

[I'm Gone 60]

Exactly...I think in this instance, and in Gimygirl's instance, there was something about the situation that wasn't right...that made you feel weird.....to where you knew what was going on was not ok. If there's something going on that makes you (and probably others) so uncomfortable, it's probably not within the realm of normal parenting. There's a line that's crossed when people will start to take notice, and you don't have those feelings for nothing.

Yes. I just wish that children could defend themselves.

Bill Cosby: My father established our relationship when I was seven years old. He looked at me and said, "You know, I brought you in this world, and I can take you out. And it don't make no difference to me, I'll make another one look just like you."

Bill Cosby: Parents aren't interested in justice - they want QUIET!

Bill Cosby: My mother said to me: "When your father gets home, he's going to shoot you in the face with a bazooka! And I'm not going to stop him this time! He's always wanted to kill you! When you were born, he said, "Kill it!"

[ursy 0]

I'm sure the kids are fine, their grandma is a kind lady. She was not even totally aware of what was going on because her daughter did not want her butting in her life. Which was exactly what she needed.

Anyways, when a situation arises, I think you have to ask yourself, "Are this kids in immediate danger". If they are then yes, report it. If they are not in any danger and mom is upset with them, then maybe mom is tired and has had a long day. I would say something like "You must feel blessed having 2 beautiful and well behaved children", then maybe she would stop and think a little bit.

I'm a mom of five; 3 teenagers, 1 preteen and a preschooler. It takes a lot of patience and sometimes you need to reflect, parents do make mistakes, as long as they are not big ones it's okay. My children know they are loved, even if there are days I may not be so pleasant with them (but for good reason).

Yzuniga,

I don't have any kids yet butI can tell you are a devoted mature mother. I really like your response. I respect all mothers and I know it is not an easy job every day. Although there are a some ungrateful people that should not be given the honor of keeping their children( or an animal for that matter). Most people just have bad days sometimes and reading your reply made me smile and I could really see and feel "Your mother's heart".

[almaty 19]

Exactly...I think in this instance, and in Gimygirl's instance, there was something about the situation that wasn't right...that made you feel weird.....to where you knew what was going on was not ok. If there's something going on that makes you (and probably others) so uncomfortable, it's probably not within the realm of normal parenting. There's a line that's crossed when people will start to take notice, and you don't have those feelings for nothing.

Yes. I just wish that children could defend themselves.

Bill Cosby: My father established our relationship when I was seven years old. He looked at me and said, "You know, I brought you in this world, and I can take you out. And it don't make no difference to me, I'll make another one look just like you."

Bill Cosby: Parents aren't interested in justice - they want QUIET!

Bill Cosby: My mother said to me: "When your father gets home, he's going to shoot you in the face with a bazooka! And I'm not going to stop him this time! He's always wanted to kill you! When you were born, he said, "Kill it!"

always liked bill

[jen&darcy 0]

People need to stay the #### out of other people's business.

I agree ito an extent, but there are certain lines that are crossed and at that point it would be irresponsible not to get involved.

Agree

[I'm Gone 60]

People need to stay the #### out of other people's business.

I agree ito an extent, but there are certain lines that are crossed and at that point it would be irresponsible not to get involved.

Agree

Yeah, but what gives you the power to be judge and jury to decide that the line has been crossed or what is the line. Mother yanking a kid's arm to keep them from falling asleep is not like being poked with an electric cattle prod or beat with a blackjack.

[chri'stina 190]

People need to stay the #### out of other people's business.

I agree ito an extent, but there are certain lines that are crossed and at that point it would be irresponsible not to get involved.

Agree

Yeah, but what gives you the power to be judge and jury to decide that the line has been crossed or what is the line. Mother yanking a kid's arm to keep them from falling asleep is not like being poked with an electric cattle prod or beat with a blackjack.

I guess it matters what crosses the line in your mind...maybe there are even some who wouldn't even think poking a child with an electric cattle prod is that bad. Does that mean that you personally shouldn't do something about it? Or should you do something when the line has been crossed in your own opinion, which is usually put along with common sense and a sense of what is acceptable human behavior or not, in your own mind.

[sarah and hicham 3]

I don't think we need more people in this world going around telling everyone how they should be parenting their children. I know that when I have kids the last thing I want is for strangers to tell me they didn't like somethig I did. What is seen as violent to some people is seen as normal to others.

And if this really was a problem then child services should get involved.

[chri'stina 190]

Well in my opinion, if I was truly mistreating a child I would hope someone did something about it. But most people want to turn a blind eye. At the same time, mistreating is defined differently by people. I don't think spanking kids is bad, I was spanked and am thankful for it. But I have lines of what is acceptable treatment of a child, in my mind.

[incanada1234 0]

Here's my next question: what's more important - offending a parent by telling them what they're doing is despicable or giving a child some self worth by telling them what their parent is doing is despicable?

[ursy 0]

Here's my next question: what's more important - offending a parent by telling them what they're doing is despicable or giving a child some self worth by telling them what their parent is doing is despicable?

That does not give a child self worth. Come on get real !!!!!

[Traviesa 0]

Here's my next question: what's more important - offending a parent by telling them what they're doing is despicable or giving a child some self worth by telling them what their parent is doing is despicable?

Definitely helping out the child. The child has a whole future life ahead of them, which we as adults are responsible to prepare them for. I, for one, am not interested in seeing things go to heck in a handcart with the next generation. I think it's so telling how 1 in every (shocking, but can't remember) number of Americans have been in jail. And I can tell you from my own personal experience, having grown up in a household with alcoholism and a dad with anger issues, I struggle as an adult with anger, suffer from chronic depression, and am extremely susceptible to addictions. Bad parenting can and DOES mess up kids.